Why do i hate socialization? i hate to mingle with everyone and am very shy to talk to people.?

Question

how can i remove this nasty charactersitic of mine???(don't say"be yourself" or be energetic. i want more explanation?

Answer 1

Hi sweetie sounds like we have an insecurity issue maybe been manifestered from being bullied or similar (molested)from early childhood hmm??
Socialization takes some effort when one is insecure of who they are in society.
EMO's often are these ppl so maybe your early family troubles need to be discussed with a Counsellor then you can rid yourself of these demons..good luck ♥

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with this. We live in a society which puts too much value on being an extrovert. Do you think Mozart or Einstein would have come up with their stuff if they were constantly out at parties?
Everyone has their own level of sociableness. If you follow your own interests and spend the time by yourself doing something you enjoy, you will have an interest to talk about when you do feel like chatting, which will make you far more interesting than someone who talks a lot but just says stupid things.

Answer 3

I was extremely shy, I could disappear into the wallpaper. It came as a COMPLETE shock to me to find out that even the most social people were working blind at this--it's a skill to be social, but they jumped right in, they didn't care. They also weren't privy to any special information I didn't know, so it was up to me to realize that we were ALL on the same footing as each other. I just let it bother me too much.

With no real reason to stay shy, I worked to get myself more outgoing. It was surprisingly easy, just striking up conversations helped. No obligations, just say a few words, listen, say one thing back, then move on. Practicing that took a lot of fear out of things and made it SO much easier to do!

Try this--look at yourself in a mirror. Look yourself IN THE EYES! It's amazing how many people can't really truly do this. Force yourself to look, this is you, nothing to worry about, no one makes judgements, it's just you. Look yourself in the eyes for a good long time and take deep relaxing breaths. It's not going to kill you. Once you do that, you've passed a big hurdle and can go on to just treating people as normal people and not fear anything.

Answer 4

You are probably just an introvert, which means that you get your energy from within (rather than drawing it from other people) so social situations are not as easy for you as they are for extraverts. You may just have to use a different approach to socialization, like seeking out one person who doesn't seem too intimidating and starting up a conversation. Once you get started talking to one person, they may know other people there and pull you into the larger group, etc.

I am also an introvert, and I know that it was helpful to me just finding out that the way I am is just as "normal" as being an extravert. Once I realized I didn't have something "wrong" with my personality, I was able to relax more in social situations and that in itself made things easier. Hope it helps you too.

Answer 5

Me too!!! I was told by my therapist that I might have a very mild form of social anxiety disorder.I just thought I was cranky around people I don't know. I use Topamax, which acts quickly and wears off quickly when I know I have to go something like a Thanksgiving dinner or wedding. Anyway, it totally works. Its actually made for migraines but works for this too.

Good luck!

PS It doesn't mean you're a bad person.

Answer 6

I don't like to socialize either, in my own experience it depends on your upbringing, and how people treat you. I tend to be shy, and scared myself due to how I experienced life. I think its best if you look inside yourself and decide how to deal with your problems. Low self esteem and low self confidence which I have will do that. But if you can overcome that you will be a better person for it, for me its too late.

Don't know if this answers your question or not but hopefully it gives you something to think about.

Answer 7

Everyone is not the social butterfly, find like minded people and hangout with them, if you want to change your attitude change it! there is no unwritten rule that says you cant. If you hate socializing then dont socialize, but obiviously you want to otherwise you wouldnt want to change. Just open your mouth and do it! GOod Luck!

Answer 8

You are antisocial....probably a misanthrope...But I bet you really have a social anxiety or have a scizotypal personality disorder and I would suggest therapy. You are not a sociopath because sociopaths use people or step on people for their personal gain. Sociopaths also don't care who they hurt in their social climb to the top. Psychopaths are in their own world and are usually killers...you are not a killer are you?

Answer 9

I'm the same way. No, I'm not a mean person, but I'm very shy to talk to my classmates. I try, but sometimes it's very hard to do so, especially when you're constantly being humiliated by your teacher.

Answer 10

because your afraid of what everyone is thinking of you when you speak or try to socialize. Work on your own self-esteem first then work on socializing.