I broke up with my fiance this morning. We moved in together last April. He has this habit of going out to a friends house,getting **** faced not coming home till 4-5 am. I express my concern because he drives drunk when hes going to these so-called friends houses. We have argued about this many times. I recently told him, I don't feel like he's my best friend. He's a mamas boy and has a son he babies.(read past question) Last night was it for me. I cooked my butt off for Thanksgiving by myself. I was like a robot in that kitchen. The drinking started about noon. I admit..I had a few too. No matter, I listened to music and cooked away. He left with his friend around 9pm and didn't come home until after 5 am. I begged him not to go anywhere, after bringing his friend home.but he did. He never even ate any of my Thanksgiving food. My feelings were so hurt. He/ his son are moving back home to his mom and dad. I couldn't take it anymore..He/mom coming Sunday to pick up sons things for sch
2007-11-23 14:00:35 · 12 answers · asked by Misslady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The marriage would not of lasted long.
You made the right choice.
2007-11-23 14:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An engagement is a time for a couple to take a really good look at their relationship to see if this is really what they both want in mate. If, after taking a really good look, you can see that this is not what you want, then you should break the engagement. There is no shame in breaking an engagement. Nor is it a sign of failure (like a divorce is). It means you picked the wrong guy but realized that he was wrong before you married him. Good luck on finding the right guy. FYI, my wife and my daughter both broke engagements and both found wonderful spouses.
2007-11-23 14:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. Next year you can have a 'good Thanksgiving' and be thankful that you dumped your fiance. You will find a 'good man' someday, but for now you just need to 'relax' and learn to live alone so you can get over this man's ABUSIVE behavior. Abuse is not always 'violence' ... it's also 'ignoring you' when you should have 'attention' and his behavior on Thanksgiving tells me that he 'doesn't care' about YOU and YOUR FEELINGS at all.
2007-11-23 14:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you already made your decision. You can't live like that and if you talked to him and he wasn't even willing to compromise then you made the right one. When faced with similar situations I have always asked myself:
Can I live like this if nothing changes?
If yes, then I realize it's not really an issue
If no, then I try to fix it. If the other person isn't willing then it's time to let them go.
I've always felt if someone is willing to let you go then they aren't worth holding on to.
Best of luck! Don't second guess yourself. You'll just make yourself crazy.
2007-11-23 14:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an alcoholic who needs to start going to Alcoholics Anonymous to turn his life around. If you stay with him, that would be called being a co-dependent or enabler. Get some books from the library on alcoholism and co-dependents. Alcohol will always come first in an alcoholic's life until they hit bottom and decide that they need help to turn their life around, meanwhile co-dependents only help to make the alcoholic's life seem "normal" so that they don't hit bottom....
2007-11-23 14:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does not your satisfaction allow you to comprehend to depart and tell him to circulate to hell on the way out the door? it might. actual he's already disregarded you interior the worst way accessible. he's somewhat being civil and this from a guy who grow to be going to be your husband. tell him to pound sand and get out of there in the present day. stay alongside with your mum and dad, a buddy, a motel room yet get going. that's a foul subject and for although reason (partying, ha) he's judased you and you would be insulted so undesirable you want to tell him to screw himself. depart...and be liberated. He gave you the perfect immature brushoff so save your self from any further shame and tutor him you are the boss of the main needed element...your dignity.
2016-12-16 17:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did absolutely the right thing. Please do not worry yourself sick over it or allow him to make you feel guilty. You have tried again and again from the sound of it. Don't go back to him because he will be good for a while and do everything you want and then the pattern will begin again. Believe me, I have been there!
2007-11-23 14:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by MiMi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wanted you to make all the sacrifices/effort in the relationship. He could just do whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted. Just move on, you can do much better.
2007-11-23 17:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by OrioleMagic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing.If he really loves you and wants to marry you then he will change.
2007-11-23 14:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dam frangrence had a lot to say! But I say let go and let GOD!
2007-11-23 14:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋