My husband is leaving me again. I have tried for 17 years to get him to love me. He is my heart. No one can live without a heart
2007-11-09 11:37:30 · 40 answers · asked by sissy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say he's leaving you again - that means he's done it before? I bet you've done all you can for him in those 17 years, and if that still isn't good enough for him, then let him go hun. He'll just continue to make you unhappy. You feel like you want to die now, but honestly, it will eventually pass. And God willing you will find a man who wants to stay with you and love you like you deserve.
2007-11-09 11:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by amazin_woman2001 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Oh Honey I know the pain of losing someone that you love. I was pregnant and the man I loved dump me, for no reason other than he didn't want to be a father. I cried and cried and cried the pain seemed unbearable at times. I prayed to GOD to help me. Well, the guy never came back, I had my baby (which by the way is the best thing that has ever happened to me) and the guy had nothing to do with me or our baby (which I know now is GOD sent that he didn't have anything to do with us) Well, after time went on I thought of him less, I hurt less and then I met the man of my dreams. I am happily married now for six years and dated my now husband for three years before we married, Anyway, sweetheart what I am trying to tell you is that GOD ALWAYS knows what is best. The guy that left me I thought was my heart only to find out he doesn't even compare to my husband. no one of course could have told me different at the time, because the pain is so real, but I assure you, you are better off. If he comes back again, stand tall and tell him he can't come back. Who is he to treat you like that. You deserve someone that will love you like you love them and NOTHING less
2007-11-09 12:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw, honey, I think we've all been at that desperate at some time.
Believe me, as much as it hurts right now, it won't hurt forever. It goes away. Just hang in there. What will help you is to stay BUSY. Find something you like such as a hobby, yoga, karate (may I say this one is a good choice for self esteem), painting, photography, whatever it is you like or always wanted to do, get involved in it right away. Clean and mop. Sew and craft.
Get around other people. Don't sit by yourself. This is the WORSE thing you can do because all we do is sit around and think about how sad we are!
Write down every one of your good qualities. If you dare write anything bad, THROW IT AWAY!!
Think positive thoughts even if you have to force yourself.
This is a difficult time and you need to help yourself heal from the pain. You can do it!
I am sending you good vibrations and peace.
2007-11-09 12:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by latebreakfast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone can go on. You shouldnt want to die. You have love in your heart. This is an obstacle not a failure. You can achieve success. You cant force someone to love you and your heart will heal. Dont think about why he doesnt love you, think about why, for 17 years, you tried to make someone else love you and you accepted this behavior. It is time to move on. You deserve better.
2007-11-09 11:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, he is not your heart - he is breaking it.
You have done more than anyone could expect, and he is leaving you - again.
Whatever is broken about your relationship is going to stay broken.
I know, it hurts so badly you can't stand it. That is because you love him so much. If he loved you half as much he wouldn't be leaving.
So it is now time to love yourself. He is not leaving because you are unlovable - he is leaving because he can't see what a good thing he has.
Love yourself enough to let him go and start healing. It WILL happen - but it will take time. And sadly, nothing can change that. But it will happen. You just have to go on living through it.
Someone will come along that can love you as much as you love them. And that is what you deserve.
2007-11-09 11:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by vic91106 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just grieve. When someone you love leaves it is like a death. Let yourself be sad. Let yourself be angry. Go through all the stages of grief. And you know what? One day you will wake up and you wont feel so bad.
And just because he leaves doesn't mean that those 17 years meant nothing. They were real experiences.
Lean on family and friends. Do whatever you need to do to let out the pain. Clear out the closets one day, when you are ready. I promise you that your life is not over, it just feels like it.
2007-11-09 13:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you are tight no one can live with out a heart but no one can live by having their heart broken all the time either.I think that if you took time to love you before you love the man you'll find inner peace and the ability to go on!
2007-11-09 11:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have tried for 17 years to get him to love you? You can't make anyone love you and even if you could make someone, what kind of love would that be? He is not your heart. Give your heart to someone who can give theirs back to you. He is leaving you again? Let him go. Grieve over the loss, get counseling if you need to, then move on. Life is too short to throw your love at someone who doesn't want it.
2007-11-09 11:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Maggie May 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sissy the whole point of having that significant other is to add to your life not become your life. If someone doesn't love you, no matter what you do, you can't make them love you. 17 years of your life has been wasted for what a man who doesn't love you. I am sorry but you are going to have to find love for yourself and self respect. I don't want to be with any man that doesn't love me. Do you really think that having a one-sided relationship can make you happy? Let him go, let his a** go, and find yourself girl. You are worthy to be love by a someone who will not only love but respect you, but first you have to have love and respect for yourself.
2007-11-09 11:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
again? u had a heart b4 u met him u gave him all ur love but but u still have ur heart no one can live without love but love exists in so much more than people love the air u breathe u can't live without that, love ur mom once upon a time she was all that mattered, love feeling the weather change love being able to smell the differance of coffee and flowers theres so much more in life to love that pretentions
2007-11-09 11:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by rae 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋