i went to my sister church and it was this boy that there and he kept staring at me and i just kept wondering why he kept staring at me so this sunday that just pass he had look at me and said that i like you and i want you so he ask for my number i gave it to him and we started talking that same night. Then he came over my house monday night then we start kissing and talking. And he wanted me to promise him three things fist one is to promise to never cheat on him, second promise to always tell him the truth and three promise to whatever we do keep it to ourselves. is this a real relationship or just he after one thing can it be real or is just a lie.
2007-11-14 02:26:46 · 9 answers · asked by christina b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say "No huggie - no kissie till I get my wedding ring"
He say "My honey, my baby - don't put my love up on no shelf"
You say "Don't gimme no lines and KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF!"
This is a churchgoing boy who has got the smooth moves already. He wants to isolate you - you get to tell HIM the truth but you must keep what you both do a secret.
RED FLAGS!
He wants to control you. He probably wants to control you so he can have sex with you. He's not a nice church boy.
2007-11-14 02:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if a guy you just met looks you in the eye and says "I want you" he isn't thinking "I want you to be my girlfriend." Secondly, if he wants you to keep everything you two do together a secret his heart (or mind) isn't in the right place. I would be very careful and let him know what your boundaries are and that you will stick to them no matter what. Also, if he is going to the same church that you are going to let him know if he starts to cross any lines that you believe in religiously. If you tell him that you will talk with other people if he starts to cross the line he might show his true colors. If he ditches you, you'll know what he really wanted. If he sticks around, I'd still be very careful. But only time will tell what he's up too.
2007-11-14 02:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Ruthie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sincerely think this guy just wants some fun. Most likely he's been playing same game with other girls in the church (that might be why he wants you to keep it secret), and a new face means a new territory to explore and conquer. I'd say do not make any promises and do not agree to his terms. Remember, he's saying 'I want you' not 'I love you' they're two different things. When a guy just 'wants' you he can use and dump you. Guard your heart, girl, and don't let this wolf that's hiding in church mess with your heart
2007-11-14 02:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Loved 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So far, all my experiences with guys from church have been bad ones.. this guy sounds no better.. like angelgirl53 said, he sounds like a control freak.. also he's moving really fast; kissing you already and setting rules that are to his advantage esp. the last one.. it's like even if he touches you or have sex with you, no one should know since it might ruin his church-going image (but hey, that's just what i think)...
still, you should seriously re-think about having a relationship with him..
2007-11-14 02:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by me33a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer date this boy. There are standard ameliorations between the Christian and Muslim thoughts of God. I have considered a variety of of marriages between a operating in the route of Christian and a operating in the route of Muslim and all have failed with severe consequences for the youngsters. better than one pal from better than one us of a with a Muslim / Christian blend has instructed me that the more youthful Muslim adult men are taught to actively pursue Christian women individuals with the objective of marrying them, forcing them to rework and then improve the youngsters as Muslim. I have travelled in Nigeria that is torn by ability of conflict between the Muslims and the Christians regardless of the reality that it extremely is as a lot about potential as faith. notwithstanding there is too little difficulty-free floor to construct a lengthy-lasting and us of a huge peace. Your boy might want to easily be a nominal Muslim i.e. Muslim by ability of start yet no longer in prepare. having reported that there are important cultural ameliorations that would want to be very difficult to conquer noticeably in words of the position of ladies individuals and the raising of youthful ones. i'd not be pleased with a promise of going to church interior the destiny. if you're a strong Christian you should be searching for a guy who stocks your faith totally and could flow to church out of authentic faith - otherwise he's completely residing a lie. regardless of each and every thing the Bible says do no longer marry someone isn't a believer. Ask this boy if he believes that Jesus is the Son of God. If he does he will persist with by ability of and be water baptised and this can cost him very a lot. If his dad and mom are real Muslims they're going to disown him. In some Muslim international locations he might want to be killed. My suggestion isn't to even date this boy no count number number how "positive" he's. Love does no longer conquer all if there are standard ameliorations interior the definition of love and how that's lived out.
2016-10-24 05:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda sounds like hes feeding you a pile but... i could be wrong
maybe you should just stay friends with him OR kissing buddies for a long while just until you find out and dont promise him anything
2007-11-14 02:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is moving very fast. It doesn't seem like a real relationship.
2007-11-14 02:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by Cowgirl26 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to me this boy sounds like he just wants some fun could be wrong
2007-11-14 02:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a control freak.
i wouldnt get to involved with him..
2007-11-14 02:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋