To me it seems nowadays that people marry for every other reason except love. Agree or disagree?
2007-11-23 13:38:07 · 13 answers · asked by mz_neemarie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I disagree.
2007-11-23 13:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by Riley's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly agree with the fact that in today's society, it seems as if people are getting married for every other reason besides love. It seems as if people are just content with each other and simply getting married because of a matter of simple convenience. Women in their 30's are becoming desperate, thinking "Oh my god, if I don't get married soon I will be alone for ever." Then there are those who think that we have children together, so we should get married and do the right thing for our children... however, they don't think about the consequences... the years of fighting, causes more trauma to the children, than if they simply would have not gotten married in the first place. Given the fact that people are marrying for every other reason besides love, is it any wonder, why is our divorce rate so high?
2007-11-23 21:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by rodriguez.jose1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't eat love, so I respect people decision, because you just never know. But then what do I know! I'm really different when it comes to love, most people believe that they get hit by this love bug and no matter what the person does, they just looove them so much, and they can't change that. But I on the other hand have never saw someone and feel madly in love with them at first sight, nor have I been in love to the point that no matter what they did, I accepted it on the the strength of this thing called love. Yes, I have been in relationships that went sour and I didn't walk away immediately but I am honest about my reasons for staying. Whether it was convience, sex, financial, whatever, I am honest about the role that played in my decision and I don't just blame the choice on love. I think love is a choice, I think that we choose who we love, and the reason that we love them. I think that nowadays people use love as an excuse, and as a copout. I think when you love someone you choose to honor and respect them, so by my theory even if financial reasons played a big part, as long as you honor and respect them and that works for yall then it sounds like a great marriage to me. So in closing everyones definition of marriage is different, and what works for you or me, may not work for some, some people live their whole life in misery on the strength of love, and people like me don't see the love in that.
2007-11-23 21:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sad but I do believe their are some who had married for other reason than love (green cards, financial gain, materials things, afraid to be along, etc). Now do you count what they think it was love when the individuals exchange vows? I was wondering why some marriage come crashing down after 6 month after their wedding date? With the divorce rate climb up to 50% and it may hit 51% soon.
2007-11-23 21:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married four times. The first was for lust. The second was for a selfish reason. The third was for friendship. I finally got it right 17 years ago and married my current wife for Love. Love works, the other reasons are temporary and marriage should not be used as a tool for selfish reasons. I know first hand. Since I first met my wife I knew we would be together, I just felt it and it felt right. We are terribly happy even after all of these years. My other marriages were just terrible, not happy at all.
2007-11-23 21:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree
2007-11-23 21:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lil Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disagree!! If there is no love the marriage will not last. Its hard enough when you love someone to stay together if you don't love them when the hard times hit you will hit the road!
2007-11-23 21:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by maria k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of them do, but most of them still do get married because of love. If you're willing to live in a loveless marriage but it's ok with you, who are we to judge????
2007-11-23 21:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by johanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't, but if both people are ok with it, I guess it is fine for them. Look at Bill and Hillary Clinton. There couldn't possibly be any love there.
2007-11-23 21:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by Zoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is wrong... but I would still marry the first woman that came along who owned a sweet bass boat...
2007-11-23 21:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as they know what they are getting into, they may do as they see fit
2007-11-23 22:10:08 · answer #11 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋