Why are women afraid to date a guy that is raising a kid alone? I don’t get it. What’s the problem? I am not asking them to be her mother. It is Thanksgiving and I was alone all day with my four year old and that’s ok but I need to see other people my age sometimes too. What can I do about this? As soon as tell them that her mother is no longer here with us they get this awful look on their faces and they always ask that too, “Where is her mother”. Then they turn me down and I can’t lie about it because I would have to live that lie. The ones that will date me are weirdoes.
2007-11-22 16:54:20 · 8 answers · asked by xmhkfkj43h87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are a rare bird in the fact that you are a responsible man taking care of a child. What a kind soul you must be. I would have no problem dating a single dad of one, since I am a single mom of one. You must be looking in the wrong places. She's out there, and just be thankful that those who would reject you because of your flesh and blood have done so sooner then later because they have saved you a lot of heart ache and compromise that you do not or should not be having or making.
2007-11-22 17:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Time To Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first, there is not any such element as ''leftover love'' a moms love is thoroughly diverse that love for a guy, or spouce. a lady's coronary heart is infinite. It has extra like to grant than the international has human beings. huge type 2, a mom will consistently look after her little ones. even if or not they were yours. You do n ot ought to stroll on eggshells. basically appreciate her and her little ones and there is not any longer a mission. 3, thats only a copout for you nopt getting your way. maximum female do no longer take the childs area for sake of doing so. Come on now. 4, why are you putting your self in line? no individual comes first and 2d. little ones favor countless care and supervision. instead of huffing and puffing about her doing this n that for the little ones, help her insead. take section AND change into part of the kin. Sound you're too egocentric to love a lady and her youthful little ones. you're better off no longer doing so, and ruining a kin
2016-10-24 22:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing a woman thinks about is the possibility of falling in love with a man that has a child. Many women can't deal with raising a child that is not their own because of the in laws and the difficulties of trying to "take the mother's place".
Also, men tend to spoil their little girls, and it is hard to compete with a child for the father's attention. Daddy's little girl gets jealous, and pushes the new woman away a lot too!!
What happens if she gets attached to the child, then you want to end the relationship? Women are too emotional to deal with these types of situations. Men seem to be able to maneuver through these problems with greater ease .
2007-11-22 17:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry that you are running into selfish people who run away when they find out you are a single dad. But be happy they don't pretend its not a problem and the entire time they are resenting your child. You will find someone who will be mature enough to accept that you are a responsible person. Until then, enjoy your daughter. I wish I lived near you, I would have invited the both of you to dinner.
2007-11-22 16:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by ebonieboo68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy for 5 yrs (the father of my 4 year old) who had a daughter, and it wasn't a problem for me. I think some women don't want a guy who has already been there done that, but others like myself are fine with it. I think it has a lot to do with maturity and age.
Perhaps try to go for a different sort of woman, one who doesn't want kids, but yours is fine?. Or one who has a big heart and can love another child that isn't theirs, not all woman can find it in their heart to do that.
I am not looking forward to this myself, but I know that there are guys out there who are happy with this situation..it just takes a special person that is all..
Keep looking she is out there!.
2007-11-22 17:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a single mom of three and that scares the guys away! You are not alone! My kids have a dad. I'm not going to lie about not having kids to anyone! Someday that special guy will come in to my life! You have to have pateince. Good luck!
2007-11-22 17:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a relationship with a single father.
I was afraid he was still very much in love with the mother
2007-11-22 16:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Water 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would date a single father. I don't consider myself a 'weirdo' either.
2007-11-23 01:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋