i want a boyfriend but i have a problem
ah i just don't understand
no guys like me . and i have no friends but I've flirted with guys who have liked me but in the long run we never went out and i am really shy. its not that I'm fat or short because I'm 5 ' 5" and weigh 110 pounds but i just don't understand. so anyhow, i had stopped worrying about getting a boyfriend until recently when I've noticed a lot of people at school walking round holding hands, hugging, etc...and i suddenly wanted a boyfriend really bad. I've never had one before! i want to know what it's like to go out on dates, you know, stuff like that.my friends say I'm a "good-girl" or i appear to be one even though I'm not some goody-two-shoes. do boys not like "good girl" girlfriends? what's up with me? what could i do?BTW, I'm up for changing who i am to get a boyfriend.]
am i happy or depressed?
i am a 16 year old girl . a Junior in high school. and i have never had a boyfriend . also i can be awkward ,weird ,ugly , shy ,ext. so i would not know how to act when i finally get a boyfriend if that ever happens. and i believe that everyone hates me..
help me please
anyone
and if u know me
ah just don't talk to me in person about it or make fun about me please
just help me
i am super depressed people please help
i just need advise but i don't show people this i hide all this inside me i never let it show that I'm depressed or not liked or what eve i just want advise on this and i don't want a boyfriend just to have one i want one so it can help me feel better about my self and show it on the outside and stop hiding all me feelings bottled up inside
just please give me some advise
2007-12-14 05:50:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to be comfortable with who you are first, before you will be comfortable with a boyfriend. Having one just because "everyone is doing it" is not the proper motivation. If you have low self esteem and NEED to HAVE a boyfriend to feel better about yourself (which has nothing to do with other people), then the males you will attract will only be those that see that weakness as attractive, i.e. those who are likely cruel, abusive, or incapable of a healthy relationship.
2007-12-14 05:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by supastremph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I can say being in a relationship can be awkward and very stressful. It does require patience before getting someone, but when you get someone you will really be happy and won't be depress. Another thing a guy isn't worth dating if you have to change for them because you won't be happy since they won't really love just the reflection they see in you. Also if you rush in a relationship just because everyone is it may end up being about sex and you can get hurt faster. Also by being patience when you find someone you will not feel awkward because by instance you will know what to do. Well hoped I helped. And by the way I am 20 and I didn't start dating til I was 17 because of the stress and pressure. I decide to just be myself and enjoy life.
2007-12-14 14:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by Alan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all honey you should never say that you'll change just to get a boyfriend. You are who you are. Someone will like the person you are...you won't need to change for that one person. Being 16 without ever having a boyfriend isn't all that bad. Your just now getting to the age that a boyfriend is nice to have around. My daughter didn't get her first boyfriend until her senior year in high school! I remember she was a little hard on guys but when it happened it happened...it will for you too.
2007-12-14 13:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey...listen i know it seems that if you have a boyfriend everything will be ok, but thats not the case...trust me. To be happy comes from within. Try to look at the positive side, I'm sure you have many people who care about you and want to be your friend, and even your boyfriend. Try not to be awkward with boys and be yourself. When boys want a relationship they go looking for the "good girls" when they want to get some they go for the more outgoing types...and you dont want to be some piece of a.s.s....when the time comes you'll find somebody. Please tell someone about how you are feeling, tell your parents, a guidance councler, someone you trust...you can get better if you tell someone in person how yoy feel...don't be shy.
2007-12-14 13:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon you sound like a beautiful person, don't you dare let anyone tell you different. Boys aren't everything but they are fun. Try to be the complementor join extra caricular activities to meet people and just try to be a pleasant person even if you're having a bad day.
2007-12-14 13:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Abby-drya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well gurll, start talking to more people, including cute guys. dont change for anyone no matter what; they should like you for who you are and not what they want you to be. Sometimes boys are jsut to scared to talk to girls first. Be yourself, and laugh about the things in life that make you sad. When you laugh the whole world laughs with you, but when you cry, you cry alone.
goodluck girl! <3
2007-12-14 13:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by bbdoll<33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...1st off, you don't need to change anything about yourself...if the guys don't like you for who you are, they aren't worth your time...2nd you will find a boyfriend when the time is right, don't rush it.....3rd..don't seem desperate.....Finally, reread this whole answer over and over.
2007-12-14 14:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by ford1chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try start by dressing really nice.. and talking to poeple and say nice things..
2007-12-14 13:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by KRAzy CamBodan kILLER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋