Family & Relationships - 22 November 2007

Ive been with her for 8 months and seven days now. We are quite serious about each other (im serious about her I assure you, and she claims she is about me). We always knew that her parents would do this eventually, but we didnt expect it to happen so soon. We are only 17. She claimed that she would go against her parents when the time came, but at the present she can't, as she wishes to go to university but is not financially stable! She claims if she denies their wishes she will be disowned.

What can I do. I dont want to lose her. I know she doesn't support arranged marriage, and she does not really want to accept this, but at the present she is almost acting like she doesnt care anymore. I cant let this happen, for both of our sakes!

If anyone has any queries about my question just ask. Please, i beg you, i need help.

P.s. if it would help, my girlfriend is southern Indian, a Hindu Brahman Iyengar, her parents are quite religious, and her whole family are strict vegetarians

2007-11-22 17:26:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Well there is this guy, and I like him a lot. We always have so much to talk about. We're the same age, but he's really mature but can be goofy too. The only thing is...as I spend more time with him I think he might be gay. I wouldn't have any problem if he was...it's just I don't want to spend my time trying to get his attention if he is. Is there anyway I could tell? The only reason is he hasn't shown attraction to any girl and he's never had a girlfriend [we are both 16] and doesn't act the way all the other guy's in our school do, he's completely comfortable around girls and he often comments on how much he likes peoples clothes, and cares a lot about his apperance. I'm not trying to stereotype here - I just want to know.

2007-11-22 17:25:57 · 33 answers · asked by Violet 2 in Singles & Dating

tell me any good close to death situation stories or really really scary things that have ever happened to you

2007-11-22 17:13:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

No major incidents just small arguements here and there

2007-11-22 17:13:19 · 12 answers · asked by Lilly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My Father is in a postion where he can get a new truck every two years(or less).He's a Chevy Truck guy. That's all he's ever had. He drives the crap out of them, pays them off within the loan time, and gets a new one.Before he trades the old one in he asks if we would like it. "We" being my grown self and husband. Sometimes we're between cars or financially not well and we say yes, sometimes we say, "No thanks, we're good." But, when we're financially not well and take him up on the offer, we kind of have to explain (to friends and family that know we're too poor to afford it) that my Dad gave us the truck. Then they assume that my Dad is gazziloinaire and we're spoiled. We're lucky to have such help. My Dad gives us enough to do something but not enough to do NOTHING. I don't know why it is so hard for some people to understand the difference between being spoiled and Parents giving their young a fair chance at life.

2007-11-22 17:11:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I just got married to a young, handsome man. We were engaged for a year or so. Ever since we got married, he has been demanding more and more. He wants to have sex with me before he goes to work, when he comes home from work, and do it again before we go to bed. I sometimes enjoy it but I feel like I'm being used. I feel like this is my body and he should respect that. I have talked to him about this but he says he is tired and wants some fun. I don't even know if I'm suppose to enjoy having sex anymore. But one thing has suprised me. I am still not pregant not saying I'm trying to avoid it or get it. What should i do?

2007-11-22 17:07:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

theres a lot of girls that i used to be friends with and then had a falling out with (usually something they did, example, getting me kicked out of the house i lived in, trying to get me fired, talking **** about me, ******* my boyfriends etc..) that i no longer speak with, and have in the past gotten violent with, i try to avoid them because i know they havent grown up any and would continue trying to fight. however, my now husban will still talk to them and socialize with them whenever he sees them. he says they havent done anything to him and doesnt want to start anything. that would be fine but these girls will talk crap about me to him or will try hitting on him. now he always stops them from hitting on him, and will ask them not to talk about me. but i dont want him talking to these girls...am ibeing demanding?? or unreasonable? i think he should stick by my side and defend me. but i need some argueing tips.

2007-11-22 17:07:13 · 11 answers · asked by vpireprncss 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Maturity. I need to change. Man I cannot stress this enough. I WANT TO CHANGE!! NOT FOR THEM, FOR MYSELF!!! Ok. Thats outta my system. Well. I want to act more mature. I am a funny guy (I guess, people say I am) but sometimes I just act too crazy. I talk WAY to much. I yell things in class, people look at me funny. You get the point. My question is How do I shut the hell up, and calm the f*ck down? Lol. Excuse my computer lingo. Also how do you change your personality in such a way? I want to start thinking before I speak. But how do I go about that? It's like instinct for me to just blurt it out. I hope you were able to understand this. Thanks in advance.

2007-11-22 17:05:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

these are out of a few of my friends. By the way they're all in jr. high so CUT EM SOME SLACK!!

person #1.135 pounds, 5'4, curvy, flat stomache...that kinda stuff, pretty face, doesn't like to wear makeup because it makes her feel fake, she only wears mascara a little more than every other day, can be a little insecure about her body, shy,listens to rapp.

Person #2. 90 pounds, 5'3, skinny, great personality, says she feels bare without makeup, can come off as preppy sometimes though, loves the Jonus Brothers, calls herself the boobless wonder.

Person #3 140 pounds, 5'2, curvy, can't live without mascara and eyeliner, is a great person, but can over dramatize for attention sometimes, is insecure about her body around skinny girls like person #2. Listens to old 60's love songs, and some r&b, HATES rapp to the greatest extent possible, but doesn't mind people who listen to it too much.

2007-11-22 17:03:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-22 17:02:42 · 16 answers · asked by John T 3 in Marriage & Divorce

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2007-11-22 17:02:40 · 2 answers · asked by Cali 3 in Singles & Dating

well, i know this guy who likes my friend. she likes him too. i saw his phone number at work and i gave it to her. she wants to know if she could call him or would it be considered harassment since he never gave it to her, but i just found it.
he really likes her, we all know it..but he is so scared to talk to her. she wants to talk to him really bad, but he is far away. do u think its ok if she phones him..or would he think she is weird and a stalker. please let me know. my friend really likes this guy but they r so shy. i dont wanna give her bad advice.
thanks in advance!

2007-11-22 17:02:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

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2007-11-22 16:58:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Married 8 years - 6 of them not that happy. We live more like roomates. I have a college degree, a professional, not like my mate. He has social problems.

2007-11-22 16:58:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Would you ever marry a policemen, firemen, or any military men? I've been going out with this really nice guy, and he's a cop. All my friends tell me to find another man, someone who won't die in lie of duty. So my question is would you marry a men who's profession is dangerous, and might not come home to you?

2007-11-22 16:54:56 · 38 answers · asked by Tina 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Why are women afraid to date a guy that is raising a kid alone? I don’t get it. What’s the problem? I am not asking them to be her mother. It is Thanksgiving and I was alone all day with my four year old and that’s ok but I need to see other people my age sometimes too. What can I do about this? As soon as tell them that her mother is no longer here with us they get this awful look on their faces and they always ask that too, “Where is her mother”. Then they turn me down and I can’t lie about it because I would have to live that lie. The ones that will date me are weirdoes.

2007-11-22 16:54:20 · 8 answers · asked by xmhkfkj43h87 2 in Singles & Dating

i got ask out by this guy and he 1 year older then me
and
i see him ever day and i told him i would get bak to him
wat do u say

2007-11-22 16:53:58 · 7 answers · asked by @#$%^&* 2 in Singles & Dating

My brother farts a lot and with big noise......
He is going to get married in december.
How will his wife react to his noisy farts?????
Would she be able to accept him wid those noisy farts????

2007-11-22 16:52:53 · 11 answers · asked by understanding_bf 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Can you? please state if you are a guy or girl...I am a virgin (waiting till marriage) but I feel like girls can tell that I am a virgin from the way I act...No one has said anything but it's just a feeling that I get...I feel like I can spot some girls who are virgins as well, but I don't know for sure...What are your opinions?

2007-11-22 16:48:45 · 21 answers · asked by puffer fish 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-22 16:48:42 · 14 answers · asked by Only yours 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok people I know I cant top the 5k I spent on her ring but... I want to do something special. Any ideas?

2007-11-22 16:47:21 · 4 answers · asked by joshuabekah s 2 in Marriage & Divorce

we have been lovers in two different cities for 3years.and we plan to live in a city and marry.but yesterday he told me we'd better to part.because i am his first love,he dosen't want to only date with ne in his life.i can't understand it ,is it acceptible/

2007-11-22 16:47:15 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

who would love some one like that.. I would.

2007-11-22 16:46:18 · 6 answers · asked by vis 7 in Marriage & Divorce

we are friends for long ime.then was togeder but he dosn,t love me .my best friend tell me to make he loves me.

2007-11-22 16:45:54 · 1 answers · asked by kally m 2 in Singles & Dating

Im 14 years old, my mom is talking bad about my dad and all she and her family can do is yell in front of me. I really cant take anymore of this, and im sick of it. what can i do.

2007-11-22 16:44:40 · 6 answers · asked by Brittany K 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been working with a female co-worker for about a year now, we have became pretty close friends and share alot of lifes struggles by talking alot with each other. The problem is that we are both married and both having marriage trouble, the trouble was there way before we even meet for the both of us. I found myself being attracted and careing about this person. The felling is the same on the other side. We have a lot in common. She is very open with me on somethings, but not her feeling towards me, but we both know we can cross that line. I have been emailing her almost daily with poetry that I have written, I know she likes it, and I know that she keeps them in a special place, but never get any reponse from her on the poems. I can tell her anything and I will make her day. She does make strong eye contact with me. She is very freindly towards me, and sometime makes acusses to talk to me small talk. But I am still very confussed on what her intent is. How do I appoach this.

2007-11-22 16:43:56 · 6 answers · asked by PHP 2 in Marriage & Divorce

can a man be cured of emotional and verble abuse

2007-11-22 16:42:24 · 6 answers · asked by pair_a_dice0285 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This can go to both girls and guys but hopefully, the majority will be guys. What do you think of breast reduction scars? Usually the scars go around the areaola and down the middle of the lower part of the breast if no one knows. Do you care, not care, dislike them, ect? What are your thoughts if your girlfriend had them? I'm 15 and I plan on getting my breasts reduced and I've never been a big fan of scarring. After the reduction, I'll probably be a D or a DD. I'm not sure yet. Please post opinions. Thanks.

2007-11-22 16:42:23 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

this is my second year of college and I became close with this guy who I met, we hung out at his place all the time and he told my friends that he liked me, yet we never went out on a date or anything like that. I slept with him, nothing sexual except making out and cuddling. This happened a couple of times. would that be considered slutty or wrong?

2007-11-22 16:40:44 · 12 answers · asked by la_la_love 1 in Singles & Dating

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months. I'm a junior in high school and she is a sophomore. I love this girl a lot, and I don't say we are going to last forever because that's up to fate, but I can honestly say that I can see myself spending the rest of my life with this girl because there is something about her. I know you're all thinking "you're young, you'll find someone else." and while that is the more common case, there is no time frame on love so no one besides us knows what we have. Anywho the question is, would getting her a promise ring (for christmas mostly, but also to show her how much she means to me) be too serious? I mean when I get her the ring I'm not promising I'll marry her, I'm only promising my heart to her and that I will never love another. So what do you guys think? It's ultimately up to me, but I want opinions and what not.

2007-11-22 16:25:11 · 8 answers · asked by georgeisba 1 in Singles & Dating