It first developed as a crush in high school. Then when a little time passed by, I kept thinking about him, which is weird because I never think about one particular guy for a long period of time. I wasn't so much concerned about getting with him. I just couldn't bare seeing him unhappy. All I wanted was him to have a smile on his face. I've always done nice things for him without him knowing that I was the one who did things for him. The last time I've seen him or heard from him was the last year of high school. Since then, I haven't seen, or even heard about him at all. But I still constantly think about him, wondering if he's happy. He never knew that I felt this way about him. I don't know if he feels anything about me. I dunno. I just don't want to think about him anymore. I try so hard to not think about him, but thoughts of him always come back to my head. Why can't I stop thinking about him? It's been this way for 6-7 years. I want to get over this somehow.
2007-11-06
07:04:23
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I've never been in a relationship with this guy. We were only friends. When I go out with other guys, I still think about him.
2007-11-06
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I think you're probably still thinking about him cause you never told him how you felt for him and somehow this is still bothering you. maybe, unconciously, you'd like to know if he feels anything for you... It might take more time or maybe you'll never be able to forget him... Probably if someone else comes into your life, you'll think less about that guy.
2007-11-06 07:11:55
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answered by Natasha 2
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For what it's worth, one of the reasons you may still be thinking about him is exactly because you never did get involved with him. "What if" is a powerful way to start a sentence. It's possible that you've built up a picture of the type of person he is, and the type of relationship that you and he could/might have had. That combined with the fact that perhaps you haven't found anyone that you have real chemistry with since could have the effect that you paint an even rosier picture of high school guy. It's possible that the man you think you're in love with doesn't exist. Your options are either to contact him and see if the reality lives up to your expectations (and it would be lovely if it did!!), or accept that your dwelling on him because you haven't met anyone that has been right for you. When you do and when the chemistry is there you'll be in a better position to rationalise your feelings towards him.
Good luck.
2007-11-06 07:25:38
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answered by maisie2228 2
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Track him down and tell him you have a crush on him.
If it works, awesome.
If not, then you can stop thinking about him.
Worst thing: You get turned down. So what. Maybe you're just not his type, or it's the wrong time in his life. It's not a reflection on you.
Best thing: You two get together, happily ever after, or eventually break up - which is happily ever after for you b/c he's out of your system.
It's generally the things we don't do in life that we regret more than the things we actually do that were stupid. You can look back and go "Man, I was an idiot", or you can spend your life wondering "what if....".
He may not even be worth obessing over like this. Finding him would help you figure that out.
Good luck!!!!!
2007-11-06 07:22:00
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answered by ♥ CommaGirl ♥ 5
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That's pretty amazing.
I think you should tell him. Honesty is always the best, and you may receive some sort of closure. I don't want to give you false hope, cause I really don't know the situation, but he may even react positively and things could change?
But seriously -- tell him, tell him, tell him. It's not good to hold things in.
I wouldn't tell him you've been thinking about him all the time for 6-7 years though... that's kinda creepy, to say at first. I'd just send him an email or letter saying hi. Perhaps tell him that something you saw lately reminded you of him and you wanted to see how life was going, and that he'd been on your mind a bit.
But seriously.
Tell him.
2007-11-06 07:09:33
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answered by Monica 2
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It sounds like you really were "in love" with this guy. Whenever you just want to see someone happy. That is real love. It is so unselfish. I'm not sure what your spiritual background is, but believe me the best way to handle this is to pray for God to remove those feelings. 6-7 years is a long time for someone you were not even in a relationship with. God would not want any "man" to occupy your thoughts so completely.
Take it from someone who has experienced this type of bond or tie to a person. Ask God to remove it and he will faithfully do so.
2007-11-06 07:10:56
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answered by chosen007 1
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Sounds like you've had a little taste of love... you have a big heart and it sounds like you are a bit concerned about how things turned out for him and if he's happy now... Sometimes a good way to move on is to find out how he's doing, but if you have tried that and just want to move on you really just have to make peace with yourself that you did what you could and sometimes we don't get to see the results of our silent acts of kindness.
2007-11-06 07:14:33
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answered by Anonymous
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Try to contact him. Find out how he is doing. Maybe you have some unfinished business to take care of. Some doors to close.? Some questions to ask? Tread carefully this person may not be the same person as before. My advice is do not hang your heart on your sleeve. Go at it as an unfinished task. If it is to grow from there it will. If not you would have satisfied whatever mental link existing between you two.
2007-11-06 07:13:14
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answered by highgem 3
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I don't think you can. Did you ever go out? If not, you might be suppressing unsatified urges. If you did, who broke it off? If it was him, you probably thought you loved him. If it was you, then you might have a guilty conscience. I think you are suppressing some deep phsylogical feelings. You need to do your best to get back in contact with him, even if you only intend to be friends.
2007-11-06 07:11:12
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answered by virgogonono 2
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If you weren't able to be honest about how you felt about him then you need to just move on because there's nothing else to do.
2007-11-06 07:13:24
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answered by uneekqamar2004 4
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first off breath in and out slowly. Close you eyes and think about another really hot guy and after that always try to think of him!
2007-11-06 07:09:30
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answered by sexy123 2
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