This is open to both guys and gals, but what would you guys do if your significant other started gaining weight or getting unhealthy after you two got married?
I am not married, but I have always wondered about this because I hear stories sometimes.
2007-11-30 15:35:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now if it was a unhealthy life threatening gain, then nip it in the bud and control it...A couple lbs but no harm to health then let it go not a big deal.
2007-11-30 15:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've been married for a year and a half (not long) but it hasn't happened yet...it usually starts happening over time or sometimes it doesn't happen at all. Not all women and men gain weight after marriage. Most people eventually gain weight at some point in their lives and if it gets unhealthy and you have a solid marriage its easy to let your spouse know that their eating habits are not healthy.
2007-12-01 00:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Hawai'i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are single, you take care of yourself a little better generally speaking, because you are looking to find someone. Once you become content, yes you do gain a bit of weight. For a woman, if she gets pregnant, this is natural. Problem is that women are harder on themselves than men are. Society dictates that a woman be thin and pretty for men. I think if you marry someone and you are both active and like staying fit, then that is something you both can share together and try to stay in shape throughout the marriage. BUT...if you love someone for who they are, you shouldn't change the way you feel about them if they do happen to gain some weight.
2007-11-30 23:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by 305Roja 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Weight shouldn't matter if you love that person...when you get married that's a lifestyle change, which normally causes weight gain.
2007-11-30 23:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by Muslimah S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk about that with her, and what you expect when you get married.. she should want to make you happy and she should want to keep impressing you! that's important in a relationship. a lot of the weight gain can come from giving birth, so after she gives birth you can workout with her and start eating healthy. but please do not tell her that she is fat and that she needs to lose weight! it will make her not want to lose the weight. but you will have to help her when it comes to that!
2007-11-30 23:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by selenne 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there would be more to love. :)
One thing I would never make the other person feel bad about themselve because they may not be perfectly thin by today's standards. Hopefully you fall in love with your spouse for their inner beauty as well so you stay faithful and caring.
2007-11-30 23:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't do nothing cause love does not change if you gain weight.so if you are with a person because of looks then you are with them for the wrong reasons.put yourself in their shoes and see how you would feel if somebody left you if you gained weight.
2007-11-30 23:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prepare healthier meals, portion them out, get my partner to excersize with me, and if that did not work...let them know I was concerned about the weight issue effecting their health.
2007-12-01 16:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Nae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him that he needs to get his lazy butt off the couch and work out with me. i have told him straight up that if he ever lets himself go that i will let him know in a nice respectful way so he can get the hint. if i keep myself in great shape for his pleasure then he better do the same for me!!! if he didnt do anything about it then i would think he really didnt love me. if you really love your spouse you will do your best to stay in shape for them. i mean after all..you expect them to never sleep with anyone else so the least you can do is make the sex worthwhile for them by being hot!
2007-11-30 23:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i would try and spend sum time w/ dem at a gym or jog w/ them any time of the day to get started, its hard but i guess finding a way for you2 to be together and do something that is good for your health is good....lol;p
2007-11-30 23:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by :)scarletred_k2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋