Family & Relationships - 30 November 2007

"My wife and i have been married for almost 5 years. We have two
children together, I love my wife like i have never loved another. I have a
deeply rooted idea that males and females cannot just be friends. One
will always want more. She has a friend whom we both know through work.
They are more friends, then he and i. It had been discussed that i would
not want them to ever go out without me...wethere they saw it as a
date or not, I felt very uncomfortable with it. She had in the past
already said that if we weren't together and he wasn't married that she would
ask him out. The other night she was talking in her sleep. when i
asked her about it she denied it all. after talking i asked to see her
emails between them. she got upset i got more upset. in the end she did
confess that they were going lunch, a movie and some shopping. after tons
of tears she said that she wouldn't go with him. In the end i think she
did. So 1. am i wrong in my lost trust? 2. what needs to be done to
help fix this marriage (because i seem to be the one fighting for it, it
seems that she just wants it to go back to the way it was when she lied
and she didnt think that i knew it) Please help me!!!"

2007-11-30 16:09:46 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

she told me she wanted me,and she strung me around for a very long time and decided to get a boyfriend.as soon as her boyfriend went away for the weekend she was all over me.thing is as soon as i find someone new she goes and messes it up for me.i decided it was best to move on but she always finds a way to ruin any new relationships i have.but she wont give me a chance with her.is this normal?

2007-11-30 16:07:39 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-30 16:06:35 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

okay i have this really weird situation when everytime i meet a hott or cute guy- i end up having feelings for him. like im looking forward to seeing him n being with him. and like sort of liking him. even with a guy much younger than me! idk if this is right or not. and at the same time i dont know who i like because im in between like 5 guys!! help!! please!! i dont know how to get my mind into liking only ONE guy not 10!!

2007-11-30 16:04:04 · 4 answers · asked by [Capture.Carolyn♥] 3 in Singles & Dating

what do u think he trying 2 say yes or no

2007-11-30 16:01:56 · 11 answers · asked by BRIA C 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-30 16:01:11 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ive known this lady for 5 years. I recently got out of the military and we hanged out by watching 2 movies. after that i havent seen her for 5 months, i decided to take the train over to where she works with roses as usual. I did that same thing the second time a week later. That night I walked her to the train station and off the train, i asked her if the roses were to much and she said yes and told me to stop. I than said what else would she like me to do, she told me to not travel so far just to walk with her home. I said ok to all her request, i than asked her if i have a chance in being with her and she said not recently. At the end i asked her when will i see her again and she tells me shes busy she doesnt know. I tell her than this is probably it i probably wont see her for 2 years? 10 years? if ever? WHen i went home i wrote her a long good bye email.
What should I do now, I still really like her, but im willing to give her up.

2007-11-30 15:54:06 · 9 answers · asked by Sensationalist 2 in Singles & Dating

so i really like this guy and i think he likes me, but i'm not sure. we watch videos together pretty regularly and when we do we sit really close and share a blanket but then after the movie is over he seems to leave as soon as possible. we also go out for dinner sometimes, but nothing ever seems to progress. so does he even like me? and if so, how can i turn this into a relationship? also, we're both 20 if that makes a difference. Will he ever kiss me?

2007-11-30 15:48:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok well my bestfriend named chuck is a serious player, always trying to hook up with some1 new hes also liked the richest and good looking guy in school and is constantly an asshole to every1 but me, however he just started dating my best friend thats a girl who ive known for like a year who has been completely smitten with him since the day shes seen him and they have been going out for about a month, yesterday he told me that hes just trying to get in her pants and hes gonna have sex with her this weekend and the second after hes gonna break up with her. What should i do? tell her?

2007-11-30 15:45:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

when a married woman who is in her.40.s and starts looking for younger men in there late teen.s start comming on to them would that be as i have posted love. or lust. a man who is.19. and she.s in her late.40.s isnt that against the law on her . doing that .

2007-11-30 15:40:40 · 10 answers · asked by matthew v 3 in Marriage & Divorce

This is open to both guys and gals, but what would you guys do if your significant other started gaining weight or getting unhealthy after you two got married?
I am not married, but I have always wondered about this because I hear stories sometimes.

2007-11-30 15:35:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok i broke up wit my gf recently...and now i dunno what to do im keeping myself busy working 5 or 6 days a week 8 hour days each day and come home go out to dinner n stuff with family and friends but i still feel really lonely i dunno what else anything would help thanks all

2007-11-30 15:34:48 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what should I say? He's a grown man right? but it seems really fast to everyone in the family. He lost Mom 2 years ago, and I imagine he's just lonely and all. He figures he's 72 and doesn't have time to kill dating and all.

2007-11-30 15:30:24 · 16 answers · asked by art_flood 4 in Singles & Dating

hi all,
my ex and i broke up because he was always working and he never had time for me. we broke up about 2 years ago. after we broke up he would always keep in touch till this day. he calls me like every 3-4 weeks to see how i am doing? also, when he calls he wants to hang out and everytime i hang out with him we end up kissing (no sex) just kissing,,,so its not a booty call...im trying to figure him out..what does he want from?? does this make any sense at all?? cause im so confused as to why he hooks up with me when we hang out but we r not together...ive been dating other guys after him and i know that hes been dating other girls after me...i need help trying to figure this out??? im gonna ask him whats on his mind, but before i do this i just want everyones opinion...im curious

2007-11-30 15:26:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Do you follow this, believe in it, whatever in it? explain.

2007-11-30 15:24:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

please describe to me an emotional relationship. What if you find calls and secrets and money being sent. Could this be "I was just trying to help her out" situation or is there more. Someone please help me see where a line is drawn between and emotional affair and an affair. Is it possible to keep secrets from your wife of 10 years and 2 children. Is it being just friends to sit in a vehicle at night after work and discuss non personal things. Supposedely to listen to her cry about her problems. Whatever. Someone please help me underdstand if I'm over reacting. Supposedly he never touched her sexually only to hug he bye when she left for another job.

2007-11-30 15:23:24 · 11 answers · asked by bob 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I was out tonight shopping for my boyfriend's birthday present. I wanted to get his family picture framed as they live far and he loves them so much. As I am walking out of the store, he texts me and breaks up with me. He didn't say why, but he got pretty upset the other night when I mentioned that I think we should wait a bit longer before having sex (we have been going out for only a month.) Now I feel stupid... and hurt too. I'm 27, he's 33.
What did I do wrong?

2007-11-30 15:22:04 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm freshman in college & share a dorm room with my roommate.This morning I came back from the library cuz I was studying for an exam.When I came in my roommate asked me if it was freezing outside, I said it's pretty cold & she invited me into her bed to get "warm and cozy."I hesitantly crawled inside but she jumped on top me & said this should warm you up and started sliding her body up and down my body.She was rubbing her feet against, mine massaging my arms/hands & breathing heavy against my neck.She slowed down & started playing with my ears as she pressed her face against mine on both sides still breathing heavily.Then she smiled at me & asked "better?" I just nodded & she kissed my nose.Then she went back behind me & spooned me.We never kissed or anything.I just excused myself about 10 mins later and went to my bed.I'm embarrassed to say I was turned on.But i don't know was this just a friendly female bonding moment?I'm from the middle east so I'm not used to this.

2007-11-30 15:21:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have always been self conscious about my breasts because I am only a 32B. But after today I feel like getting implants! I was talking to a guy and he was telling me that he could never date a girl like me because he needs a woman with big breasts. Is this true for majority of guys?

2007-11-30 15:18:38 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We are having a tropical themed wedding and have thought about naming the tables. What should we use as names??

2007-11-30 15:12:36 · 10 answers · asked by yessir!! 1 in Weddings

2007-11-30 15:12:24 · 5 answers · asked by Bob M 1 in Family

I am very confused right now. I have had a best friend for almost 15 years, he is a guy of course. For a long time it was mostly fun and hanging out. We always flirted in a joking way and really had no REAL attraction to each other. We even wathched each other go from one relationship after another. Recently, there has been a change in our relationship. Around 4 years ago, we became extremely close, hanging out every day all night long with everyone and just us 80 percent of the time. No matter how much I fought it, I found myself falling in love with him (Which I never thought I would with the type of person he is.) He has always been a woman target, and i am the only one he never tried to disrespect or treat wrongly. We started becoming more serious, and it was very evident that HE and I were fighting the feelings. It got so bad that when he brought US up in conversation, I freaked out and told him I didn't want to loose him as a friend..... Then....he met someone else. For a long time I fought my feelings until I finally told him. since then, being that he was still with HER,.. he rarely called me and only seen me once in a while (Like every 6 months to a year) He got her pregnant (and didn't tell me at first until I found out from his brother) He tried to make it work with her(for the baby's sake), but she always cheated on him, and they eventually broke up). During this time..when we DID see each other, we just couldnt hold back our feelings. He IS NOT the type to tell ANYONE his feelings, but he would tell ME. He has gotten jelouse of things and told me I was blind. I been dating another guy for a long time, and he says that the guy doesn't deserve me. Well now... about eight months later, we met again the other night. we both know he's been on and off with that girl for a while, but he always reassures me that they're broke up. he and I never had sex and he hasnt ever really tried (he says I mean more than that to him). Well to get to the point, he always brings up our relationship now, but this time he told me I was too good for HIM. I have been acting not that interested in him (playing hard to get so to speak). It was weird, but he also told me its over, I think, but I was a little too tipsy to be sure for sure. Out of paranoya, I texed him today and told him "Hey Goof! U wr acting really weird the other night. U were acting MAD at me or SOMEthing. I think u told me it was over!lol! I think u were so drunk u though I was (his exes name here)." Any ways, I try to hide my feelings as much as possible and play "friends". Mainly because I am so in love with him that I have no clue how to act, I'm afraid to push him away, because one minute he's jelouse or telling me how special I am, and the next he is saying stuff like that. This feeling I have for him is so weird. Instead of healing as time goes on, year after year, I think of him and he claims the same. Its like we're still fighting our feelings. When we're together it's like we pick up where we left off. What should I do? After that tex, he still didn't call me? How can I get his feelings to switch back for me if he lost them? PLEASE I need your help. I email every site possible about this and no one ever emails me back. What should I do? Should I tex him ONE more time to tell him that I get what he's saying... that him telling me I was too good for him was just letting me down gently, or was he playing games cause I am so confusing as well? There is so much more to this, but I have already overdone this letter. He even SAYS I'm confusing. I even acted like I have a crush on someone else just so he don't scare off and run the other way? Please, what should I do? I am in love with him.

2007-11-30 15:07:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-30 15:04:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-30 15:02:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So there is this guy in college with me that i rilley like, but i know he dosn't like me, is there anything i can do or do i need to move on?

2007-11-30 15:02:34 · 26 answers · asked by A_Girl 2 in Singles & Dating

This is such a common saying. My question is this.. Why is it true? Is it because it's FUN to cheat? (Just wondering..)

2007-11-30 15:01:50 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

First off, I am going there for 6 days to visit my best friend from high school that moved out there. She has work and cant get the time off, so I am going by myself.

She is of course mad that I am going, but then she said started to act normal towards me, NOW she is saying that if I go to any casinos, shows, or hotels that she will be mad.

My question is, since she is already mad should I just go and do whatever I want and have fun or not go and do things that I want to do to TRY to make her happy, even though when I get back you KNOW she will still be mad no matter what.

2007-11-30 15:01:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is it just me or is it the darker you are, the younger you look when you get old??

I saw these two women at target about 30 minutes ago, and looking at them, i thought they were sisters. i thought they were about 30 and 32 years old. they were black. Well, one of them approached me and said that they knew my mom from high school and graduated the same year. i was in shock. my mom is like 55. And she said i met her once at my aunt's funeral. it turns out the one i thought was about 30, which is also the one that approached me, was the other one's mom.
And it's not just that one lady either. I know a lot of OLD black women who look a lot younger than they really are. And I'm not saying 30 to 55 is really old, it's just a lot older than me.

2007-11-30 15:00:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My ex did not pay child support in 15 years now the kids are living with him and I have to pay child support, can I go after him for the last 15 years of child support even though none was ordered?

2007-11-30 14:53:52 · 15 answers · asked by lynnrr38 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-30 14:51:43 · 5 answers · asked by Alan d 1 in Weddings