Im 14 years old, my mom is talking bad about my dad and all she and her family can do is yell in front of me. I really cant take anymore of this, and im sick of it. what can i do.
2007-11-22 16:44:40 · 6 answers · asked by Brittany K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doesn't your mom realize that divorce is most hard on the children ? Sit down and tell her you love her, but you love your dad too, and you don't want to hear bad things about him, and you don't want to hear bad thing about her either when you are with him. tell her how it makes you feel, and ask her not to do it anymore, cause it only makes you feel bad, and it is causing some really bad stress on you, and that is not fair.
2007-11-22 16:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by tiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brittany,
I know how you feel, when I was your age I went through the same thing. Now that I am getting divorced myself, I am very careful not to behave like this in front of my children.
The best suggestion I can give - and it won't be easy - is to ask your mom if you can sit and talk to her in private. Ask her if she will let you talk and just listen for a minute. Tell her first off that you love her very much. Then tell her that you do not want to hurt her feelings. But, when she says hurtful things about your dad, it hurts you too. Tell her that you know there are things between them that are not your business and that you don't need to know.
Tell her that when you get to spend time with her, you consider it special and would rather she focus on positive things and spend time with you than to be negative about your dad, which can only make everyone feel bad.
Mom loves you Britt. She just doesn't love your dad anymore. Remind her of that.
If you think it will help, print this out and show it to her. The other answers you receive too.
If you want to talk some more, I'm very happy to listen. You can e-mail me through my profile on this site.
Good Luck Sweetie, I know it's difficult, but I promise time will make it better.
2007-11-22 17:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tauri Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom that you understand that her and your Dad are no longer together and that they obviously had their problems, but that has nothing to do with you. He is still your Dad and it hurts you to hear her talk badly about him or to yell all the time.
2007-11-23 00:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents you want to call social services and be placed into foster care until they can figure out some other place to do their batteling rather in front of you.
2007-11-22 17:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a trusted teacher or school official.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-11-22 16:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to please stop yelling in front of you. I hope this works.
2007-11-22 16:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by Hawai'i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋