I dont know what to do anymore. My husband thinks I can trust him after he went behind my back and saw his ex-finance like 3 times. Then when I actually tell him that I didnt put a spyware program on here (after I found out that he was chatting with his ex through email, texting, seeing her in person, and calling her) and TRYING to trust him again but how can I trust him when he purposely goes to his moms to go to his email which makes me think he is hiding something. I havent done anything to make him not trust me in the way I dont trust him! If he has nothing to hide shouldnt he be able to go online here? Does it seem like he has something to hide? And how do I get his trust back?
2007-11-09 11:14:25 · 10 answers · asked by rachael m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He needs to understand that he should be an open book. By pushing himself away and not being open with you (yes, about everything) then he is betraying your trust. The idea here is he should be conserned about gaining YOUR trust back. By hiding out at his mother's he is only pushing himself away and demonstrating curious behavior. Of course you're going to be worried. When I read the question so was I. You're afraid of getting hurt again. If you really want to keep trying with your husband explain to him how much he hurt you when he betrayed you and ect.
2007-11-09 11:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is a tough question !If he has to go to mommy's house to read his email then I would have a hard time trusting him also .If you can find out what email he is using and his password and you should be able to open it up again from your house as long as he isn't reading his email at that time I know you love him but you need to take a long look at this relationship and decide if its worth it .Pray about it and ask GOD what HE would do .I know it talks about adultry being a biblical reason for divorce that not only covers the girlfriend but also the porn!
2007-11-09 19:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by oxendinebrenda 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not the one who should be trying toget him to trust you,you did nothing wrong. Your husband is definitely up to no good and is hiding something from you,he is trying to turn it around and make you feel guilty. That all part of it,when a partner is cheating the only defense he has is to turn it around on you,make you feel like you did something wrong or you drove him to it and it usually works. He is your husband and he has no business going somewhere else to use a computer.He is doing something he does not want you to see and there is only one thing a man wants to hide from his wife, he is carrying on with his ex.
2007-11-09 19:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why do you need to get his trust back? I think a personal vacation is in order here. Go find some sun and think about if this is worth it. I am sure you'll make the right choice
2007-11-09 19:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is obviously not a trust problem, of course he is hiding something what is so "private" he doesn't want you to see?
and even if he knew you were checking his stuff if he has nothing to hide he shouldn't have this misterious attitute.
Be careful and find out what is going on... it sounds to me like he is hiding something...
2007-11-09 19:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need YOUR trust back, not his...and getting your trust back isn't going to be easy if he is still going behind your back...have you confronted him? and i think he is hiding something if he is going to mommy's house!
2007-11-09 19:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needs to earn your trust... not the other way around.
You should dump him before he does something worse like
cheat on you.
2007-11-09 19:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by georgia_peach 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course he has something to hide......
Trust has to be earned and he has betrayed that trust.
I wouldn't trust him.
2007-11-09 19:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by LAL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys untrustworthy. Period. Take some ownership of your life.
2007-11-09 19:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him something so he can't leave you... if you get what I'm sayin'
2007-11-09 19:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Cullen 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋