I was out tonight shopping for my boyfriend's birthday present. I wanted to get his family picture framed as they live far and he loves them so much. As I am walking out of the store, he texts me and breaks up with me. He didn't say why, but he got pretty upset the other night when I mentioned that I think we should wait a bit longer before having sex (we have been going out for only a month.) Now I feel stupid... and hurt too. I'm 27, he's 33.
What did I do wrong?
2007-11-30 15:22:04 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After reading everyone's post, I think I have made up my mind. I won't reply. And just delete him from my MSN, phone, and life!
2007-11-30 15:54:11 · update #1
Oh crap, what a jerk! You're lucky he broke up with you; he TOTALLY just wanted you for lust reasons. I'm so sorry. But hopefully you won't be too damaged as you were only going out for a month. Maybe he thought that the relationship wasn't going in his direction (which was a disgusting, unfair direction), so he ended it. I'm so sorry; don't dwell on it, and use this experience to make you stronger. {:)
2007-11-30 15:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by WI Girl #1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong...you sound like you care about him and were doing everything right!
It's upsetting that a 33-year-old man can't hold out in a relationship long enough for you to feel comfortable enough to deepen the relationship with sex, but it sounds like that might be the cruel truth of the matter.
I know the rejection hurts pretty bad, but it sounds like you dodged a bullet with this one. A man that pressures you about sex, and then breaks up with you with a text message when you try to set boundaries about it is NOT a man you want to get deeply attached to. I wouldn't take his rejection too personally....you deserve someone who appreciates you and completely respects your decisions without regard to their own selfish needs.
2007-11-30 15:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did nothing and try not to take it personal or place judgments on yourself or him other then he should have had enough guts to break up in person as it shows better character and is more honorable. He did that out of fear and at least he didn't string you along and have sex with someone.If he was really in love with you he would have never broke up at all,so please love and honor yourself and move on because after a hurt like this the best it yet to come.
The only one that should feel stupid is him for the cowardly way he chose to end it.
2007-11-30 15:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's a good thing he broke up with you. To me, it sounds like a lot of what he was doing was being in a relationship withy you for sex.If you weren't ready, that's okay, don't beat yourself up with it. If he has the nerve to randomly text message break up, what kind of guy is he anyway? I know it'll take a while to let it really sink in, but seriously, it's so much better for you this way.
2007-11-30 15:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by ♫ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should feel smart and priveledged!!
1. You found out that guy was an *** munch.
2. You didn't have as much emotionally invested into him since you had only been together a month.
3. You didn't spend any money on him.
I count 3 wins for you !! woop woop!
2007-11-30 15:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did absolutely nothing wrong sweetness. It's all on him. He wanted to see how fast he could get into your pants and put another notch in his condom case.
It's pretty chicken**** breaking up with you the way he did. But look at it this way. Isn't it better now that you found out what a real jerk he is? It's all for the better, and believe me, you deserve better.
2007-11-30 15:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by David T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he liked the idea of having sex with you so he kept pushing himself not to break up yet. I also think that there might have been someone else who he was attracted and he thought he was better off with her. But a man who leaves you because you wont have sex with him is a pathetic looser so you should not fell bad.
2007-11-30 15:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did nothing wrong. All he wanted was some "action" and he obviously understood that that wasn't what he was going to get with you. I'm so sorry, at least you know now what he was after.
you didn't do anything wrong! you shouldn't, in my opinion (&God's!) have sex until you're married anyways
why buy the cow when you get the milk for free???
2007-11-30 15:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by Noelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. It does not speak well to his character that he would text message a breakup with you. What a cowardly act. While a breakup under any circumstance is painful, in time I am sure you will realize that he was not the one for you.
2007-11-30 15:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by Dug48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. It's him who's wrong, if sex is the reason he broke up with you. You have a right to want to wait, and if he can't deal with that, then he's not worthy of you. Find someone better, who actually deserves your time.
2007-11-30 15:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by Pyro 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋