A friend of mine told me I need to get over my ex girlfriend and move on. The problem is I have no idea how. I'm in my 40's and basicly I've only had one girlfriend, we were together for almost eight years so everything I talk about includes her. If I go on a date I'll have nothing to talk about because I'm sure my date wouldn't want to hear about my ex. All I do now is work, sleep, and eat I have no desire to get involved in anything or with anyone. How do I get out of this funk?
2007-11-23 13:22:45 · 17 answers · asked by Lostandconfused 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, the best way to get on with your life is to develop new interests, even though you may not feel like it. Join some clubs and social groups. Develop new friendships, not only with women, but with guys. The more people you associate with, the more opportunities there are to meet others. Pursue a hobby you've always wanted to do, get involved in community work, such as volunteering. Who knows? You might meet someone who turns out to be an interesting companion, or maybe even the love of your life. As long as you sit around and mope, you'll never get over the failed romance, and what a waste of time and life that is. Your best friend right now is you. So get out there and let others enjoy the benefit of your friendship. Good luck and God bless!
2007-11-23 13:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing like the excitement of a new relationship to take your mind off things! If you go out with a girl resist the urge to talk about you ex. The girl will think you are a loser. Instead, focus on your date. Brush up on different topics so that you will have something to bring to the table of conversation. If you really have lost your desire to move on, you could be depressed and may need medication. Get this addressed BEFORE you try taking out a new girl! Good luck, dude!
2007-11-23 21:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by spittinsnuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I'm only 21 and I've been with my boyfriend since i was 16. I have often thought how would i get myself back out there and meet people if something ever happen with us.
I believe you meet people when you least expect it. If you look for it, it doesn't always come, and if it does its not the right thing.
40 is not old, and although you feel as if your in a funk i think the right lady just hasn't come along yet. When she does I don't think you'll be able to miss her.
Stay strong and Best of Luck to you. :)
PS: that remark about you been lame, i think that girls is pretty pathetic to write something like that, hope she feels good about herself... loser....
2007-11-23 21:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't defined solely by your experiences. If you really think that you are ready to date. Then do so. But, remember your date will want to get to know YOU, not your ex-girlfriends. You can tell her what sorts of movies you like, what sort of work you do, what kind of music you like, you can talk about your friends and family. Asking questions about your date is extremely helpful. Don't worry about it, just find a date and jump back in the dating pool. It doesn't help to hide under a rock. Believe me.
2007-11-23 21:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie that a normal reaction after a long term break-up ,
you have to just get up off the floor so to speak and get out there again,it;s not easy.
You will find that talking about ex is a definite turn off and a No No let me tell you.
OK make your self over ,get some self esteem and walk about proud but not arrogant of course.
I'm sure your attractive so women will come your way good luck just don't be too damn intense coz that turns girls off good luck â¥
2007-11-23 21:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep that frame of mind then you'll never date again get over the old relationship and move on with your life,There are so many things to talk about not just your X either remember why you made them your X in the first place.
2007-11-23 21:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by Robin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on a few dates. You will be surprised at what you can come up with to talk about. Surely you have some sort of hobby. Or you can talk about work. Keep your head up. If you aren't ready yet, then there is nothing wrong with giving yourself a little more time. I'm sorry about your situation.
2007-11-23 21:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get over her. She isnt good enough for you and isnt worth it if she broke it off after 8 years.
Go pub crawling and find as many women as you can. How about a little competition with your mates on who can get the most numbers in a night.
Just ease into it. You dont have to have deep and meaningful conversations with people you just met but the more you talk to these new women the more you will have to talk about.
2007-11-23 21:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep dating and remember you are with someone who deserves the respect of a conversation. This ex could not have been everything your entire life entails. Talk about your interests and hobbies. I'm sure you can have an adult conversation without bringing up your ex.
2007-11-23 21:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by BILL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first step is to get rid of every thing that resembles her. Then, when you get a date, try not to think about her. Talk about Hollywood or the latest news. If she is intelligent talk about scientific stuff and so on and so forth.
2007-11-23 21:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by virgosteph73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋