Family & Relationships - 6 November 2007

i have been dating this girl for about a month and she is always kidding around about things...calling me names, and stuff like that. i call her names back because she calls me names...sometimes she crosses the line though saying things like " there are so many guys here if i were single it would be great" and " i should have made my ex my first he has a 9 inch d**k." and then when i tell her i dont like her saying stuff like that to me..she gets all defensive and says i shouldent feel the way i do and that im over- reacting about it...i dont get it!!!! , its not even the stuff she said really, its the fact that when i told her i diddnt appreciate her saying that stuff she acted as if she hadent done anything wrong...it took an hour just to make her say she would try not to say stuff like that anymore.....im confused she says shes falling in love so why does she feel the need to say stuff like that ,and kid around all the time callin me names and stuff?

2007-11-06 07:34:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If you are friends with a couple who you hangout with alot and visit each other, your hubbies work together and all....and a few weeks ago you find out from anotehr source that your hubsand and this other woman or wife got together and kissed and made out once. What would you do? Would you tell the woman you knew? Would you be sure to stop hanging out with them? What would you say or do to your husband knowing that he didn't tell you all this time? Would you forgive him, make sure he is in trouble as well as the other woman? Would your attitude friendship towards the woman change now after knowing what she did with your hubby?

2007-11-06 07:32:14 · 22 answers · asked by richards_tr 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My current boyfriend is 24, I'm 21. We just started dating, he asked me out officially about a week ago. Back when I was 17 him and I were really good friends although I was very promiscuous at the time (I didn't sleep around I just acted stupid when I was drunk, taking off my top, etc). His family knew me as "that promiscuous girl" who came over sometimes.
Yesterday he informed me he didn't want to tell his family about us yet and he would in due time. I understand why they'd be concerned, I wasn't a good girl back then but why won't he just tell them now? He's already talking about the future with me. Could he just be saying he doesn't want to tell his family because he's cheating or something? Why would he do this? My friends told me to not sleep with him until he is ready to make our relationship public and not keep me a "secret". I agree I think. What do you think about all this? help please!! :(

2007-11-06 07:31:58 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He lied to me 8 months ago, about something at work (nothing to do with cheating or other women). He's been very apologetic and patient with me, and has tried to do anything & everything to earn my trust back. He's a good man, calls me 50 times a day from work, lets me check his email and cell phone - but I just can't stop obesessing over the chance of him lying to me again. I had a trust issue before this, but now it's just worse! I think EVERYTHING he says is a lie at this point, and I know that's not fair. How do I knock this off??

2007-11-06 07:31:13 · 20 answers · asked by Michelle 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Boyfriend and girlfriend have relationship issues. Boyfriend moves out of girlfriend's house. Boyfriend and girlfriend decide to stay together but to give each other breathing space. Boyfriend "disappears" from work and his social life, so girlfriend finds out. Girlfriend meets up with Boyfriend two weeks or so later to find out what is going on with him. Girlfriend is concerned about boyfriend. Boyfriend says he is depressed and has not taken care of himself. Boyfriend tells girlfriend he still cares for her but wants to be alone. Boyfriend then asks girlfriend to wait for him, until he gets "better". Girlfriend has own problems and says that is not fair. Girlfriend calls almost everyday and does not reach boyfriend. Boyfriend finally calls two weeks later. Girlfriend was at work so she could not answer her phone. Girlfriend sees boyfriend left a message so she listens to it. The only thing girlfriend hears is a quiet giggle in the background, not from boyfriend.

2007-11-06 07:28:26 · 3 answers · asked by no 3 in Singles & Dating

My wife was invited to eat lunch by an old friend (male) she use to party with all the time. He was actually the guy she was out partying with when I met her. Anyway... she told me about it approx. 2 weeks ago and now they are going 2morrow. She invited me 2 go but I will b working and would feel out of place anyhow. I still dont like the idea but should I just accept it or am I just overly paranoid about the enitire thing. Answers please

2007-11-06 07:27:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There is this girl, She is in my Class at school and she is coming to stay with me for 5 nights while her parents are away in Sweden (where they are from) She is really pretty but the problem is, I am ashamed to be around her because she is such a looser! I hate her. She is coming to stay with me soon she also wets the bed...WHAT SHOULD I DO???

By the way she has this soo... yeah she might come on it!

Shhhh

2007-11-06 07:27:24 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

People tell me I am cool, but they can't really put their finger on the reason. Some people think it is my good looks, others believe my air of confidence is the reason. For yet others, it's my clothes and the way I wear them. What everyone agrees on is that I am cool. What is cool for you?

2007-11-06 07:25:17 · 6 answers · asked by 2kool4u 5 in Singles & Dating

My fiance has invited the parents of his first love... whom he dated years ago and was engaged to. He says he's been close friends with her father ever since. It wouldn't bother me so much, but my parents can't even come to the wedding! They live in a foreign country and the only contact they'd had with my fiance has been a few phone calls and some text messages.

I'm afraid when I see his ex's parents I'll break out in tears because I don't see mine there. Am I being a jealous baby?

2007-11-06 07:24:41 · 15 answers · asked by Avelyn 4 in Weddings

but for men we don't care if you work at mcdonalds or if your a doctor?

2007-11-06 07:20:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been married 3 years. When we got married I already had a child from a previous relationship. We now also have a daughter together. My husband is a very busy man he is in school still and works almost full time. I work part time and try to take care of everything here at home. Since we have been together I have expressed things I would like to do to better myself or feel more complete with some sort of self expression that I enjoy. When I have gone to my husband in the past about things l would like to do he has completely blown me off telling me we don't have the money. He has continued this trend with me asking for simple things like materials for jewelry making and sewing items. I would just like to have something to do other than take care of everyone that I enjoy, since I don't have the time or the means to go back to school. But we always have money for things he wants or enjoys. Video games, concerts, cds. etc. Is he selfish. Any advise?

2007-11-06 07:20:42 · 24 answers · asked by inspiredbythemystery 2 in Marriage & Divorce

our 2 year anniversary is on dec.22 and i dont have much money... we just had a baby and are working on getting our own place plus other expenses.. so i was just wondering if ne one had ne really cool ideas for me to suprise him with that wont hurt my wallet...thanks a lot!

2007-11-06 07:19:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i dont really know how to deal with it. im scared.

2007-11-06 07:17:36 · 23 answers · asked by meowmeow 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i recently lost someone that I love very much, and I want him back more than anything, he won't even talk to me and has no clue how much i love him....what can I do?

2007-11-06 07:15:09 · 20 answers · asked by Onlyfor U 1 in Marriage & Divorce

as if everyone can shut off their feelings like a light switch

2007-11-06 07:14:45 · 19 answers · asked by JWalker 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok so right off the bat i have a girlfriend and she has had lots of troubles in her life like an ex bf that killed himself anorexia and emotional parental abuse, im 18 and shes 17 well when we first started dating she told me she was a very serious girl and said if i diddent see myself spending the rest of my life with her i shouldent date her well i liked her alot and we hit it off well but ever scince that night ive agreed to marry her out of pity and because i diddent want to hurt her feelings, so months go by she gets more serious and serious i met her parents and so fourth ya dda yadda and they think i really proposed to her trugh my own will, now shes away at rehab for anorexixfor 2 months and im really considering leaving her its so hard ive been lying thrugh my teeth this whole time all so she wouldent get sad, and when i mention no marriage she goes off gets depressed and claims i dont love her anymore on top of that she wants to convert me into a mormon im in so deep HELP!!!

2007-11-06 07:13:53 · 17 answers · asked by lorenzo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i have no family other than my wife who i love to bit who is ill and on seroxat and has suicidal tendancies. she has no family other than me. we had our house reposessed 8 months ago and are still being chased for debts so we moved and i have changed our names to hide, just getting sorted and in good job and have now been told job is going no enough business, and i havent paid rent this month or council tak or a couple of other bills, total £1400, i carnt rais any as have no credit rating and have changed names anyway, and have no family to borrow off and nothing worth enough to sell. have planned to end it tomorrow but its hard when wife cuddeled up to me today telling me how much she loves me and how good things are, "only cos i hide it all from her to keep her happy" im not realy any good for her and carnt carry on like this, i even raided her bank account and stole 150 yesterday without her knowing so to pay a bill , she will find out tomorrow questions will start so it ends then.

2007-11-06 07:13:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

she has had sex with five diffrent guy multiple time in the last two weeks. The first guy is her husband the second guy is her boyfriend the third guy is her boyfriends cousin the fourth guy is a friend of hers and the boyfriend the fith guy is her babys daddy. What makes it worse is she just had them all over at her house for a BBQ. What do you think?

2007-11-06 07:12:58 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i want to have a very simple, fun wedding... nothing fancy...
but we are on a low budged because we have to get married 6 months earlier than planned.
the wedding will be held in a church, which is free.
the rings are all sad too.
so the only things we would need is dress, suite, and food for the party after right?
i think people will make pictures for us and videotape too.
is it possible?
do you guys have any ideas, sides in the internet for cheap dresses, flowers, deco, invitations, ... whatever we need.
i've never planned a wedding and have no glue where to start.
it's suposed to be next months.

please only serious answers.... this is suposed to be last miinute but fun for everybody.

i think we could have people bring food, like a kind of potluck. what do you guys think?

help really needed

thanks so much

2007-11-06 07:12:16 · 21 answers · asked by 237kk 2 in Weddings

2007-11-06 07:11:36 · 16 answers · asked by kuntrebumpkin20 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-06 07:09:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

and I'm afraid!

We're in our mid 20s, have been married for 3 and a half years, have no children yet and he said he wants to help out more around the house.

I currently do not work so I can be available to help care for my grandfather, and I'm also taking 2 distance learning classes through the local community college working toward an eventual bachelor's degree. I have absolutely no problem doing all the housework myself (hello, I'm home all day while he's at work!). I actually enjoy cooking and housework, and I'm good at it!

It's not that I'm opposed to him helping. I was just raised very conservatively and old fashioned and my definition of the housewife's "duties" are to take care of the home, do laundry, cook, etc., and it would be switched if the husband stayed home.

So why does it worry me so much that he wants to learn how to cook? Could it be because this is "my" turf and I subconsciously feel he's intruding? He lets me help him fix things all the time.

2007-11-06 07:08:23 · 44 answers · asked by wh1t3_t1g3r 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Let's say you are just walking along the street, or in a grocery store, or bookstore, or at a bus stop, etc... and some random guy comes up to you and says "Hi, I think you are very attractive. Would you like to go out for coffee or lunch sometime?"

How would you react?

2007-11-06 07:08:19 · 28 answers · asked by introversive_guy 3 in Singles & Dating

It first developed as a crush in high school. Then when a little time passed by, I kept thinking about him, which is weird because I never think about one particular guy for a long period of time. I wasn't so much concerned about getting with him. I just couldn't bare seeing him unhappy. All I wanted was him to have a smile on his face. I've always done nice things for him without him knowing that I was the one who did things for him. The last time I've seen him or heard from him was the last year of high school. Since then, I haven't seen, or even heard about him at all. But I still constantly think about him, wondering if he's happy. He never knew that I felt this way about him. I don't know if he feels anything about me. I dunno. I just don't want to think about him anymore. I try so hard to not think about him, but thoughts of him always come back to my head. Why can't I stop thinking about him? It's been this way for 6-7 years. I want to get over this somehow.

2007-11-06 07:04:23 · 14 answers · asked by somegirl 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband has looked at pics of nude women on the net and I have let him know that I'm not ok with it. He doesn't look at hard core porn, but still it's offensive to me because it is so degrading to women. He says I'm a hypocrite because I cheated on him, but we've moved on from that and worked everything out. I would never dream of doing that to him again. It was a bad moment in my life and I made a terrible mistake. He forgave me. But he now acts like he's entitled to a little "action" of his own. He knows it hurts my feelings and he tries to justify it by saying it's art. Plus, I feel like I'm not good enough for him to look at, like not sexy enough. What do you think? Am I totally overreacting? Only serious answers please. No negative or insulting answers either. This is my marriage I'm talking about here. Thank you in advance for your help.

2007-11-06 07:01:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-06 06:58:27 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-06 06:58:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-11-06 06:56:03 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If my mother wants her friends (quite a few since she's in an upscale social network in my hometown) to come to our wedding, should my parents pay for the wedding? If she wants her friends to come, yet doesn't want to pay for the wedding (because she doesn't approve of my fiance), should I dis her plans since it's my day and I'm going to marry him regardless of her input? I'd be happy with a courthouse wedding, but I know she will want it to be bigger once she knows. Otherwise it would look tacky...and God forbid that happens.

2007-11-06 06:53:52 · 16 answers · asked by crosseyedforcakes 2 in Weddings

If you inherite money while your married does your spouse get half if you divorce? If yes how can you prevent this from happening? The person leaving the money hasn't died yet.

2007-11-06 06:51:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce