I don't particularly enjoy my job and when I get home I am just tired, completely without 'oomph'. There is also a continuing financial situation where my boyfriend cannot seem to get his act together, I bail him out and it is now straining my bankaccount to breaking point.
I love him, don't want to leave him and do have faith (somewhere) that he will sort himself but I cannot bring myself to sex. As in I don't feel like it and I really don't want to either. The fact that he keeps promising his parents will help out a bit (they have done nothing for our moving in together, my parents have helped out a huge lot) and it always amounts to nothing irritates me, his way of keeping house annoys me. I feel so drained that all I want is to sleep for a few months and now I'm starting to feel guilty for not coming across in the bedroom. But my mind just says 'nononononono' when it comes to physical intimacy with him. What do I do?
2007-11-14 02:14:34 · 5 answers · asked by Elle Dee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not happy. You may even have a touch of depression. Figure out what you want in life and do it. If the job and boyfriend have to go, so be it. It ain't like you're married with kids or anything, your life is your own.
2007-11-14 02:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by ketkonen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you have a lingering feeling somewhere in your subconscious that you are being used to bail him out of financial failures. Perhaps you are afraid that there are certain things not revealed to you and that you will be cast off once you do not have any money to spare.These fears and uncertainty of the future is taking a toll on your mental and physical condition. The non cooperation from his parents is also having its impact on your mind.You may talk all these things with him and let him see that you alone cannot bear the burden. It has to be shared by him and his parents too.
2007-11-14 02:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's doing all he can to pull his weight and pay the bills, there is good reason for you to be the way you describe. It is expected that men furnish their fair share of all the expenses in normal relationships, and once that becomes an issue for not being done, the woman can become very stressed and not want to be sexually involved because of tiredness, etc., and holds it against the male.
2007-11-14 02:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is not going to work out between you two. One of you needs to leave so you can move on. It appears as though resentment is holding you back, deep down you know he is not changing am I right so far ?
2007-11-14 02:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think we all go through this at some time
our bodys just get wore down
exspecially when we are the ones that take care
of everything
maybe you should see your dr and
get some medication to you also might be
haveing deppression
2007-11-17 03:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by cher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋