I was happy when we became engaged a few months ago, though we have been through many ups and downs in our relationship. I have experimented with women before and during our relationship a few times but nothing serious. He approved of me experiementing at the time because we are young. Now that we are going to be married, he wants us to be monogamous, and so do I.
The problem is that I met this woman (a lesbian) at work about a month ago, and I am very infactuated with her. We have become fast friends and have admitted that we are both attracted to eachother, but we are both taken so we are not going to act on it.
I realize that I don't really know her well, and it's probably just a "crush" but it's really bothering me that I have feelings for someone besides my fiance. Is this normal? Am I just afraid of committing? Should I just back off from our friendship? Help! I am too scared to admit this to any other friends or my family.
2007-12-15 13:12:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have discussed it with my fiance because I am always honest with him. He isn't too happy about it but is not the type of person to tell me what to do.
2007-12-15 13:24:58 · update #1
You may or may not be a lesbian, but the point is you need to tell your fiancee. He needs to know and you need to look inside yourself and figure things out. It would be unfair to get married knowing you have conflicting feelings. Maybe you shouldn't be engaged if you dont even feel confortable talking to him about issues
2007-12-15 13:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by esro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u need to put your life in a little bit of time out and see what u really want in your life b4 hurt someone u care about. And talk to your man about it i cant believe he would not budge on this kind of thing. Maybe try to include him into your umm activities. But talkin to him is probaly the most importain thing u can do for your relationship.
2007-12-15 21:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by bosco r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My anwser: Therapy
Or tell ur fionce that your bi (cause u love him and that girl) Men or odly attracted to lesbians (the image to 2 naked girls..yep that image just pop intomy head)
2007-12-15 21:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bisexualtiy can be very confusing ( i'm guessing lol).
Tell your boyfreind if it gets worse, you owe it to him. Heck maybe have a threesome? Win for everybody.
2007-12-15 21:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first read the book or romans in the bible, then talk to your preacher, and then rethink your wants
2007-12-15 21:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by bubba gumps light 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋