Family & Relationships - 14 November 2007

My husband and I have always argued since we got together (we'll be married 7 years as of this Thanksgiving) but I always thought that was just the because we were still getting accustomed to each other. Seven years later, it's still the same nonsense if not worse b/c there have been infidelities (on both parts). The only difference is now we have two children (2 1/2yrs and 8 mo.) added to the mix. It honestly feels like the love is gone. We used to cuddle, watch movies, etc. Now we rarely spend time together unless we have friends over or alcohol is involved. The last time we even had sex was over 1 mo. ago (Yes...I've tried... he just doesn't seem interested.) I've suggested marriage counseling... he's not interested. I just don't know what to do anymore. I want to leave but, #1 I don't want to regret it #2 I have no way of supporting my children b/c I'm a stay at home mom (we're in Germany with the US Army) HELP!!! This fighting isn't good for us or our kids! Any suggestions?

2007-11-14 02:30:23 · 10 answers · asked by legalstudent25 2 in Marriage & Divorce

By 'too much information' I refer to things like credit card details (when not making payments) and long personal spiels.

2007-11-14 02:30:01 · 4 answers · asked by Richard C 3 in Singles & Dating

so i have ahd this thing for this guy for a ong time and my friend dated him but they broke up and now he wants to get with me and i dont know if i should or not. i mean she did it to me but is it right for me to do it back to her?

2007-11-14 02:27:54 · 25 answers · asked by lizzie_08 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok I have been living with my mother for four months. I finally found an apartment. To move in I need $237 in all for electric bill and deposit with is cheap. About two weeks ago I worked at the school as a Sub-teacher for five days. So I get paid next week $250 before tax. I need the money to move in my apartment next moth but my mother wants $50 dollars of that. She knows I need the money. We can't get along at all and plus she don't want me there. I thank God she let me stay until I finally found my own place. What should I do? I can't afford to give her anything if I do I won't have enough money to move out her place. What should I do?

2007-11-14 02:27:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i went to my sister church and it was this boy that there and he kept staring at me and i just kept wondering why he kept staring at me so this sunday that just pass he had look at me and said that i like you and i want you so he ask for my number i gave it to him and we started talking that same night. Then he came over my house monday night then we start kissing and talking. And he wanted me to promise him three things fist one is to promise to never cheat on him, second promise to always tell him the truth and three promise to whatever we do keep it to ourselves. is this a real relationship or just he after one thing can it be real or is just a lie.

2007-11-14 02:26:46 · 9 answers · asked by christina b 1 in Singles & Dating

necklace with "I Love You" inscribed on it a good gift to get a girlfriend i will have been with for 2 months by christmas. ?
(as a christmas gift)
i am also writing a poem to give her as well as i like writing poetry

so i am wondering if people think this is a good thing to get as i really want to get somthing really nice for her as she means loads to me

2007-11-14 02:26:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what is the sexiest article of clothing that your spouse can wear that turns you on?

For me, when my wife wears her silky front snap bra or her lacy bras.

2007-11-14 02:24:38 · 31 answers · asked by *D* 3 in Marriage & Divorce

my husband is in the military and has treated me like sht. We were together 3 yrs and last yr he got greencard and then ran to miltary on one phone call he said 'i don't need you anymore the military is taking care of my process" After only one yr of service they give citizenship instead of the standard 7 if not in military. Anyways i already planned on divorcing him for this. Last week though he called me and said he would call me when he got home next week to see see his daughter who is almost 2 . Meanwhile he get weekend passes off base 4 and half hrs away from me never calls for me to bring her as he doesn't have his car there. why because on wekends hotels and strip clubs are more important When he calls i want to have a smart remak letting him know i know about the strip club and that he is not seeing his daughter till visitations are set up at our divorce as his daughter wasn't priority Any smart things i could say as after that call i don't want to ever talk to him again!

2007-11-14 02:23:53 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been dating my boyfriend for about a month and a half now - we have been together 2 weeks "officially". He has lots going for him, but as shallow as it sounds, I am the better looking person in the relationship and many people have asked me what I'm doing with someone who looks like him when I look the way I do.
I don't listen to others, I make decisions for myself on who I do and don't date. However, I DO agree. It's actually starting to get to me that I am quite a bit better looking. This must sound so shallow (especially coming from a 22 year old), but I don't know if it would be wrong of me to continue to date him when I really don't have any physical attraction (there is some level of sexual attraction though). I am wondering if this is going to catch up with me and be a problem down the road. Can someone please offer me some advice? Thanks!

2007-11-14 02:19:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've had a class with this girl for about 4 months and all her friends say she likes me,she laughs at everything I say, and she even invited me to a football game and I went and we had a great time!But I told her friend about my feelings and I told her not to tell her but she did anyways and she said that she told her that I liked her and was sooner or later going to ask her out and she replied,"I want to get to know him better" is she still interested in me?And today she thought I was going to ask her out and out of nervousness I guess, she cried at break so I didn't ask her,oh and also she has never had a boyfriend so could that play into it?I need some advise!

2007-11-14 02:16:51 · 6 answers · asked by clubclan05 2 in Singles & Dating

Yesterday when I was walking home, I saw a gorgeous young women about 27. She was well dressed except she was wearing a pair of stubbs & wootton velvet flats? isn't that a little odd..Aren't those for older women

2007-11-14 02:16:40 · 10 answers · asked by fuji 1 in Singles & Dating

Basically I booked and put down payment for a 4 day/weekend tour for thanksgiving on the 22nd. That was our original plan. However, yesterday I told her that we would have to cancel because my dad did not allow me to go because we are in the process of closing a house and my signature is needed on the 19th, and if things went wrong I may had to stay around to fix things up during that time.

But after I told my gf that we couldn't go, I found out that if we couldnt sign on the 19th, then the next date would be the 26th... Basically I can go regardless and have no problems at all. I text my girlfriend and told her that I can go now and she txt's me back and says she told her parents she isn't going anymore and that we should go next time. (she is the type that doesn't like to change plans and makes up her mind quick)

I am planning to speak to her in person today, but I was wondering is it wrong for if my girlfriend decides she doesnt want to go on the trip anymore?

2007-11-14 02:16:20 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I don't particularly enjoy my job and when I get home I am just tired, completely without 'oomph'. There is also a continuing financial situation where my boyfriend cannot seem to get his act together, I bail him out and it is now straining my bankaccount to breaking point.
I love him, don't want to leave him and do have faith (somewhere) that he will sort himself but I cannot bring myself to sex. As in I don't feel like it and I really don't want to either. The fact that he keeps promising his parents will help out a bit (they have done nothing for our moving in together, my parents have helped out a huge lot) and it always amounts to nothing irritates me, his way of keeping house annoys me. I feel so drained that all I want is to sleep for a few months and now I'm starting to feel guilty for not coming across in the bedroom. But my mind just says 'nononononono' when it comes to physical intimacy with him. What do I do?

2007-11-14 02:14:34 · 5 answers · asked by Elle Dee 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

my friends and i were hanging out and there were like you know i think you'll look really cute with mark. and then i just kinda like oh ok (cause i didnt know who he was) and then these girls go to Mark and they say, you know i think youll look really cute with our friend (me) he was just like oh ok (because he didnt know who i was either. BUT to make a looong story short he eventually saw who i was, and i saw who he was. and my friend was talking to him and was like why arent u talking to her yet, and he says because im scared, because she has a whole bunch of friends and i dont want them taking over (i thought that was a whole bunch of bs) and then the next day he tells her that he doesnt want to pull me away from my school work.
do you think that hes really "scared" or are those excuses a way of saying "im not interested"

2007-11-14 02:11:46 · 16 answers · asked by Marisol J 2 in Singles & Dating

"Once a cheater, always a cheater."?

2007-11-14 02:11:44 · 12 answers · asked by ♥CarolinaMommy♥ 3 in Singles & Dating

what is it with men posting their shirtless bodies on their profiles? do they really think thats how they are going to win women? can that be any more stupid? you are supposed to put a picture on your profile so people know who you are. you could be a familiar face. its like walking in a bar with no shirt on!
first of all, when you put your stupid shirtless bodies on your profile, its "EGOTISTICAL" written all over it. it shows that you are a PLAYER. sluts go for players. real, serious, good quality women DONT (like me). i mean, who do you think you are anyway? what responses do you expect from women by posting that picture? did you really think women would just gravel at your feet and be saying "oh my god u are so hot, lets go out tonight!"?! its so sad to see people who are just craving for attention,craving for compliments that they would go sooo low like posting their shirtless bodies on their profile. what p!sses me off more is some of these men would post their headless bodies!

2007-11-14 02:10:17 · 26 answers · asked by switbaby9 3 in Singles & Dating

Every time I go over to my boyfriends place it’s always untidy, the kitchen is a mess and he leaves dirty plates, empty bags, and exposed food so it goes stale. Etc etc. The lounge is a mess too with clothes on the floor. The first time I went over he made an effort to tidy up and make it look nice but now it seems like he feels he doesn’t need to make the effort. How do I tell him in a subtle way without sounding like a nag to tidy up? It seems to me he likes the mess because I started washing up once to do my bit and help after I stayed there for the day and he told me not to bother.

2007-11-14 02:07:23 · 25 answers · asked by rainbow 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-14 02:06:57 · 5 answers · asked by Aaron 1 in Singles & Dating

ok like im really in love with this boy and he says he's in love with me and maybe one day we can get married and im not so sure its real he protects me alot and i love that part but sometimes i feel like when i look over he's thinkin bout someone else is he in love the way i am

2007-11-14 02:06:09 · 13 answers · asked by m 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-14 02:05:47 · 10 answers · asked by Challah back Girl... 5 in Singles & Dating

I like this girl but she doesn't know I exist, What do I do?

2007-11-14 02:03:30 · 3 answers · asked by Spider 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-14 02:02:45 · 3 answers · asked by boots is bad 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-14 01:56:57 · 11 answers · asked by laky 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Do you read erotica with your spouse? Or alone? What types of stories do you like reading? Do the ones you read alone differ from thouse you read with your spouse? How so?

Ever thought of being written into a sex story? I am willing to write one (for free) about you, your wife/husband, your boss, or anyone else you want in it. Tell me what sort of fetish/kink (no limits) you have and I can take it from there. If you give me details about yourself/them, I can make the characters more realistic for you. (I have email open in my profile if you'd prefer that way)

2007-11-14 01:56:49 · 5 answers · asked by momtosaraandscott 1 in Marriage & Divorce

anybody knows of places with very cheap decoration for a wedding in christmas stile?
i bought some wide silk lace rolls in the christmas tree shop. very cheap. a $ each.
also i bought favors there-> candy canes for 12 pieces for 1$ too.
very good idea for is having there wedding next month too.
now i am just looking for more deco and ideas cheap of course...
any ideas??
i also couldn't find cheap invitations yet....
any advice here?
maybe buy paper and write them??? whats cheaper...???
i was thinking to hand them out instead of mailing them and have them resbond via e-mail???
what do you think?

let me know

oh and i am also looking for a a line slip? cheap, used??? anybody knows what size that would be?


thanks guys

by the way, target has really cute cheap wedding shoes if anybody still needs some....

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2007-11-14 01:54:27 · 12 answers · asked by 237kk 2 in Weddings

I care a lot about this girl..I believe I am even falling in love with her but I don't want too. I refused to date because we live 3 hrs apart and I am in college.I asked her to wait till after I was done but now I might want to get my masters (another 4yrs) or go to the Navy.When I told her this she said she didn't care how long it took for us to be together and that she would wait for me no matter what I do or how far away I go.I really care a lot for her and in my heart I know we will be together one day but I feel like I have to give her a time of when all this will happen. I told her "me and her" situation is stressing me out right now and in return she asked if I wanted to end all this for now..I said yes and now shes gone and has yet to speak to me for 3 days.I didn't want to lose her but I don't know what direction I am going in.She is 24 and has put up with my crap since she was 13.I am 29 and while I know its her I want.. I feel she doesn't deserve to wait..was I wrong?

2007-11-14 01:53:44 · 23 answers · asked by AMANDA 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I understand that Marriage is a serious decision and that there is a close bond even when you arent happy together. I get it that people get married for different reasons and that people and situations change over time. I understand that its a societal and family thing to be married and to break it is to change your place in your family and society and I understand that people are scared financially to be alone. I get it....but what I dont get is the lack of courage people have to live their own lives. If you are not happy and the marriage isnt working and you have tried - then people should move on with their lives. - I see so much of this - people staying in decayed relationships and not living their life to its fulfilment.
What do you think?

2007-11-14 01:50:36 · 19 answers · asked by Sunshine Girl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-14 01:47:01 · 10 answers · asked by maryam y 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If you caught your husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend having an affair; caught them in the act...What would you do???

2007-11-14 01:44:32 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am engaged and am trying to come up with ideas for my future in-laws
my fiance's mother, sister, dad, and grandma...
Something nice but not too impersonal...
ideas please!

His sister is 19, and his dad was a preacher...
I will answer any other questions

2007-11-14 01:32:04 · 3 answers · asked by --Wedded--Bliss-- 3 in Family