Family & Relationships - 14 December 2007

ok, so i'm 5'6-5'7 and 100-104lbs. i used to be anorexic but am recovered. i also used to be 110lbs but for some reason my body won't gain anymore weight, i am eating normally, like i used to, but just not gaining. but i like being thin anyway, secretly i'd like to weigh 80. all my guy friends always go on about how thin i am, and they're always like 'size zero is disguisting' 'kate moss is too thin' and im thinner so what does that make me. they always say they like a bum and big **** 'something to hold onto', and i don't have those things. does that make me unnattractive to guys? (i'm 15 btw). people say i'm pretty and all that and girls want my body, its just boys seem to be like 'eurgh you need a cheeseburger'. so do all guys like only curvy figures??

2007-12-14 05:59:57 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My fiance spends way too much money on the holidays. We are fresh out of college and trying so hard to save (however that is kind of one sided, I want a mortgage one day). His family is on the other side of the country, while I have no problem with him going to see them, plane tickets are very expensive and they are not willing to fly out to see us even once (because they don't want to spend the money) if thats not bad enough.....

He buys SUPER expensive presents on top of that. I mentioned to him that since he's traveling he doesnt have to buy super expensive gifts and I'm sure people will understand. I am very frugal with gifts, but he snubs my gifts towards family member saying they aren't expensive enough. I tell him 1. they don't have to know the price. 2. I don't think they will. 3. We need to save up for ourselves!

I know its not my place to tell him what to do, but him just pouring out tons of money affects both of us, it delays us getting a home some day, please help.

2007-12-14 05:59:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

http://www.amazon.com/Candy-Sprite-Womens-Costume-Lingerie/dp/B000H5JURC/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&s=apparel&qid=1197658266&sr=8-8
She generaly has a pretty good sense of humor and is playful!
Or how would you react ?

2007-12-14 05:57:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I want to let him know how it feels from the other side.....he spends a lot of time at a particular restaurant, long leisurely lunches making friends with the waitresses. I want to find a hang-out of my own, so that I can start name dropping (hunky male waitstaff) and even txt messaging and inviting my new opposite sex friend over to hang out with us. I think it's only fair, otherwise he's not going to understand how I REALLY FEEL. I live in the southeastern US. What are some good places to go (has to be during the day while kids are in school)????????? Where do they have a reputation for having hunky male waitstaff??????

2007-12-14 05:56:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What was your song with your spouse? What song did you dance with your father/mother to? What were some songs played at your wedding?

2007-12-14 05:55:20 · 7 answers · asked by ashley (: 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I think that if you really loved the person you can't fall out of love with them and you will love them forever.

What u think?

2007-12-14 05:55:04 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend is trying to get me to come over this weekend but his parents keep asking what has he ever done to deserve to live there anymore?(because he is 18) And he doesn't know what to say and neither do I. What should we do?

2007-12-14 05:53:46 · 3 answers · asked by ♥Megan♥ 1 in Singles & Dating

and what happen?

mine got divorced 8 years ago when i was 13

2007-12-14 05:53:17 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend of five years and I have been talking seriously of getting married. My friends tell me that I am making a huge mistake because he is the only boyfriend I have ever had. They say that I need to date other men and have my heart broken at least once before making such a commitment. However, I see it differently. I'm a person who likes to learn from other ppl's mistakes and I've learned a lot from my friends' failed relationships. As a result, I know how lucky I am to have my boyfriend. He's handsome, smart, funny, ambitious, compassionate, and incredibly kind to me, my family, and friends. I know it would be hard to find another guy like him. Knowing this, why is it so important for me to date other men and have my heart broken?

2007-12-14 05:52:22 · 35 answers · asked by ♪♪♪ 2 in Singles & Dating

Does that person realize the agony (s)he is causing and permanent devastation and distrust in members of that gender that the cheating is causing?

2007-12-14 05:52:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm real confused on this one. Me and my fiancee are both 19 and lastnight she goes "I'm scared that someone is gonna say something that will change us." "I dont want to change."

Any ideas what this means?

2007-12-14 05:51:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

hmm i was thinking about this situation. couple of months back my husband was so acting crazy and i had a weird feeling that he doesn't love me anymore and he is just using me for his own visa reasons( we are arranged) so he leaves work at 4:00 pm and i get a call from his work around 30 minutes later and when i pick it up they hang up on me and i ask him he is like i idunno someone probably redialed. i felt like why would professional people redial numbers.its very doubtful. anyways then i find **** about him lying to me. now i am trying to learn how to trust him.what do u people think abt this situation?

2007-12-14 05:51:26 · 9 answers · asked by baby doll 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am a retired psychiatric social worker. I have been married twice. In many courses including sociology marriage and family-it indicated that we tend to marry one of our parents (not literally). Parents of both couple's behavior and personality comes out in the individuals. I have seen some of this in both of my marriages. I have always based marriage on love, not a car, a house, or unfortunately, an education. I divorced the first time because he would rather drink than switch. The second one (18 yrs) has mood swings and does stupid violent things like my father. I would like to know what is the best method by which one chooses a mate for life. Men welcome. I especially like men who have remote control drapes. (private)

2007-12-14 05:50:40 · 5 answers · asked by dtwladyhawk 6 in Marriage & Divorce

i want a boyfriend but i have a problem


ah i just don't understand
no guys like me . and i have no friends but I've flirted with guys who have liked me but in the long run we never went out and i am really shy. its not that I'm fat or short because I'm 5 ' 5" and weigh 110 pounds but i just don't understand. so anyhow, i had stopped worrying about getting a boyfriend until recently when I've noticed a lot of people at school walking round holding hands, hugging, etc...and i suddenly wanted a boyfriend really bad. I've never had one before! i want to know what it's like to go out on dates, you know, stuff like that.my friends say I'm a "good-girl" or i appear to be one even though I'm not some goody-two-shoes. do boys not like "good girl" girlfriends? what's up with me? what could i do?BTW, I'm up for changing who i am to get a boyfriend.]
am i happy or depressed?
i am a 16 year old girl . a Junior in high school. and i have never had a boyfriend . also i can be awkward ,weird ,ugly , shy ,ext. so i would not know how to act when i finally get a boyfriend if that ever happens. and i believe that everyone hates me..
help me please
anyone
and if u know me
ah just don't talk to me in person about it or make fun about me please
just help me
i am super depressed people please help
i just need advise but i don't show people this i hide all this inside me i never let it show that I'm depressed or not liked or what eve i just want advise on this and i don't want a boyfriend just to have one i want one so it can help me feel better about my self and show it on the outside and stop hiding all me feelings bottled up inside

just please give me some advise

2007-12-14 05:50:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

when you guys decided to propose, how did you know she or he was the "one?" guys only, thanks....

2007-12-14 05:49:45 · 6 answers · asked by misscamillabutterfly 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-14 05:49:09 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

whats the best feature someone can have?how can i stand out from the crowd??

2007-12-14 05:47:08 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

you come across on your boyfriends pc, recent pornongraphic conversations with a female, that he is clearly planning to meet. you have been with him 2 months, would you forgive him or leave him as you've only been together a short while?

2007-12-14 05:46:45 · 23 answers · asked by Loli 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-14 05:45:49 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

I feel completely horrible b/c i am hosting christmas dinner for my immediate fmaily this year. Alll of a sudden I am getting calls from my extended family asking me for directions to my house for XMAS. At this point I want to cancel dinner. I really feel like I have been alone all year (no kids, No husband) and my family has not been supportive in any issues that I have had to deal with. My mom has spoken to me since Thanksgiving weekend because I did not take her side in an arguement. So at this point I do not feel like wasting my hard earned money buying gifts for a bunch of ungreatful people. I really would prefer to find a spa and get away for the holidays. I think that I have spent this year alone and i should just finish it off alone. Any thought,s comments????

2007-12-14 05:44:22 · 8 answers · asked by nyjae 5 in Family

I'm at a loss as to what to give them for Christmas. They are going to be married in March.

I don't have any idea what to get my brother for Christmas. Nor do I know his fiancee well enough. They live across the country from me and I have not seen their new house. But there is a coffeepot on their wedding registry that I could get them for Christmas.

Is that too cheesy or is it a good idea?

2007-12-14 05:44:16 · 27 answers · asked by Kelly 1 in Weddings

My wife suggested that we work on quality sex, not quantity. So I am lucky to maybe get it once a week. I am so frustrated, she send signs that she wants to, then when it gets time to go to bed she rolls over and goes to sleep. Just do not want to get dependent on self service.

2007-12-14 05:43:37 · 6 answers · asked by Bill S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Long story short. It's a long distance relationship we're working on meeting soon. It's been over a year as friends and 8 months Dec. 28th this year as boy and girl friend. She has this local guy friend who she thinks she might have feelings for and she still loves me so she's in that stuck between two guys rut. But she's never lead me to not love or not have trust in her. So what do I do and what do we do stick it out and hope for the best or just end it now? Can our true love and yes that's what we have this far last and will it last or is it time to just call it quits? Be honest but don't be harsh. Some of you have no idea how much this hurts none at all. It's like being dead inside. And even when I talk on the phone to her there's still that distance that gap. Sucks all of it sucks. And she needs to do her part to get the communication back in our relationship. Advice. etc. I've loved her and stuck it out this far but now what?

2007-12-14 05:42:51 · 13 answers · asked by dave_83501 4 in Singles & Dating

Hi, I'm 18 cute and all. I have this best friend she's so hot but on myspace she shows off so much and she knows I love her and I want her so bad. How can I make her want me ? Is a fade with a mini afro cute on me? geeky colthes preppy with desighner frames? Well that look cute?

2007-12-14 05:40:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-12-14 05:39:30 · 36 answers · asked by sugarbaby 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I always have trouble dating; as a matter of fact I hardly ever date. Mainly because of my work schedule but also because I have constant fear of that first date. Most of my dates don't even bother calling me for a second, what am I doing wrong?

2007-12-14 05:37:06 · 19 answers · asked by emer_mirage 2 in Singles & Dating

I asked my mom this when I was 13 and she said, "If I couldnt save you all, all of you would perish." I could never accept this answer and I still dont. Interested to hear others opinions..

I rather save one child then have no children, but again I am not a parent...so..

2007-12-14 05:37:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-14 05:35:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

why?

2007-12-14 05:35:06 · 21 answers · asked by Kia S 1 in Singles & Dating

(First, sorry if my english is incorrect.)
I love her and want her so much. I always find some excuses to stay alone with her. When I try to do that - my fellow-student do something to prevent it.Or may be I'm wrong. It's usually something, not related with what I want to do at first sight, but it stands my way.
Also, do you think my teacher may know about my feelings?
(I often stare at her eyes and sometimes she looks at me longer.)

2007-12-14 05:32:59 · 1 answers · asked by Panthera_Leo 3 in Other - Family & Relationships