Family & Relationships - 9 November 2007

There is this guy i know, and we're more than acquaintances but not quite friends. We just talk online, say hi and chit chat at school he kinda flirts with me). He has a girlfriend and i think they are pretty serious, so i don't really flirt back.

But anyway, he e-mailed me and asked me who i liked...but the thing is i like HIM, and i don't want to tell him because of his girlfriend. i mean i like a couple of other people but they are nothing but crushes. So what should i say back? should i ask him why he is asking? and why the hell is he randomly asking me who i like?

2007-11-09 14:28:12 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My husband and I got married and moved 8 hours from my hometown a year ago. I miss my family at home soooo terribly much. We just opened a business here (in our new location), and on top of doing all of that, I teach dance at night and am going to school. I am miserable with my husband, away from my family, and I'm so stressed out. Should I drop everything and just leave? I don't know what to do, but I know I don't want to spend the rest of my life unhappy.

2007-11-09 14:27:42 · 20 answers · asked by Jenny L 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-09 14:27:26 · 4 answers · asked by SEXINESS 3 in Family

my mom's thinking of getting a divorce with my dad whom beats me up, yells at me with curse words and to my mom. he gambles and lost +$1000 and my mom cant take it anymore. but he buys me food to keep me alive and sometimes have some good times but not really. so why am i not sad?

2007-11-09 14:22:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Give me every single detail on a woman you would NOT want to leave.

Im talking everything
any detail you can think of about a perfect woman i want to hear

there are no wrong answers boys!! so lets get those details ROLLIn!!

is she blonde? is she fat?
does she cater to your every need??
i know u all know what a good woman is..

2007-11-09 14:21:29 · 21 answers · asked by heatheranne4420 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-09 14:18:59 · 25 answers · asked by Kenny G 1 in Marriage & Divorce

is it true once a cheater always a cheater?

2007-11-09 14:17:50 · 8 answers · asked by Conteplative 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband has 2 young kids with his ex girlfriend and we have a 2 year old son together also. Well my mother in law has a relationship with all the mothers of her grandkids including his ex although they never married (she still calls her "daughter in law" along with me and my brother in laws wife). Anyway she still has the ex's picture on the wall along with a picture of my hubsand and her together...right beside OUR pics together. My husband and I tried to be subtle by only taking the one of them together down first when she wasnt around but she just put it back up without saying anything. How can I/he/we nicely ask her to take the pictures down without offending her?

2007-11-09 14:17:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I just got married to a wonderful woman 3 months ago. Her behaviour for the past few months has been a bit odd. For one, she will get mad about small things and hold a grudge forever. She leaves the house instead of helping resolve any issues. It makes things so much worse, and she just doesn't get it. Tonight, she got mad at me for giving her old cell phone to a friend who needed it after she told me it was okay. The phone was two years old and unused. She then left and won't answer her phone. This behaviour tears my heart out because I try so hard for her and she doesn't see it.

We are doing counselling next week, be she hates to be judged or criticized. I'm afraid she just won't listen and will hate every second of it.

I don't have a clue on how to get through to her about this. It's tearing us apart. What do I do in a situation like this?

2007-11-09 14:09:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I are split up now as he drove down to cali from oregon and took his things with him and unpacked at his moms and has been there for 3days now and has decided not to come home. We have had a lot of stress in our lives for different reasons one is we moved my dad in because he has cancer and needs some help and support and we both love him. Anyhow his mom came to visit for a week and decided to run to a hotel when i hurt her feelings about driving down early, I was nervous about our uninsured vehicle and we needed to talk and she heard us arguing and said she didnt want us to argue about her so she was going to a hotel and finding her own way home and I said that I was sorry, I did not mean it, it was a misunderstanding to please stay but she wouldnt and he decided that he couldnt stand how i treated his mom so he was leaving too and bam he was gone. He called, I said come home, work it out, but he went then called to work it out I said it was too late but it hurts so ..

2007-11-09 14:08:01 · 27 answers · asked by scsspace 3 in Marriage & Divorce

it is what the title says are you selfish be truthful about your answers!

2007-11-09 14:01:50 · 9 answers · asked by david t 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-09 13:55:52 · 17 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7 in Friends

asked you?

2007-11-09 13:52:32 · 8 answers · asked by smiles 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

theres this guy I met at summer program and I asked him for his screename, I IMed him every few days for a month, but I realized that no matter how long I talked to him or how interested he sounded in the conversation, it didn't really matter because he never IMed me first. Because of this, I didn't Im him for about a month and a half because I thought maybe he didn't want to talk to me, but then I saw him a few times at track event and decided to IM him again about 2 weeks ago, and we had a really good conversation and he didn't sound bored at all and was really in to it. what I don't understand is why he still doesn't IM me, I don't think I've been annoying him, I don't IM him that often and its not like he had one word answers and that was it at all. I'm really confused and don't know what to think
(btw he is single)

2007-11-09 13:51:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been with the same company for 9 years. My husband is being transferred, so I must go with him to another state. I'm just wondering, is there anything I should do for my last day? This was my first job right out of high school and it's going to be really strange to leave. My co-workers are having a party for me, but is there anything I should do?

2007-11-09 13:51:08 · 11 answers · asked by CherBear 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I went to a wedding last weekend (brother of my fiancee) and we have had 3 weddings in the last 2 1/2 months in the family... (one of which is ours coming up in 2 weeks). My children and my fiancee were all in the wedding... Due to the cost of out of town hotel rooms, 2 tux rentals, gas to get there, food while we were there, a flowergirl dress and various other expenses...( home bills ) I didn't have the time to pick one up nor money to give a card at that time. (which was also the case with his sister) I planned on sending one this weekend with a check in it... How rude is it that the groom called us and asked why we didn't give them a card... (this happened the next morning as we were driving home) Then he called his parents and sister and complained to them also!!!! I thought you had up to one year to send a wedding gift! Am I wrong to feel offended???

2007-11-09 13:49:50 · 28 answers · asked by daniegirl917 2 in Weddings

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2007-11-09 13:49:33 · 11 answers · asked by Copper Cat 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband and I have a 2 year old son together but her also has a 5 and 3 year old with his ex-girlfriend. Some of my inlaws complain that I "come between" the parental relationship of my husband and his ex because he is never around her without me. However my husband always tells me he doesnt like being around her without me and I even have to force him to call her instead of me calling most of the times. He has told his family once or twice that he doesnt want to be close to her or deal with her if he doesnt have to. How can I make them understand that this is not just me being an overbearing wife?

2007-11-09 13:49:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-09 13:48:24 · 13 answers · asked by toocool4you 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A girl that is a little over-weight but has an amazing personality and can truly understand whats up...OR...a girl that is georgeous on the outside but has no sense at all?

2007-11-09 13:45:46 · 23 answers · asked by Noneur B 2 in Singles & Dating

my parents don't frekin let me do anything! i'm getting so pissed! the lateis i can stay out is like 6:00 pm, i can't spend the night at any of my friends house unless my parents know them, every where i go i have to call them and tell them where i am, if i go to the mall with my friends one of my parents have to be with us at all times what fun is that?! the only fredom i have is at school. i can't go anywhere without planing ahead like 3 weeks, cuz my parents have to know where i'm going, who i'm with, how long i going, and if theres gonna be someone over the age of 18 with us.

2007-11-09 13:45:09 · 41 answers · asked by Daina 1 in Family

i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years . we have talked about after we both get out of college we'd like to get married. The other day his step mom let it slip that he had gotten an engagment ring. When i asked him about it he siad it was true and said that he wanted to give it to me very soon. I'm worried that when he does i won't be able to tell them the truth about our engagment. I'm only seventeen, but i have no intention of getting married until after college. My dad is very strict about guys. When i had my frist boyfriend he didn't talk to me for a whole weekend and i was in 8th grade and it wasn't even like a real boyfriend. I just don't want them to over react and veto the idea. should i just hide it?

2007-11-09 13:43:07 · 8 answers · asked by dominospizza2610 1 in Family

am hurting inside, I feel as if I don’t like my husband at all these are the reasons why…



There is no friendship between us. He won’t hold a conversation with me unless itinvolves his job and his money



He is too serious. He is expressionless and rude. He seems to be acting all the time. Like an actor. He tries to baby talk me and five minutes later be rude.

The last few days have been hard; he hasn’t made love to me in 2 weeks and 2 days. Ever since he has been doing my college algebra. He says he is stressed out. He is doing this for me because he said that he wants me to get it over with. I will have to take it a few times. Math hasn’t been my greatest subject. Even though he is taking the math he is mean to me.

We live alone, I like to talk you no get to know each other on a daily basis, and He won’t talk to me about any thing, Sports, or anything. If I try to just have a conversation with him he yans and rolls his eyes and just stares at me. Often he will smirk at me in a making fun of me manner.

Often in the car I have to have conversations with my friends because he won’t talk to me. I have to find things to amuse myself with.

He laughs at me not with me. Makes fun of me, in a relationship we are supposed to laugh together.
Not at someone.

When we go out dancing, he won’t twirl me around or do anything with me. He just rocks a little. At looks at me no dipping no laughing no having a blast anything

There is no laughter in the marriage, he wont kid he is very uptight, he doesn’t expressing self to me at all. He wont sing, dance in front of me

Very closed in, quiet wont let me know him and then he blames me for it and tells me I don’t know him and if I did I would trust him. I would trust him if he let me in he keeps me locked out. We are together but I feel so far apart. I am not close to him but he is close to me he says... maybe because I let him in and he keeps me out. (I don’t know him because he keeps me out.

When we make love, he has sex with me in the same position all the time. He doesn’t really connect with me and doesn’t exactly really want to.

I am the giver and lover he isn’t. He is the taker.
If I want to talk about my friends or family or anything really he just won’t talk.



If I want to talk to him about problems he refuses to listen an d if he does listen he will just tell me its all in my head and that hear we go again,

He is rude in our house. If I am not ready for bed and he is, he turns off the lights while I am walking around the house. He turns off the TV when I am watching it, if we fight about it he says you said you were going up stairs to sleep. He manipulates me, I said to him. I said I was going up to bed but I was still watching the TV. He always turns the lights off on me when I am walking around the house. I have to walk in the dark.

When I am sick, he won’t take care of me, when he is sick I take care of him. Get is median and things,

He wont use sex toys on me or even make love to my body he rushes threw sex and its over in 10 to 15 minutes if that.

He accuses me of his STD that he caught he tells me I gave it to him and it makes me cry. He gave it to me and didn’t tell me he had it until 2 years later.

He sides with people that are being mean to me; he won’t step up as a man and defend what he is supposed to love.

He expects me to shower him with good sex and attention even though he doesn’t give it to me,

He is horrible in bed; he won’t participate in any sexual games or fantasy things with me so I am always bored. He tells me I lay there and he needs something more but I am the one who comes up with all this cool stuff to do and he refuses to do it.

No matter what I say and do I am wrong about it. If he is wrong he won’t admit to it,

WE cant do anything that’s free like lay in the grass and he together cause he wont talk to me and if he does its about business so every thing we do has to be about money

He agrees with every thing that I say.

I don’t trust him; he just acts like he just doesn’t give a ****,


Takes care of me financially but not emotionally. Gives the wrong things.

We don’t have the same friends. He wont bring his friends around me keeps them far far away. He doesn’t hang with any friends, and he is strange. I feel lonely a lot. Don’t know what to do .what will happen if I let him go. I want things to be different he wont listen to me and change. I tell him we need to have friends hang out with them do things he wont bring his friends around me and he keeps me far away from everyone.

He doesn’t like it if his friends and family pay attention to me he wants all the attention h e is afraid they are going to like me better or something. He thinks that they are going to like me and turn on him it’s like a fight.

He tries to shub me in a sardine can and lower myself esteem by doing all of these things.

If were on a small vacation like going to see family he wont stop so I can smell the flowers and take pictures and things.

He just wants sex when he wants it and that’s it , he will make sure its not worth having with him he makes sure we never have fun together


But yet, he will do some of my math and help me with school. Pay all my bills take care of me and give me money

2007-11-09 13:41:34 · 11 answers · asked by christina b 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-11-09 13:39:50 · 23 answers · asked by jamiedoll77 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I REALLY like this guy, we have one class together, and are what you might call 'old friends'. We've been friends since 8th grade, except in 10th we never saw each other. I'm pretty sure he liked me in 8th grade, but I was too stupid to do anything about it. Now, I still like him, and I think he still likes me. The big problem here is that we're both EXTREMELY shy. The most we muster up is, "Are you ready for the big quiz? etc..." It's awkward, because we used to be so open with each other, and I think what is creating the awkwardness is the romantic tension. I always get myself pumped to talk to him after class, but he almost never leaves his best friend's side, and I'm not about to confide to him about this in front of his friend. I just want some tips on how to get closer to him, maybe spend some time studying or just taking a walk. Any help is appreciated, most informative and helpful gets 10 pts. Thanks so much.

P.S. We're both 17 in 11th grade, and share just the one class.

2007-11-09 13:35:22 · 4 answers · asked by Jess 2 in Singles & Dating

For the first 4 weeks after my son was born, my relationship w/ my husband was very strong, but over the last few months things have become very bad and our relationship is really strained. I have been home w/ my son for almost 4 months and return to work soon. He feels that I am a control freak w/ our son and that whatever I say goes...his opinions or suggestions don't matter. He feels that I am unbearable to be around. Anything I do regarding our son angers him. Tonight he fed him a 6 oz bottle of expressed milk and my husband felt he wanted more. After a big burp I thought my son was content. He was put down and woke 2x. We gave him another ounce finally and he fell asleep. Because I did not even consider his suggestion he feels that I do whatever I want and his thoughts don't matter. I don't mean to be this way and I don't want to continue to push him away, but I don't know how to change when I am with my son 24 hours a day! Any suggestions.

2007-11-09 13:34:39 · 15 answers · asked by STort 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Looking for some good date night ideas. My fiance and I want to go out tomorrow night. We are both tight on cash. We wanna do something other than the movie and dinner date. Any ideas of something fun to do on a Saturday night that isn't to expensive.

2007-11-09 13:33:08 · 13 answers · asked by bluemonarch17 3 in Singles & Dating

I feel like my marriage of 12 years is falling apart. I married my first love at 20 and we now have 3 children. I don't know if I have the 12 year itch, or what. I have been struggling with a decision to end this marriage but I hesitate for the obvious reason...my children. My husband does not cheat on me, has a steady job, does not drink (just social, on occasion), and seems like a good guy from the outside. Now that I have been thinking of ending this marriage, my family admits they do not like him because he is unfriendly and anti-social. My husband's faults do not end there. He is overly cranky and crabby with the kids (my 7 year old recently asked my why I had to marry him), he is not involved with them outside of sitting next to them on the couch (not to say he has never interacted with them...he is just lazy most of the time), he does little work around the house (I mow the yard 50% of the time, I do all of the painting, hanging of fans/lights), he is consumed with things

2007-11-09 13:32:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-09 13:31:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If a 9 year old boy tells a 6 year old girl about stuff and shows her and touches her and stuff what would that be considered?

2007-11-09 13:28:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating