how do I broach the topic of 'paying the bill?'
My mate/co-worker and I went out to celebrate (his idea) and I had a set budget, he kept ordering drinks, so did I...when it was time to settle up, he was all like 'yeah, I have to get to the bank etc...' The bill was like 100 bucks and he gave me ten, went home , in a taxi...ok, we'r eboth f*cked...but still I'm not too happy about this. How do I approach him?
I feela bit cheated as this was his idea in the first place...and I sure as hell never said I was going to foot the wholw bill!?
I am really mad! What would you do / have done?
DRU.
2007-11-23 13:29:55 · 18 answers · asked by Dru 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thanks guys, this was my feeling the whole time, I', prolly gonna speak to him because this is just crap.
2007-11-23 13:36:25 · update #1
yeah, it really sux as we were both drinking and as it is...I'm giving him a wall unit, free of charge mint condition...
2007-11-23 13:40:15 · update #2
Dru darling, seems like this mate of yours isnt really your mate....dont embarress yourself...dont say nothing to him, just stay away from him. I had a friend who would like literally call me everyday and would be like "hey lets go get a bite to eat" or for icecream or whatever....and I didnt realize that she was just using me.....she would make up excuses like "oh, I left my money in the car... or "oh, I left my money in my other handbag"...its like ***** get a job or something im not your mother nor your sister and definitly not your f*cking mate! lol
so my dear I stopped picking up her calls and when i started to mention it to friends they said that she has done the same thing to them but they really never thought about it....we are all not cheap...but your mate clearly stiffed you with a $100 dollar bill.
what a complete loser. I cant believe him. he should be so ashamed to not even show his face with you in the same room.
im not cheap...i can see you are not as well, but hey fair is fair.... but what can you possibly say to him?
Uh, yeah mate, that night with the drinks....are you gonna give me like $40 bucks more or what?? I mean if you have the balls to do it.....go for it!
But I learned my lesson and I just completly cut that cheap broke ***** off. And not to mention all my friends did as well.
Hmm, he's a co-worker? Send him an email...thats a thought.
I dont know my love, im out of ideas.....but good luck!
good day
2007-11-23 13:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This situation is horrible as yes it is not a huge amount of money you are talking about but it is still not that low that you wouldnt ask for it back, but people like this keep doing this as they think it is ok as they always get away with it so i think you should just say to him that you have to pay a bill or your rent in a few days or something like that and say it would be great if he could settle the bill from the other night as this would help you out paying your other bills, remind him you were both drunk and you didnt mind paying as you thought you would sort it out the next day
2007-11-23 13:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WITH FRIENDS LIKE THIS WHO NEEDS ENEMIES!!!!!!
It is a though and expensive lesson but I hope you have learned it well
We had the same experience, we were invited to dinner, the host ordered expensive bottles of wine and kept on re ordering all evening, when the bill was handed to him he passed it on to my daughter, needless to say he never got another chance.They do it because most of the time we are so surprised about what is happening, we would never do a thing like that, so we are not prepared and when we realized what has happened we are too embarrassed to say; eh you!!!! Get your wallet out !!!
You can, do as most of the others advice, and talk to him, my take on the matter is to send him an email telling him that you did not appreciate what he did and that he better forget your name and phone number and address, and I would also advise any other friend you have in commune about what he did so he will not try it on someone also and then forget about it ,do not embarrass your self in asking for the money you most probably will not get it
2007-11-23 14:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He gave you the bum's rush, he's a bum. You could remind him when you see him by saying ...hey I've got a date and need the cash you owe me for the bill I picked up the other night...XX$ should cover it. But I imagine that he will make an excuse not to pay you back. I would probably write it off and never go out with him again if it bothered me that much.
2007-11-23 13:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that was my friend associate of whatever I would be straight forward at all times. That was not the deal or the agreed upon action me paying a bill then that wouldn't have happened. If he didn't have the money then, I would pay but let it be known that he better pay me back. I think honesty is the best policy in this case!
2007-11-23 13:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by quinda 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget about asking for his half, because he is not going to pay it, so what I would do is ask him to out for some drinks, and when you both are ready to go home, tell him you forgot your wallet, and you do not have any money with you. He has to pay up, there is nothing he can do about it, if he says no, tell him he owes you the half when you both went out anyway. Or just make an excuse and get out of there, tell the Bartender if there is one, that your Friend is going to pay the tab. Fair is Fair.
2007-11-23 14:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that you felt a little awkward paying the whole bill and ask if he'd reimburse you for his share. If he makes a huge deal about it, forget it. Now you'll know better the next time you two go out for drinks... Next time use two separate bills instead of one.
2007-11-23 13:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Skelli 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this strong about it then confront him about it. $100 is a lot of bucks!! Tell him he still has to give you his half, $50 plus taxi fare, although he gave $10!!! Woaa he's a big spender. Keep on at him and dont fall for it again.
2007-11-23 13:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by IAN B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to him about spliting it 50/50 say you are a bit low but you do like that he gave you a ten at least that paid the waiter or maybe talk to him about paying the bill next time and to get him back order more drinks ;]
have fun!
2007-11-23 13:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by Alexis K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you still wanna be friends with him then just tell him some thing like " Bob ( or whatever his name is) about yesterday, listen man $100 was a lotta money, i know you were trying to have fun, but i think its fair that you pay atleaast half the money" and if he says no, then tell him to eff off and give the money back and if he still doesnt then kick his @ss
2007-11-23 13:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋