I just got married to a young, handsome man. We were engaged for a year or so. Ever since we got married, he has been demanding more and more. He wants to have sex with me before he goes to work, when he comes home from work, and do it again before we go to bed. I sometimes enjoy it but I feel like I'm being used. I feel like this is my body and he should respect that. I have talked to him about this but he says he is tired and wants some fun. I don't even know if I'm suppose to enjoy having sex anymore. But one thing has suprised me. I am still not pregant not saying I'm trying to avoid it or get it. What should i do?
2007-11-22 17:07:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, you may as well enjoy this while you can, cause you are still in the honeymoon period of your marriage, soon all that will stop and you will wonder why, so enjoy! sounds like to me he is just really in love with you.
2007-11-22 17:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by tiny 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you are young as well. As a man, that first experience of living with another woman is something else. It's like being at an all you can eat buffet and never get full.
By demand, I hope you don't mean forceful or demanding as in "give it to me now". If that's the case, then you have problems, because he should still respect you. If you mean "demand" as in wanting sex more, then that's perfectly normal, and it's something you will have to eventually sort out in your marriage if it's too often for you.
2007-11-22 18:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by x2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as you said, you just got married. You haven't been together as husband and wife that long. And your husband is still greedy to experience his new role as your husband.
After some time the novelty of it will wear off. And then you'll end up complaining that your husband doesn't want to have sex often enough with you.
That's how it usually happens.
All you need is some patience with your new husband. And all will be well. But if your learn to say the word 'No' as someone above has suggested. Then very likely this will be the start of serious marital problems in your marriage.
2007-11-22 17:15:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to really have a talk with him. I mean you need to express your concerns and all your feelings about his behavior and his actions toward you.
If he is still not willing to go easy on the sex, then maybe you need to move out for a little while or suggest counseling . I mean you have just got married and you should not give up on your marriage just because he wants to have sex all the time.
You may just need to stop giving in and and demand that he respect your wishes. Good Luck!
2007-11-22 17:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to say "no". It is still your body. And if you're not enjoying it, then you need to have a talk with him. Tell him that you can't keep up with his demands that you need to cut back some. If he complains about it, cut back even more and hand him some lotion and a porno. He has to respect you as well and if it is too much on you, then you need to make him listen.
2007-11-22 17:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by randmthots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think positive! He's young handsome and yours. Have fun! Get WILD! Revers it. Do to hem what he dose to you . Only top it ! Ware him out . Make him walk with a limp. Experiment. Try roll play, or be the dominate one. Sex should be in joyed by both of you. Let go! lose yourself with him . DO AND TRY EVERYTHING U WONT WITH HIM!!!!! Cause trust me it won't last very long. Sad to say thing change over time. So take advantage and GET Naughty!!!!!Trust me he'll be thinking of u and only u! Think Wild not Mild!
2007-11-22 19:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
was he not this way before yo got married?i think that when you first get married most couples have a lot more sex then they will a year or so later.its hard to give advise this personal he may be a sex addict or not.if you make a big deal about it and he"s not he leaves you alone thinking he is or your not attracted to him or seek it else where.in the end he'll most likely cheat or leave.so my advise is to approach it gingerly not while he's making advances or shortly after.talk to him calmly and let him speck his mind .
2007-11-22 17:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by ldhotlipps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married a normal man. They all do that at first. Just tell him no when you are not in the mood. You shouldn't feel used. Take it as a compliment it could be the other way around and then you would be wondering if he finds you attractive or not.
2007-11-22 17:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to learn the word NO, you have a right to say no just because your married does not mean you have to do it when ever he wants. He needs to respect you and your body.
2007-11-22 17:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's too bad his idea of fun is using your body for his own recreation. It is one thing if you are down for the fun and games, but you are not and it is understandable how you would feel used.
Obvioualy, he isn't too concerned with how you feel. Do it with him when you want to and pass on it when you don't.
2007-11-22 17:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋