Why is everyone's answer the same on here??

Question

I've noticed that it really doesn't matter what the situation is, the majority of people on here say that its time to break up or move on. Why is that? Why can't people understand that sometimes moving on is the absolute last option? I understand that in some cases it is inevitable but in most, things aren't so bad that you can't work them out YET people are always saying move on, what's up with that?

I'm not necessarily referring to any answers people have given me for my questions. I mean for most questions in general. I read alot of questions and people are always saying just move on

Answer 1

because in our day and age now moving on is the easiet thing to do. Its like a TV these dyas - who repairs TVs when they go after 2-3 years, you just buy a new one. In our throwaway society we also throw relationships away on the same basis... where sometimes moving on is needed, working on a relationship is the hardest thing to do, but also brings the best rewards....so stick at it!

Answer 2

I don't know your situation to just say move on. But, sometimes when you are the one in love, you don't see that it might be the best thing for you. If you aren't the one who sabotaged the relationship, of course you want it to work. But the reality is, the other person may not be taking the relationship as serious as you. You might be thinking forever, when they are thinking this is just the beginning and they have the rest of their lives ahead of them and want to exercise their options. But like I said, I don't know your situation. What I do know is that I answer all questions as honestly as possible. Some people are older than most of us here and have been there and done that. Sometimes and I do mean sometimes, it's not such a bad idea to listen to what they are trying to say. Some people really mean well. Not all, but some. It really is up to you as to what you will choose to do. After all it is your life.

Answer 3

Because people don't believe in working things out today....that's why divorce is so high today, if one thing goes wrong their ready to call it quits...if you have problems with you kids you don't toss them aside you try to work things out...but today people don't want to do that anymore...the motto today is oh well we're not working out....so they call it quits....they don't realize that all couples have to work out their differences, getting use to living together is not easy, we're all different and have different likes and dislikes, what they should learn to do is compromise, but that doesn't seem to be the case anymore, the new attitude is just move on, every couple is going to have their problems, most couple think that if they start out with someone new there will be no problems....well aren't they surprised when they see that they may not be the same problems but there problems all the same, it that's old adage the grass always seems greener on the other side, but then they get there there's a whole new set of problems.....I've been married a long time and when we had differences we worked them out, and I'm told today that most people envy my marriage, well it's takes two to make it work !!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

There are always going to be negative people in this world who just say move on. There are also going to be people who say try to work it out. You post on here to get opinions on your question from all different types of people from different backgrounds, educations, and ages. Of course you will get some negative and positive answers. Why post on here if you already have the answer set in your mind? Some people are going to understand that moving on is the absolute last option and some are not. Thats why you get many different responses to a question. It is then up to you to make the final decision.

Answer 5

I will sometimes say move on only after trying to give other advice on how to fix the situation. A person asked a question in great detail and stated how she felt about another person and they did feel the same about her,and she felt that he should feel the same way. But my advice to her was maybe he should be given some more time and then if he does not change his mind and does not feel love for her then yes maybe its time to move on,and find that person who can love her.But that is never my first suggestion unless maybe someone' life depends on that statement.

Answer 6

I think the majority of answers do say move on... and usually (in my case) it is because one of the people in the relationship seem like they are not into it as much as the other. In a healthy relationship both parties need to be active participants in it with the same goals in mind. Life is too short when one person doesn't have the same enthusiasm for the relationship as the other. Trying to stay in the relationship and make them change their mind just doesn't make sense.

Answer 7

most of the time the people on here who are asking (or answering) these questions are teenagers with no real life experiences. No one knows better than you what you need to do in a difficult situation. If people tell you to move on and you know that you just simply can't do it, don't listen and move on either to the next question or just with your day ;-)

Answer 8

I think the reason it comes up soooooooo often is because people tend to try and make EVERY relationship work - both the good ones AND the bad/abusive ones...

Personally - I ONLY give that advice under two circumstances:

1) The person asking the question is being lied to, abused (physically, verbally, or mentally), or cheated on.

2) They CLEARLY spell their doubts out (usually by asking something like "Should I take him back for the FOURTH time?")

;););)

Answer 9

Cause deep down many know its the right answer even though its hard to do. That and its also an easy answer, why try to repair when u can toss and get new. Depending on the situation people need to ask themselves the following: is it worth fixing, what is causing the issue(s), should it have happened in the 1st place. Often peopl focus on why they should leave and not ask why they should stay.

Answer 10

Some people do not know how to deal with rejection. To some people to let go and break up means to give up and admit they are weak. It can also mean you do not cut up to the chase.Maybe say thats there last option is that its best to go with what makes your heart more happy.Maybe you feel this unconnetion and maybe thats why.