She killed my heart, but i still feel for her?

Question

Ive known this lady for 5 years. I recently got out of the military and we hanged out by watching 2 movies. after that i havent seen her for 5 months, i decided to take the train over to where she works with roses as usual. I did that same thing the second time a week later. That night I walked her to the train station and off the train, i asked her if the roses were to much and she said yes and told me to stop. I than said what else would she like me to do, she told me to not travel so far just to walk with her home. I said ok to all her request, i than asked her if i have a chance in being with her and she said not recently. At the end i asked her when will i see her again and she tells me shes busy she doesnt know. I tell her than this is probably it i probably wont see her for 2 years? 10 years? if ever? WHen i went home i wrote her a long good bye email.
What should I do now, I still really like her, but im willing to give her up.

I wrote that "good bye " email because I feel that i could read her eyes and by the look of it she was not interested in seeing me anymore even though she said she was. What confuses me is that many times she would move her body next to me in the movie theater, she even kissed my cheek once 2 years ago. But lately shes been really busy with college and work and it seems true. IM having second thoughts now, should i just wait it out and see if she calls?

By the way, im not a stalker, i always let her know that i was coming out to where she works. And I feel I would fit the model of a perfect man,,romantic, caring, loving, handsome, fit, athletic...I guess nice guys do finish last.

Answer 1

You are behaving in a needy manner, ie verge of stalking. That is so very unattractive to some women. They want to be the needy one. Also, you said good bye in that wordy, nonetheless, email she probably didn't read. Commit to that, do NOTHING else. You are prior military, recall your discipline and move on.Lesson learned, time well spent on memories you can use for future relationships.

Answer 2

Quit beating yourself up. She does'nt seem to be interested in you. We all have different attractions to certain things in people, you may not fit what shes looking for, but wake up. Look around. The worlds full of women. Theres someone out there for you, you just have to open your eyes. Theres plenty of women on yahoo singles that would probly love to go out with you. And if you go to church, theres always a group of singles just waiting . Just try to enjoy your life one day at a time and everything else will fall inplace. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hey there is a saying, "you can't beat a dead horse." It's over, we all have to face it at some point, move on and find someone who will appreciate you as sweet as you are.

Answer 4

You have to let her go. She seems to not really appreciate your doings, in time you will learn to leave the past behind and meet someone who will really care for you.

Answer 5

tell yourself it is her lost not yours and see what happens.It takes time to heal a broken heart.In the mean time open your eyes maybe your true love his right infront of you,but you are blind by this other woman.God work in mysterious ways! bless your heart.

Answer 6

That's really sad, you seem like a nice guy and she response to you like an immature witch!! Ignore her, and she'll regret what she did.

Answer 7

well, since it is over. and you are willing to give her up. then thats it. you just have to move on now. you may still have feelings, but if you tell yourself to give her up then do it. you'll get over it dont worry.

Answer 8

why did you write that letter???
u should have talked to her about her feelings and ur feelings and not like "yeah whatever bye"
good luck
dont give up!
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Answer 9

she's obviously not interested. find someone else