Family & Relationships - 23 November 2007

Or should I say, never wants to. We have been married for a little over a year, and he never initiates sex, and when I do, he is too "busy" or "tired" or not in the mood. I have tried everything from pretty nighties, candlelight, everything you can think of to turn him on to me! I have gained some weight since we got married (hardly any) but I ask him and he says that does not effect him at all. It all makes me very sad. This is the one thing only I can share with him, and I feel like we have lost our connection. I feel completely and totally rejected because he is no longer touchy feely or affectionate at all.

What are your suggestions?

2007-11-23 14:02:46 · 17 answers · asked by Pinklady 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I broke up with my fiance this morning. We moved in together last April. He has this habit of going out to a friends house,getting **** faced not coming home till 4-5 am. I express my concern because he drives drunk when hes going to these so-called friends houses. We have argued about this many times. I recently told him, I don't feel like he's my best friend. He's a mamas boy and has a son he babies.(read past question) Last night was it for me. I cooked my butt off for Thanksgiving by myself. I was like a robot in that kitchen. The drinking started about noon. I admit..I had a few too. No matter, I listened to music and cooked away. He left with his friend around 9pm and didn't come home until after 5 am. I begged him not to go anywhere, after bringing his friend home.but he did. He never even ate any of my Thanksgiving food. My feelings were so hurt. He/ his son are moving back home to his mom and dad. I couldn't take it anymore..He/mom coming Sunday to pick up sons things for sch

2007-11-23 14:00:35 · 12 answers · asked by Misslady 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I like a girl and have a crush on her.But one thing happend a few days ago.I call her alot to talk with her.But the day after she comes to me and says "idiot".I didnt talk to her the whole day.She said that i said "crappy you suck" when i dont think i said that at all on her awnsering machine.Do you think she will atleast be freinds with me? I told her a few days ago on the phone that i liked her,and same she said to me but just that she liked me but not anymore.I told her i like just to be freinds not get really emotional.Do you think we will be freinds or not?This is really important to me so please awnser.Thanks.

2007-11-23 14:00:01 · 2 answers · asked by Aryan Y 2 in Friends

My mom got her leg amputated about 1 1/2 months ago and last week the hospital called me and said to pick her up because she was being released (she has no home,car, or money,her husband left her few days before she got her leg amputated) So I said okay...thinking she would be able to get around because she told me she did real good with the walker.Anyway, I got her home and she is extremely immobile.She is about 270 pounds and I am a 160 pound woman with 2 kids, one 2 year old and one 4 month old.I had no idea what taking care of her would be like.She needs my FULL attention, and with 2 kids, its taking A LOT out of me.I CAN'T DO IT.She has fallen a few times and I strained my neck trying to pick her up...I have to help her go to the potty every time and she even had a bowel movement on my floor which I had to clean up.She has no medicaid and No other family.WHAT THE HELL DO I DO WITH HER.I am in tears, exhausted, drained and I don't want to break her heart but I just can't....

2007-11-23 13:59:52 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

how can i remove this nasty charactersitic of mine???(don't say"be yourself" or be energetic. i want more explanation?

2007-11-23 13:58:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-23 13:57:52 · 4 answers · asked by let H 1 in Marriage & Divorce

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2007-11-23 13:50:45 · 13 answers · asked by bearer8 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A woman I know challenged me to pick out and wear a woman's thong. Ive never done this before, but I dont think its that big of a deal and I'm willing to do it. Ive narrowed it down to these three and I'm trying to decide which would be the best.

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From a woman's standpoint, which do you think would be the best for me to go with?

2007-11-23 13:46:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

. She said to me "aww. your so cute"
.She isnt afraid to touch me she sometimes touches or rubs agiasnt my arm
. Makes frequent eye contact "the eye contact were you feel like she is waiting for something"
. Sometimes says whats up but she generaly ignores me
. Seems nervous around me I was helping her with something once and she berly spoke a word
. She has tried to partner up with me before in science

It may seem obvious but she ignores me and doesnt really make an effort to get to know me. We have know each other for about a year but where not at the friends level.
I would talk to her but i just get so nervous i cant talk to her. oh ya were 18 shes 3 months older but i dont think she knows that



I really do care about her. when i look her in the eyes they just have this glow that really makes me think she feels the same way


she is not shy at all. like she talks around me just not to me

2007-11-23 13:39:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

In the midst of our divorce, my wife lied and told me that she was taking our son to California for the holiday and come to find out, she sent our son with her mom and she turned around and flew to New York. Is this good ammunition?

2007-11-23 13:39:14 · 4 answers · asked by SexyChocolate 2 in Marriage & Divorce

To me it seems nowadays that people marry for every other reason except love. Agree or disagree?

2007-11-23 13:38:07 · 13 answers · asked by mz_neemarie 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Do they always need to feel needed, belittle, women, and cannot be around strong women. I also wonder can they be around strong men? Do men who are insecure have a problem with their sexuality? Could it be possible that their mothers treated them very badly and that's why they are mean to women? Any suggestion is appreciated.

2007-11-23 13:36:58 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been married for 7 years and are pretty happy. Lately we have had a lot of bills- medical, fixing up the house,and a little credit card debt. We have been fighting about it a lot. I handle the finances and he doesn't- I really would like him to take over so he can see the numbers in front of him every time he sits down to send checks. I actually pay for a lot of our bills too and I just want him to realize what I have to deal with-especially when he wants to buy something stupid and expensive like xbox 360,and I tell him we can't afford it. Not that I don't want him to buy things for himself, he just doesn't get it that sometimes you have to budget.
So does anyone have any advice out there with what works for you?

2007-11-23 13:36:23 · 11 answers · asked by red99 3 in Marriage & Divorce

So i had this crush on this guy for quite a long time, and he finally one day, we told each other who we liked, turns out to fine. I really love him and think of him all the time, while he tells me lots of stuff and says that he loves me and can't stop thinking about me...

I've been dating my first boyfriend (which is him) for a week now (i'm also his first), and he asked me out. He told me it's today, 11 o clock AM. It's 10 something now and i'm afraid. He's away on MSN and the last time I talked to him was yesterday night at 11 o clock, he's always away on MSN isnce then, i'm scared i'll be stood up and everything... Yesterday he told me that he wants to be there with me, and that's all he wanted, and i haven't talked to him since last night. I'm still afraid that he'll stand me up, things will go wrong, etc.... What should I do? I'm worried, scared and nervous.

2007-11-23 13:31:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband cheated. I just wonder about how his friends might feel about me now. I've never been close to any of them. Would they be nervous around me now? Would they look down on me a bit? It makes be feel awkward to be around them because I suspect that they knew. At least some of them, anyway. I could ask my hubby, but I don't know if he would really know the answer to that. Weird question, I know, but I hope to get some honest answers. We are trying to rebuild the relationship for now.

2007-11-23 13:31:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

how do I broach the topic of 'paying the bill?'
My mate/co-worker and I went out to celebrate (his idea) and I had a set budget, he kept ordering drinks, so did I...when it was time to settle up, he was all like 'yeah, I have to get to the bank etc...' The bill was like 100 bucks and he gave me ten, went home , in a taxi...ok, we'r eboth f*cked...but still I'm not too happy about this. How do I approach him?
I feela bit cheated as this was his idea in the first place...and I sure as hell never said I was going to foot the wholw bill!?
I am really mad! What would you do / have done?


DRU.

2007-11-23 13:29:55 · 18 answers · asked by Dru 2 in Friends

I've known my bf for about a year bt we've only been together for 2 months and he really doe love me. but the truth is i dont love him. and he is very clingy and because hes almost 3 years older he wants more out of a relationship than i do. i dont wanna hurt him but i have to let him go all this time i've neverr had the same feelings he has. what do i do?

2007-11-23 13:29:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-11-23 13:28:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I know im just being a typical teen and everyone in the world thinks this, but why does it seem like there are no guys out there for me? the only guys i know are jags! its really annoying!!

2007-11-23 13:27:14 · 2 answers · asked by Elphaba 2 in Singles & Dating

My friend invited me to spend Christmas Eve with his family. This is the first time I'm meeting his parents. We're not officially dating, but people sort of assume we are, so I'm preparing to be introduced as his girlfriend. I'm nervous, because I'm naturally shy and don't say much in conversations. Normally I'll just sit back and watch, but I want to make a good impression because I'll probably be seeing a lot more of them. Any suggestions?

2007-11-23 13:25:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-11-23 13:25:18 · 3 answers · asked by show hui t 1 in Family

A friend of mine told me I need to get over my ex girlfriend and move on. The problem is I have no idea how. I'm in my 40's and basicly I've only had one girlfriend, we were together for almost eight years so everything I talk about includes her. If I go on a date I'll have nothing to talk about because I'm sure my date wouldn't want to hear about my ex. All I do now is work, sleep, and eat I have no desire to get involved in anything or with anyone. How do I get out of this funk?

2007-11-23 13:22:45 · 17 answers · asked by Lostandconfused 3 in Singles & Dating

My friends and i have this great debate going on. Some say its not cheating others say it is. Thoughts?

2007-11-23 13:21:21 · 19 answers · asked by LP's Mommy, RN 6 in Marriage & Divorce

is it painful and what hapens when the penis enters the vigina

2007-11-23 13:20:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-11-23 13:20:20 · 3 answers · asked by ChulaVista619 6 in Singles & Dating

I guess I should preface this with saying that although it doesn't seem like it, my fiance is a really great guy who sometimes has momentary lapses in judgement.

Anyway, my fiance called me the other day. He was at work and I was at home. We were talking about a bunch of random things, including the new apartment that we're hoping to get soon. He told me that he doesn't want me to smoke in the new apartment. I am a smoker, and have been since we met. It has never been an issue before; he even smokes occasionally. So I was understandable taken aback by this. We got into an argument, and I hung up the phone and started cleaning to get my frustration out (that's what I do when I'm upset).

When he got home, he saw how clean the apartment was, smiled and hugged and kissed me. He said (laughingly) the he knew if he got me upset, I would clean and the apt. needed to be cleaned, and that he doesn't care about smoking the new apt.

2007-11-23 13:15:51 · 13 answers · asked by Been here before 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-23 13:15:36 · 4 answers · asked by bobbykurupt97 1 in Singles & Dating

she said she was alredy going to go with some one and i still like her and she already knows this becuse my friends from cross country are always saying stuff what should i do

2007-11-23 13:15:18 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My 3 year old daughter father is a deadbeat he works a good job and literally doesnt give my daughter a dime each payday. Aside from that he will go for months and not call or keep any kind of contact, holidays pass and her birthday. He does this every year we argue a lot because of how he treats my baby he hates me he does not want to try to reach a resoloution for her sake he finds it easier to just act as if she doesnt exist he disrespects me,badmouths me to his family.They barely call for my daughter either only a few do now. He lives with his 41 year old immature *** girlfriend i just found out she is pregnant by him. It angers me because he doesnt acknowledge his daughter or how she feels and now he is having another child which he will be there for everyday he would never do the things he did to me to that other woman how can i handle this besides taking his sorry *** to court im a single parent struggling i never get a break im angry and depressed all the time and alone

2007-11-23 13:14:47 · 12 answers · asked by Bleedingheartz 1 in Family

2007-11-23 13:09:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating