I know he has some kind of feeling for me still but i hurt him. i dont want to get too into what happened but he said i changed his life and that he wanted to marry me, recently i hurt him and he wont talk to me he said he is back to his old reckless self and doesnt want to talk to me. he says he hates me but he acts like this when he is hurting. now he has a girlfriend and i want him back. and i keep getting pulled into it, his girlfriend msgs me asking me for my side and i have been talking to her. i dont know what to do he found out and i feel like im pushing him futher away. i want him back. he has only been with her for about 2 weeks. what should i do? i feel like there is still something hidden inside him but he puts on the front that he hates me. give me advice!
2007-11-09 11:26:16 · 6 answers · asked by kamdgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, it wasn't smart for you to talk to his current gf because although you say you love him and want him back, talking to her behind his back is like you are working against him. Think about it? Why is she asking for your side of the story? Sweetie she sees you as a threat. He must have said or done something to implicate that he has feelings for you. Because, other than that, wouldn't she be happy with his hating you because that way she knows that it is over between the two of you. The first thing you need to do is to stop talking to her! You don't know what she is telling him that you said and that is only adding fuel to the fire. Second, give some space, don't try to contact him or talk to him for a couple of weeks. Give him time to think things through. Third, talk to him the first thing that comes of your mouth should be an apology for discussing your relationship with his current girl. Then apologize for how you hurt him. Take responsibility for your part-don't point fingers! Tell him exactly how you feel. I know you are making yourself vulnerable but you have to in order to see how he feels and to leave him without excuse, that way he can't say that he had no idea how you really felt. If he rejects you, MOVE ON. Don't beg because if he really loved you and wanted you then he wouldn't let or make you beg him. Have some self worth and let him go, if he can so easily go back to his reckless self then maybe there wasn't a REAL change. Food for thought sweetie.
2007-11-09 11:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry I believe when a person has been hurt really bad the person that hurt you is the last person you want to see. We all make mistakes. You don't fall in love overnight so you can not hate someone that fast it is his pain that speaks those words.I feel if you truly love and want him back you are going to have to give him some time, his wounds have to start the healing process. Maybe you could get a letter to him and explain and let him know how truly sorry you are for what you did and for causing him so much pain . Let him know you are still here for him and when he is ready and able to talk to you you will be there.And seems like he has turned to this other person out of spite.The one thing I don't understand is why are you and this girl conversing back and forth you don't really think she has your best interest at heart do you.? If you love him wait give him time.Hope this situation has a happy ending peace to your heart also.
2007-11-09 19:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by Back Field In Motion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - Stop talking to his new girlfriend!! That is definitely a conflict of interest because you know good and well you really don't want to help her in her new relationship with YOUR man!
Next - you need to talk to him... let him know that you understand that you hurt him, but that you would like to try to work things out...
If he refuses to talk about it... then unfortunately you are going to have to learn a hard lesson... sometimes SORRY doesn't cut it!!!
But if somehow you just can't let the idea go... then realize that you are going to have to give HIM some time... Depending on what you did - it may take him weeks or months to come to terms with it, to the point where he MIGHT forgive you...
You know what you did and if it was really that bad... then you are going to have to accept this separation and possible termination as your own just desserts.
Regardless, as the person who did wrong... you are going to have to wait for him to make the next move... this is the price you have to pay for doing dirt!!
Good Luck!!!
2007-11-09 19:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by wannabewriter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to try to improve yourself and just tell the new girl friend that you don't want to get in the middle there. You can send him an email if he has one and apologize to him or send him snail mail but don't try to push it.
I wonder if you are insecure and did something because of that to hurt him? Try going to asamanthinketh and it will help you improve yourself and do things to keep yourself busy for a while and perhaps he may decide to give you another chance. Then talk the whole ting over as to what went wrong so that you can keep it from happening again.
2007-11-09 19:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly sorry then show him...do whatever it takes to get him back!!! If it was your fault then you should do every nice gesture in your power to show him how truly sorry you are! Even if you have to sit in front of his doorway all night long, whatever it takes just do it! Good Luck!
2007-11-09 19:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by sweet pumpkn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you do??? I think he really doesn't want you back.....sorry but you must have REALLY hurt him!!!! Leave him alone beacuse your the one who messed up.
2007-11-09 19:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by i ♥ Sour Patch Kids! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋