theres a lot of girls that i used to be friends with and then had a falling out with (usually something they did, example, getting me kicked out of the house i lived in, trying to get me fired, talking **** about me, ******* my boyfriends etc..) that i no longer speak with, and have in the past gotten violent with, i try to avoid them because i know they havent grown up any and would continue trying to fight. however, my now husban will still talk to them and socialize with them whenever he sees them. he says they havent done anything to him and doesnt want to start anything. that would be fine but these girls will talk crap about me to him or will try hitting on him. now he always stops them from hitting on him, and will ask them not to talk about me. but i dont want him talking to these girls...am ibeing demanding?? or unreasonable? i think he should stick by my side and defend me. but i need some argueing tips.
2007-11-22 17:07:13 · 11 answers · asked by vpireprncss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks for the response, tho, one of the reasons he sees them is im only 20 and hes 22 so when he goes to the bars he sees some of these women, its not that im hiding, its just illegal. but just these girls wait!! lol thanks guys.
2007-11-22 17:19:52 · update #1
These girls have not been your friends and if they were you made a bad chose of friends.I would never associate with people who seem to enjoy hurting people it is just WRONG. Your husband needs to stay with you and you with him, as one in all things.You have valid concerns about your husband and I suggest you tell him that his behavior nor matter how innocent it appears brings no comfort to you, knowing he shares his company with them. This is wrong behavior by your husband; he should at all times be your BEST friend and stand up to them for you..
2007-11-22 17:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both need to grow up. But I agree, if he had any respect for you then he would have your back and not talk to/flirt with your enemies. If he respected you he wouldn't be out at bars when you can't go. It's rude, he could be doing anything there and you would never know it. I don't think you are jealous over this, I think you feel extremely disrespected. And I would too. I know you said you're 20 but when a husband is continuously going out without his wife it usually means problems. He's married now, not a bachelor, he should want to spend his extra time with you, his wife. With all that said, I wouldn't like him socializing with people you dislike either, but it sounds like that may be the least of you problems. Good Luck.
2007-11-22 17:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quit hiding, and get out there with your husand. These girls should have matured enough to quit fighting by now, and if they haven't, at least you have your hubby there with you. He is your husband and should always defend you against these vicious women.
Once they see the two of you together united, things will get better. Just try to get along with everyone. You don't have to be their best friend.
2007-11-22 17:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is either them or you. If he chooses to stay friends with these girls then kick him out or leave yourself. Show him you mean business. You sound like you are in your early twenties and believe me those girls will try anything to take the attention away from you. If he continues to be friends with them he could be in a predicament that he will not get out of.
2007-11-22 17:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He chose to marry you, so when they talk badley about you, they ARE hurting him. You are his wife, and this is suppose to mean more then talking to some stupid girls. If he cared for your feelings, he would not speak to them, period. The fact that he has to stop them from hitting on him, doesn't really mean anything. For me, it is worse when girls hit on my husband though they KNOW he is married. It is disrespectful, plain and simple. It isn't about you now trusting him, it is about him wanting other people to have respect for you, and him having it to. He is wrong.
2007-11-22 17:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Sammie Jo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u re totally, 100% rigght and your husband is the one who is freak here. he should definitely stick by your side. didn't u hear that saying :"your friend is my friend, your enemy is my enemy"? by still communicating with them he is betraying u and showing to them that u re not important. they re. why they re so important for him that he can't stop communicating to them? that is very strange. and when he said "they didn't do anything bad to me why should i stop seeing them" it was as low as any man can go. i would put an ultimatum me or them and if it were them i would kick him out without regret. he betrays u now, he will later
2007-11-22 17:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have every right of being jealous. You should tell him not to talk to them and respect your reasons. He's your husband!
2007-11-22 17:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can see both sides of the argument here, ultimately though i think that your husbands loyalties should be with you... i know if i was in the same situation id feel the same way as you... so either we're both 'overly jealous freaks' or its normal
2007-11-22 17:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by a_complicated_goddess 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He should respect you baby .
he does a bad thing
2007-11-22 17:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chill pill and relax a bit!
2007-11-22 17:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by PHP 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋