why?
2007-12-14 05:35:06 · 21 answers · asked by Kia S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've known a lot of men and women who've dated people with kids. Often it doesn't end up working well. You have to consider the relationship the person has with their ex. If there is any arguing, or they don't get along well, you could be in for years of misery. Angry exes LOVE to use their children as pawns. When the parent they loves tells them to be mean to mommy's/daddy's new partner, it's hard for children to not play along. It's also hard for a parent to take their partners side over their own children. IT CAN BE A NIGHTMARE!!!!
On the other hand... if the person gets along well with their ex, and the children are happy to see their parents happy, you'll just have to deal with what every other parent has to deal with in regards to raising kids. Which isn't easy either.
2007-12-14 05:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by bill b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the situation. If I met someone who had a kid....and they had a horrible relationship with the ex and I felt like dating them was going to be some huge drama because of the ex and the kid(s), then that would be a no no. If they got along with there ex for the kids, then I wouldnt have a problem being in the relationship with them.
2007-12-14 05:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Heather B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And why not? It is what it is..As long as the children are properly being taken care of by their parents..I am an ex with grown children and their father was THERE 24/7. My current partner is a parent himself and I do not get involve when they are looking for him. Bottom line those are his kids and by the way I have no issues with their mothers.
The beauty of our relationship is that the kids are grown..He is not raising someone else's child regardless if that parent is in the picture or not..and vice a versa. We are all ONE BIG happy family.
2007-12-14 05:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by !@#$% 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most certainly would, did and would again if ever needed to. My wife and I each had three kids prior to meeting and marrying. Everyone comes into relationships with some baggage and often part of their baggage includes little ones. Providing they are good parents and you get along with their kids should not be problematic at all.
2007-12-14 05:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. just having kids with someone else is not a disqualifier.
but having kids with a psycho ex is.
oh wait, did they have those kids with someone else while I was with them? then no I wouldn't
Lots of gray areas here. the answer will change depending on the details.
BTW, there is no right or wrong answer here, just the answer that is right for you. If you don't want to date someone with kids, then don't. If someone doesn't want to date you because you have kids, then they aren't the one for you.
2007-12-14 05:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you going? lol! Just kidding...yes you should if you like the person it's really hard to find someone when you have child...people with children are probably more genuine then your average!
2007-12-14 05:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by b_furbee21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would... Well it really depends.... if the guy took care of his kids and made sure that they had food and stuff then yea but if they didn't take care of them and didn't tell me about them then no... if he don't take care of them i would say no becuz what makes you think he would stick around if you had kids by him???
2007-12-14 05:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
because just becausze they have a kid doesn't mean they dont either want to love and make another one
2007-12-14 05:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did. My husband had a one child and so did I when we first met and we were only 19 yrs old.
2007-12-14 05:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is usually the case with older people. the ilder u get the harder it is to find someone who is single and does not have a child
2007-12-14 05:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by nessa913 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋