Family & Relationships - 9 November 2007

One of my bridesmaids has been very difficult the entire engagement period. She has not once expressed her happiness towards the fact that one of her best friends (myself) is getting married. It is VERY apparent that she is jealous that she is not yet engaged and her jealousy is coming across as extremely demeaning towards me. She has belittled every aspect of our wedding. Every time I get excited about the cake, limo, DJ, etc. she let's me know that her taste is completely different and that what I'm doing is totally not suitable for her wedding. I don't mind opinions but she is telling me that everything I'm doing wouldn't be good enough for her. Also, she talks about her wedding (which is non-existent right now because she is not engaged) more than I do! She has no interest in talking about mine, it's all about her her her. Call me selfish but I mean c'mon, can't we worry about the close approaching wedding first? What do I do?!?!?

2007-11-09 11:40:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My man started a fight with me for no real reason. He says I don't show him that I appreciate him, but I am usually the one that initiates physical contact, I do the little romantic things, and I call him all the time. We are in a long distance relationship but we see eachother often. I don't show him when the things he says hurt me, thats just how it was in my family. Then when he really does cross a line he acts like all he has to do is stop arguing and I'll be okay. Well yesterday he crossed a line and I told him I needed time to think if this relationship was healthy or not. All couples fight and he is a good man, but I worry that he is projecting his unhappiness with himself out on me. what do you think?

2007-11-09 11:40:29 · 16 answers · asked by The thinker 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My sister and her husband seperated several years ago but never filed for divorce and both moved on with their lives. The problem she faces is losing custody of their daughter. He plays the card that she had another mans baby(3 years after the seperation). So she is considering filing for divorce using dissertation as grounds. A few years ago he was under investigation for a felony crime so he took off to New York with his girlfriend. Since the crime was unfounded no further charges were persued for leaving the state. He now believes he is invenceable or untouchable, based on his ability to avoid being convicted for his crimes. She still resides in the city she married in and gave birth to their daughter. He is the one who chose to move away.

2007-11-09 11:39:31 · 8 answers · asked by ladyt51901 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is leaving me again. I have tried for 17 years to get him to love me. He is my heart. No one can live without a heart

2007-11-09 11:37:30 · 40 answers · asked by sissy 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-09 11:35:22 · 14 answers · asked by daz r 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Typical story before marriage you had sex every time you saw each other, once during the week and 3 times on the weekend, nothing was off limits, and the sex was wild and passionate. Then you get married, and soon after she doesn't want to give head, at all, eventually she doesn't want to even touch it, now she hardly ever wants sex, she rejects the husbands attempts more often then accept, and when she does accept it's ho-hum sex with out much effort put in on her part. Based on her limitations (things she'll no longer do) the husband dosnt have many options so its the same thing most of the time.

She uses excuses like head ache, on the rag when she's not, too tired, not in mood, wait until tomorrow then dosn't follow thru.

If I described you please explain the real reasons you don't want to have sex with your husband, if you only knew to what extent that the rejection is hurting your man and the relationship would you'd rethink it

2007-11-09 11:34:16 · 6 answers · asked by Answerman 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 17 and I'm looking for a girlfriend but I'm having trouble. At school I made friends with some really nice girls but they have boy friends. I tried craigslist but all the girls there were old or bbw's. Where can I find nice single girls that I can carry in my arms and are around my age. So where can I meet some single girls around my area.

2007-11-09 11:32:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, me and this girl are like really good friends . We promised each other that we will always be there for each other . I'm close with her parents & brother..and I surprise her by buying her stuff, and occasionally, I act as her boyfriend to tell dudes that bother her to back off.

But anyway, my best friend girlfriend introduced me to her and in the beginning we kissed each other lightly once, nothing big. But we haven't really tried getting close to each other like that now .. I guess we are both scared if we get into a relationship it would ruin our already close friendship.

but we do FLIRT with each other ALOT .. like we would play with each other hands and we would just have playful staring contests, and when i pick her up she wraps her legs around me..

I like her..but i'm more concerned with being her friend right now, because she did just get out of a year and a half relationship..and i guess all she needs right now is a friend.

So how do u think she feels about me ?

2007-11-09 11:31:02 · 22 answers · asked by theGREATEST. 4 in Singles & Dating

okay, i am friends with the majority of the guys, i play sports, but im also a girly kinda girl, i think im the perfect match ya know? lol. but i dont get it, i think im doing eveything right, im funny, not ugly or anything. its just weird. the only thing i dont do is dress like a slut and im sick of waiting for guys to notice me. any advice for flirting or just to notice me for me? im just sick of waiting, ya know?

2007-11-09 11:30:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I know he has some kind of feeling for me still but i hurt him. i dont want to get too into what happened but he said i changed his life and that he wanted to marry me, recently i hurt him and he wont talk to me he said he is back to his old reckless self and doesnt want to talk to me. he says he hates me but he acts like this when he is hurting. now he has a girlfriend and i want him back. and i keep getting pulled into it, his girlfriend msgs me asking me for my side and i have been talking to her. i dont know what to do he found out and i feel like im pushing him futher away. i want him back. he has only been with her for about 2 weeks. what should i do? i feel like there is still something hidden inside him but he puts on the front that he hates me. give me advice!

2007-11-09 11:26:16 · 6 answers · asked by kamdgal 1 in Singles & Dating

be honest!

2007-11-09 11:24:25 · 14 answers · asked by Austin C 1 in Marriage & Divorce

when those things are sperm?

I really want a baby and I can't afford the In Vitro thing... Luckily I have a friend who works at the sperm bank and she said she would get me some for a little "at home baking" (nudge, nudge).

Where is the best place to hide the little plastic cup of wigglies until she gets to my place?

2007-11-09 11:20:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My boyfriends ex-wife is trying to do this (I'm sure just to hurt my man) She is a total control freak, lies all the time, tries to scam him. She uses the child to get what she wants, with no regard to his well-being. Any stories to share? Thoughts on what to do about this?

2007-11-09 11:20:33 · 8 answers · asked by Sparxfly 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I dont know what to do anymore. My husband thinks I can trust him after he went behind my back and saw his ex-finance like 3 times. Then when I actually tell him that I didnt put a spyware program on here (after I found out that he was chatting with his ex through email, texting, seeing her in person, and calling her) and TRYING to trust him again but how can I trust him when he purposely goes to his moms to go to his email which makes me think he is hiding something. I havent done anything to make him not trust me in the way I dont trust him! If he has nothing to hide shouldnt he be able to go online here? Does it seem like he has something to hide? And how do I get his trust back?

2007-11-09 11:14:25 · 10 answers · asked by rachael m 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My friend is mad at me and has been ignoring me for the last 3 days. She told me 2 days before that she was mad at me because I don't listen to her or take her seriously, which, I think I do. Im sorry for whatever it was that I did and I want her to start talking to me again. I hate having her mad at me and its made me like…Idk…not me. Ive been crazy sad, and people have been noticing; it seems like shes the only one that hasnt. And I want her to notice so she gets that I am sorry and I want to go back to the way things were. Help?

I know shes gonna read this so here:

Dead - Like a candle you burned out;
spill the wax over the spaces left in place of angry words.
Scream - To be heard, like you needed any more attention;
throw the bottle, break the door, and disappear.

Sing me to sleep, I'll see you in my dreams,
waiting to say, "I miss you. I'm so sorry."

Forever's never seemed so long as when you're not around
it's like a piece of me is missing.

-Lullabies

2007-11-09 11:10:36 · 20 answers · asked by Jealousheartswillleaveusinruins♥ 3 in Friends

I have been with a girl for 6 years. we 24, and 22. eveything had been great. She has had a rough childhood and some bad events in her life that have happened. I have been nothing but good to her. I think I even may have spoiled her. Even since her dad got a new job where he is only home once every 2 months, and her best friend dumped her alacholic boyfrind she has changed. It seems like she just started hanging out more w her bf, and drinking more. not crazy, she still does great in college and works alot. She eventaully broke up w me, saying that we need time apart or this would never turn out right. I bugged her like crazy 2 come back and work things out. it seemed to push her farther away. However, she lied to me about seeing another guy after the breakup. this guy is ok, but hes a hs dropout, smokes, drinks alot, and will go nowhere. Anyways she is a real ***** right now. The only thing she has told me is that she just needs time away from me because she is too selfish

2007-11-09 11:07:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-09 11:07:52 · 8 answers · asked by KISS ME♥*´`*•.¸★ 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-11-09 11:06:34 · 4 answers · asked by carolv 1 in Singles & Dating

I would like to plan a destination wedding in Greece, but I am not sure where to start. I have found a lot of companies that have packages on the internet, but I am not sure how to find out if these companies are reputable (especially if they are outside of the US). Has anyone had any experience planning a destination wedding and if so, do you have any advice for things to do or not do and how go about planning a destination wedding? Has anyone used a specific company that did a good job? Do you know of a source where I could find out which companies that do destination weddings in Greece are reputable? Thanks!

2007-11-09 11:05:54 · 6 answers · asked by Leela 2 in Weddings

If you are sincere I'll give you my address and I'll send you a card in return. Dad and I lost mom this year and we are trying to make the most of it.

2007-11-09 11:02:34 · 3 answers · asked by joni 5 in Friends

im having a good time at my house all alone
im pms-ing
im eating yummy popcorn that i just made
i dont wanna go
i hav to call her back... whats a good, creative excuse?

2007-11-09 11:02:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Ive been cranky ever since, buTT iT hurts so badd=/
i h8 iTT and i dnt knw wuTT t0 d0

2007-11-09 11:01:54 · 7 answers · asked by Juicy Girl.♥♪ 4 in Friends

like if u got in a fight with someone u really want 2 be friends

2007-11-09 10:59:40 · 4 answers · asked by zronet 1 in Friends

In Christianity, its a sin. So my question is... why is it so bad to marry someone who has been married once? I love her... its hard to control ones heart.

Why is it so sinful to marry someone who has been married and divorced?

Also... what happens if you fall in love with someone who is married... is it a sin to secretly have feelings for them even though they are married? what if they are in an abusive relationship?

2007-11-09 10:59:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I originally planned to elope- now it's become a tiny bit more elaborate- but still less than 50 people.... and family only- no friends. I wanted to have a couple of my nieces be flower girls- and my son, and soon to be stepson to be ringbearers..... does this seem odd not to have a real bridal party? I almost feel like we'll look like we don't have any friends- or didn't have anyone to ask.......

2007-11-09 10:58:01 · 21 answers · asked by **leigh** 3 in Weddings

I've noticed that it really doesn't matter what the situation is, the majority of people on here say that its time to break up or move on. Why is that? Why can't people understand that sometimes moving on is the absolute last option? I understand that in some cases it is inevitable but in most, things aren't so bad that you can't work them out YET people are always saying move on, what's up with that?

2007-11-09 10:57:34 · 36 answers · asked by First Lady 5 in Singles & Dating

Been married almost 20 years to the kind of man I had prayed for most of my life. He is kind, helpful, funny, smart, a wonderful dad and very good looking (added bonus). About 10 years into marriage things just went wrong. I developed a severe crush on a man who was into me. Consequently, we formed a friendship with benefits that involved a couple of kisses (no sex). Sometime in the next year while out of town I encountered 2 men who were close to our family and I proceeded to have sex with one and just kissed the other one. Why on earth would I do something like this to the man I swore in front of God and many people that I would love and cherish forever, for better or worse? A few months ago I engaged in flirty conversations with 2 guys from my work. I have made a full confession to my husband, who claims that he’s suspected my infidelity all along.

Why have I done this? I’m optimistic that we can work it out, and he will accompany me to counseling.

2007-11-09 10:57:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my best friend just got asked out by my crush that i've liked 4 two years.but she likes him too. idk what to do...i cried alot cuz i am really upset and they already made out and stuff, but i really <3 him, so how do i win him back?

2007-11-09 10:55:39 · 7 answers · asked by tiger_girl2202 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok, well my last post was about me like.. well.. never mind :P read it!
Anyway, guys as well as girls can answer this x

What do women *girls* want in a guy, is body better than looks? Or is Personality better than style?

Let me know x

p.s Sorry for spelling ect, Im just posting, and not vettin x

IM ALSO On da pull :P Soooooooo Help me :(

p.p.s Im 14 Nearly 15 x

2007-11-09 10:54:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We've decided to order a Redfish cake as the groom's cake. I need some ideas on how to decorate the table to match with the whole Redfish theme. Any ideas would really help..the wedding is in January!

2007-11-09 10:53:49 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings