My last question.... I need as many answers as possible?

Question

I have been with a girl for 6 years. we 24, and 22. eveything had been great. She has had a rough childhood and some bad events in her life that have happened. I have been nothing but good to her. I think I even may have spoiled her. Even since her dad got a new job where he is only home once every 2 months, and her best friend dumped her alacholic boyfrind she has changed. It seems like she just started hanging out more w her bf, and drinking more. not crazy, she still does great in college and works alot. She eventaully broke up w me, saying that we need time apart or this would never turn out right. I bugged her like crazy 2 come back and work things out. it seemed to push her farther away. However, she lied to me about seeing another guy after the breakup. this guy is ok, but hes a hs dropout, smokes, drinks alot, and will go nowhere. Anyways she is a real ***** right now. The only thing she has told me is that she just needs time away from me because she is too selfish

and self centered. Its sad but its true. I think she though I did stuff her her that she should of done for herself. she keeps telling me that shes not in a relatinship, which I believe I think she is just being a slut. which she was always soo againt. anyways these last 2 months have been such a mess, real bad. She told me yesterday that she really needs time and I do too, so I am not soo dependent on her. I told her that she didnt break my heart yet, but what if i wait and she does. She got all mad and upset and cryed. I said well " are you thinking we really just need time, and your not going to hurt me at the end and it will work out" she said yes and she has said this many times. The mean stuff she said to me I know i shouldnt take seriously when she is in this stage. maybe shes meesed up cause she might of seen another guy and her emotions are a mess. should i believe her that we really need time?? and should i really just loose contact w her for a good month or so.

what could I do in the mean time, to kinda show her? she has a big problem trusting people because of things in her past. Even though that is no excuse what should I do. It seems like I have never turned on her and she has on me. Should I use jealously and hang out w other girls or ?? I do love the girl and want to clean up the mess.

no she called her self selfish and self center. she told me she was last night.

Answer 1

It's a very hard situation to be in. But I'm guessing you really don't have a choice but to get away from her for some time. She sounds really messed up, i think she really doesn't know what she wants. It really sucks because if you're waiting for her and she doesn't really intend to come back and work things out, you'll just get more hurt.
My best advice to you is to leave her alone for a while. Too bad she's risking losing you... i mean, does she really expect you to wait while she's out with other dudes?
I know it's hard, but ... just let her go. If it's meant to be, you'll be together again.

add:
First off, tell her to go and fix herself then. That you'll go live your life. Not necessarily meaning you're going to be looking for other girls, but let her know that if she's leaving you alone, it may happen. You know how most people work, no one really appreciates what they have until they lose it. If she feels she has you there, all secure, for whenever she decides to go back to you, it will only make her take you for granted. So, i would suggest you offer this kind of "i'll wait for you, but you are at the risk of losing me any given day" kind of speech. She shouldn't be hurt by it being as she was with another guy already. Anyway, it should be true, you can't turn away happiness if it does happen to come your way while she's out there with another figuring out what she wants. You have to think about yourself too.

Answer 2

I think you should let this one go. She sounds like she is too young and immature to be dating one person right now. She doesn't want to be with you, so pursuing her is not going to work. I think you should spend some time grieving, after all, you've been dating for a long time. It might be six months before you feel like yourself again. In the meantime, don't date just to make her jealous, you're not ready to date and you shouldn't use other people like that. Just take some time to be by yourself and do things for yourself, like walking or hiking. Maybe do some travel if you can, even if it's just a weekend away. Get away from the situation. I hope this helps you, I know you are having a hard time right now.

Answer 3

I dnt exactly but ill try to help.
First of all, think what you think is really best, but if that doesn't work then try waiting for a while, and see if she really is with some other guy. If she is then maybe you should date for a while. If you too are supposed ot bne together, then surelyyou would no it? and if you really were then why is she so determined to take such a big break? if you think shes the right one then stay and wait for her. But you could always try dating someone else?

Answer 4

"this guy is ok, but hes a hs dropout, smokes, drinks alot, and will go nowhere"

THAT's a guy you think is ok?????

Who the heck do you hang out with?

She isn't worth it. Move on. Honestly, why do you people settle for this? She's lying to you, man.

Answer 5

maybe lol i need to be a little nicer i no u dont want to hear it but u just calded her a selfish alcholic ***** mmm.....not nice words dude.ur growing apart that life just be happy u had what u did sum pl will never get that. stop puting her down and let her go luv

Answer 6

well you answered your own question there hon she is a real B:tch

Answer 7

what is the question?