as if everyone can shut off their feelings like a light switch
2007-11-06 07:14:45 · 19 answers · asked by JWalker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is more in the light of "you will learn to live with it".
2007-11-06 07:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by Opps 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't shut off your feelings, that would be inhumane. The ability to do this would put into question if you ever really cared at all. Everyone says "you will get over it" because either they don't know what else to say, or the truth is believe it or not you will. It does take time though and God. I know it may not feel like you will get over it, but time does heal.
Take it from someone who has experienced it several times, it does get better and even heals all the way. You will be amazed how some time from now you will be like, "Wow, I really felt that way!"---Hard to believe right now, but just you wait and see.
2007-11-06 07:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by chosen007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because they don't know what else to say and probably that is the most common line that people use. It would be nice if someone could give you a plan specific to you to get you through the tuff times, but they can't. The world keeps on going, every day life dosen't stop just because we are experiencing problems. Sometimes we'd like to scream and say" dosen't anyone care?" The truth is most people don't because they are trying to deal with their own problems. Often I don't even think counsellors care ... they just want to get paid to sit and listen. You can listen to all the advice in the world but until you accept what has happened and develop and plan to get through it .... nothing will change. If you're feeling sad,depressed, lonely and all those negative emotions... surround yourself with positive, happy, outgoing people and it will eventually rub off onto you. You will find yourself smiling and laughing a lot more and enjoy life.
2007-11-06 09:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not that people are capable of shutting off their feelings like a light switch. But oh, if only that were possible! *sigh* It takes time and effort to get over things, but oftentimes they hurt less and less and time rolls on. It does take time and effort. They don't heal all wounds, but they do help to heal a lot in life.
2007-11-06 07:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you will get over it, in time. The pain will cease to be so overwhelming and you'll find yourself actually enjoying life, laughing again and living again. It will become a memory of the past; even if it is a painful one. No one says you can shut off your feelings, but your feelings will eventually change as time goes by.
2007-11-06 10:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only that were true.
Most people who do say this have either been through something similar, never been through anything remotely painful and they are not the ones in turmoil at the moment so it's easier for them to say this.
They're not hurting or angry and you won't be either, eventually. Seems like little consolation at the time, for my personal experiences, I just wished they wouldn't say anything because this phrase just rubs salt in the wound.
Sometimes, I want to tell them..."Okay, you're probably right, but let me hit your knee REALLY hard with a baseball bat so you can show me how to get over it."
2007-11-06 07:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say "you WILL get over it" not "You ARE over it". They say it because what else can they say...it's a polite thing to say. I understand the anger because I think sometimes it feels as if people don't give feelings enough credit, I mean they say "You'll get over it" and it sounds like..oh, no biggie when really it IS the biggest deal at the time. BUT, chances are you WILL get through it...not always over it. Sometimes we are so burned that we will never get over it, just through it. I think it's like when someone dies people say "I'm sorry for your loss"...just the thing to say at the time..
2007-11-06 07:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you will. As much as heartbreak hurts, it goes away. You find new love. Life is better.
You may always have feelings for that person, but there will be a time that you are okay with the fact that you are not together, or whatever bad had happened.
2007-11-06 07:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by Reptilia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say that because they dont want to hear you talk about it anymore and are praying you get over it because it is boring to them. truth. but in reality, whether you get over it is dependent on whether you open yourself up to other options. old women in ages past when widowed never moved, never remarried, never took off the black veil, today, if a woman is widowed, she goes out, dances, travels, and maybe even dates. because today there are more options for her. so the way you get over it is you explore all the new people places and things you can. and you force yourself to smile and think positively at all times. truth again.
2007-11-06 09:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by jaded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over it...you dont have to shut your feelings off..just deal with them gently and know that whatever you are feeling right now WILL PASS.
2007-11-06 07:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way, did you ever have someone you loved die? Think about how old you were when this happened. Lets say you were 5 and now your 25. Do you think of it EVERYDAY? No, you move on. They will always be in your memory and your heart. Heartbreak works just like that.
2007-11-06 07:36:06 · answer #11 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋