Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months. I'm a junior in high school and she is a sophomore. I love this girl a lot, and I don't say we are going to last forever because that's up to fate, but I can honestly say that I can see myself spending the rest of my life with this girl because there is something about her. I know you're all thinking "you're young, you'll find someone else." and while that is the more common case, there is no time frame on love so no one besides us knows what we have. Anywho the question is, would getting her a promise ring (for christmas mostly, but also to show her how much she means to me) be too serious? I mean when I get her the ring I'm not promising I'll marry her, I'm only promising my heart to her and that I will never love another. So what do you guys think? It's ultimately up to me, but I want opinions and what not.
2007-11-22 16:25:11 · 8 answers · asked by georgeisba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She won't get "spooked" cause I talked to her about it last week sometime I brought it up and she said "Awww that'd be so sweet omg, but if my parents thought out they wouldn't think I'm a virgin anymore haha, but if you got me one for xmas I would pretend I never even knew and act surprised" haha, pretty much her exact words.
2007-11-22 16:31:51 · update #1
I would say...YES. I am planning on giving a promise ring to my girlfriend on the 15th of December because I am giving her the promise that I will marry her someday. Unless you are planning to do the same, which you are not, I think you should give her a necklace or a bracelet. After a year or two and you still feel the same way you do now, by golly buy her that promise ring and tell her you want her to have your kids someday...but until then...don't get her anything rings whatsoever. Heck, you might even scare her off if she doesn't feel as deeply in love with you as you do for her. Think about it...
2007-11-22 16:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I have been dating my girlfriend now for 14 months, and it took me 12 until I purchased a promise ring. Originally I thought it was about 5-6 months into the relationship when I wanted to purchase one, but a couple stupid fights and I decided I would be crazy to give one to a girl who I felt I didn't know enough about. She was very upset becasuse, stupidly, she did think she would be receiving one. Now, she has a promise ring and I realize that it is the clear message you deliver with the ring that may have the most effect. Make sure you are clear when you say this is not a promise to marry you, and that this is just because you love her and want to show her that. In my opinion, I would not say that this ring will indicate that you will never love another, because you never know what life holds for you. I delivered mine with the message of "pre-engagement" and I am beginning to regret not making it clearer that it was more just a token of how much I love her. If I were you, I would buy her something nice like a necklace or earings that show her you appreciate her and want her to have something nice, however, I would wait on the promise ring. Although only you really know how you feel, I do know that being naive and infactuated with another happens to everybody, and I am definitely a victim. Whatever you do, just know that you live one life and do what you feel will make you happiest.
2007-11-23 00:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Henry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little bit, fast, 6 months isn't a lot of time. If you are still together NEXT Christmas, yes, but now is too soon, she will get spooked.
2007-11-23 00:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kristennnnn! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months, its not enough time to get a promise, promise ring says to much in my opinion, just get her something nice, that's not 2 expensive from the jewelry store, i just sold my girl friend ex boyfriend promise ring on ebay, get her a nice necklace or bracelet. diamonds say alot
2007-11-23 00:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You appear to be in deep love with her but does she feel the same way about you / If it was me you would scare me and I would pull away from you Think about this possibility before giving her the ring
2007-11-23 00:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be so sweet..giving her a promise ring is just assurance for your loyalty anf full of love to her..well it s serious in a way of how you express your love..a promise is a promise..you must know all the responsibilities attached to that promise ring..anyweiz..go for it..
2007-11-23 00:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by louise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like a sweet thing to give her. there is nothing wrong with giving her something that shows how much you care about her. if anything i think it would help your relationship. just explain to her that you aren't saying you have to marry her just that while you are together you will love her
2007-11-23 00:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by here2help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so cute
i totally think its awesome
say what u just said to us here on YA and she will nvr forget it
:) goodjob buddy!
2007-11-23 00:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋