Is the saying really true....?

Question

"Once a cheater, always a cheater."?

Do you think it's possible for someone to change?

Answer 1

it is possibel for someone to change. so many people say once a cheater, always a cheater. but that isn't true for everyone. you have to believe in your heart. listen to it. it will tell you what to do. if for some reason you doubt they are being sincere, you're relationship will never be at it's best. also, a lot of times, whoever did the cheatting feels they can continue to get away with it again and again b/c you keep letting them back into your life. IF YOU DO, only forgive them once.

Answer 2

Yeah, generally it's true. I think it's possible to change, but extremely unlikely. I wouldn't trust anyone who has cheated before not to cheat again. The reasoning is that this person is the sort of person that would commit a crime with the expectation that they wouldn't get caught. In other words, their moral compass was not functioning. They used "not getting caught" as a basis for cheating. So you could expect the cheater to act similarly in other circumstances. If you have been cheated on once, you will get cheated on again if you are with the same person.

I know at least 4 people that have been cheated on repeatedly by their ex's AFTER the ex told them it was just that one. Again, this is because the cheater believes they can get away with all the other instances.

Do not trust a cheater. If you do, you will suffer, guaranteed.

Answer 3

Absolutly. Cheating is a really touchy subject. Some people are just morally f*cked in the head, but sometimes, accidents happen. You either realize you made a big mistake and really try to work through it and repair the broken trust and hurt feelings, or you find that you enjoyed the "rush" of cheating and make it a habit. You can't lump all cheating situations together, because they're all different. You need to look at the situation and exactly what happened and why.



Jill C: By accident I mean a "caught up in the moment" thing. Not thinking about your actions or the consequences and not thinking with the head you should have been thinking with. There is also drunken cheating.

Answer 4

Not necessarily. But the cheater has to want to change. I personally have cheated in every 1 of my relationships except for the 1 that I am in now and would never DREAM of cheating on my boyfriend now.

Answer 5

Well, I'd say if you are sleeping with someone who is married, and he actually does leave his wife for you (which is generally more of a string-along technique), you have just picked the horse least likely to finish the race.
To MissMeli - cheating isn't an 'accident', it's a choice. People don't generally have sex by accident.

Answer 6

Its more of a rule of thumb than an hard-and-fast rule. In other words, if someone cheats there is a significant chance they will do it again compared to someone who has never done it. So, overall I dont think its that black-and-white.

Answer 7

No its not true and can be terribly unfair.
However, if someone cheats, his/her mate may forgive if the love is strong enough but it will take time for the trust to regrow.
Trust has to be earned whether you have ever cheated or not.

Answer 8

Yes!
I do beleive that is true!
Because how can you trust someone who cheated on you once not to do it again!
I mean come on think about it!

Answer 9

Ofcourse anyone can change but why did he do it in the first place is my question. In there lies the answer to your question. If he says it was his xes fault run. Grampa B

Answer 10

Yes, it's not always. BUT, the stereotype comes from somewhere. I think there are guys who CAN NOT commit no matter what.