I am asking this again, What do I do - Does she really like me?

Question

I have been working with a female co-worker for about a year now, we have became pretty close friends and share alot of lifes struggles by talking alot with each other. The problem is that we are both married and both having marriage trouble, the trouble was there way before we even meet for the both of us. I found myself being attracted and careing about this person. The felling is the same on the other side. We have a lot in common. She is very open with me on somethings, but not her feeling towards me, but we both know we can cross that line. I have been emailing her almost daily with poetry that I have written, I know she likes it, and I know that she keeps them in a special place, but never get any reponse from her on the poems. I can tell her anything and I will make her day. She does make strong eye contact with me. She is very freindly towards me, and sometime makes acusses to talk to me small talk. But I am still very confussed on what her intent is. How do I appoach this.

Answer 1

Hope I was able to help ! ?

Answer 2

Dude, you're married. How about trying to work out what the problem is with your wife first before going where you fantasise going? It could be that the reason you guys are getting closer is because you both have "problem in our marriage" in common.

The fact that this other woman doesn't respond to your poems should be a sign that she either doesn't want to go there with you but likes the attention from you, or she doesn't want to make the first move and feel guilty about it afterwards. It's probably much easier not to feel guilt or easier to blame someone else when it is someone else instigating an affair.

I'm not saying don't expore anything with this other married woman because who knows, she could really be a soul mate, but perhaps you can do that after you have tried working it out with your wife (ie deciding to end your marriage) and after this other woman decides to end hers. That way everyone will be left with their dignity intact, including yours.

Answer 3

So far her intent is keeping it at arms legth, you seem to equate a woman having eye contact with you as her wanting you. Women here in the U.S. maintain eye contact with people we speak with because it is a sign of respect towards that person. We don't lower our heads or "bow down" to men, we don't have to. I suggest you keep your relationship just as a friendship because most employers in the U.S. have ethic committies and those committies frown on married co workers having something going on that could be the deminse of either of their marriages. In otherwords the employers frown on adultery as it shows no respect for anyone and is just not ethicial and puts the employer in a not so good light. You both could find yourselves without employment if you continue.

Answer 4

How the hell would a bunch of strangers know whether or not she really likes you. We don't work with your ***? What's wrong with you. Besides, why does it matter what her intentions are? It's obvious that neither one of you love or respect your spouses or intend on putting forth one ounce of effort into your marriages or intend on being faithful. So, why don't you just be a real man, divorce you wife, then fully pursue this other woman.

Answer 5

You quit cheating on your spouse with her and keep true to your wedding vows. Get your head out of the sand and work on your marriage, not hers.

Good luck.

Answer 6

take slow and work on getting you life straight it will make things easier if you show her your really triing to improve your situation. if nothing else it will make you feel better.