how do you get back someone you lost?

Question

i recently lost someone that I love very much, and I want him back more than anything, he won't even talk to me and has no clue how much i love him....what can I do?

just to clarify I didn't cheat on him...things were fine one minute and then the next he said it was over...how can you tell someone you love them one day and to f....off the next? and why can't i get him out of my head???if he really cared he wouldn't have done this....right?

Answer 1

when a relationship ends its painful especially for the one left behind. the best way is to contact him and let him know how u feel, but if he won't even talk it could mean he is with someone else and if that be the case u will have to accept that and get some therapy, join a self help group where there are others going through it who know how to help u. it does take awhile to get over a lost love, its a long hard road to be honest with u. prayer is a good thing to do when your heart breaks and u need something to make it better.

Answer 2

Well I suppose the answer to your question is...what have you done to lose that person in the first place? Something must have happened to cause this separation.

Are you truly sorry for what happened? Is there blame to be had on both sides? These are questions you must answer before you can hope for a reconciliation.

When you do try to get this person back, you have to take full accountability for your actions and don't place blame on others. You have to have open communication.

If this person loves you like you obviously love them, this can be worked out. But it will take time. You have to be patient, and what is meant to be will be.

Answer 3

I had the very same feeling many years ago. I lost a woman who I thought was the love of my life. She broke up with me and I was devastated. I wanted to get back at her and I even wanted to get back at the guy she started dating and eventually married.

These days I can look back at myself and feel everything turned out for the best. Her and I would have never made a good life long couple. We both moved on and are happy in our separate lives. We broke up for good reasons and I did find the love of my life two years after her.

Try and make this a learning experience, no matter how much you love him -he has to love you back to make it a relationship. If you really want to get back at him then live well, be happy and prosper; maybe later on he'll realize that he lost someone of exceptional value but now you're gone and with someone new.

Answer 4

If he doesn't want to talk to you, give him space and let him be. There's a reason why you lost him. I know how hurtful it is, I went thru it last year. My boyfriend wanted to see what else is out there for him. He broke up with me. I kept calling him and calling him and calling him. He wont answer. Until I finally gave up and left him alone. He then called me back, and told me that he missed me. I realize that, it wasn't true love because if it was, he didn't have to search the world to see what's out there for him. He had to see what else is out there to prove that he loves me. So I didn't even waste my time on him. I know someone else is better that they don't need to see what else is out there to prove that he loves me.

You ever heard the saying "Why look for a hamburger when you have the steak at home?"

Just be strong. Keep yourself busy. What's important is your well being right now. I know it hurts a lot. I mean a lot, but there's nothing you can do right now but to better yourself. Help your heart heal. Just take it slow.

God Bless!!

Answer 5

Many of the answers above assumes that there is a fault in the lost. Maybe so and if so, you have to insure the other party that whatever happen you will see that it will never happen again. But than maybe he can not forgive.

If there is no fault: Think what you did that got him interested in the first place. What changed over time? Maybe you can go back to your first acts of kindness and recreate it.

Answer 6

In short - you can't.

All you can do is chalk it up to experience and move on.

There ARE other "loves of one's life!" out there. Trust me.

BUT do reflect on what happened to sour the relationship and avoid that situation again.

Whatever it was that you did to lose him - you can't take it back.

OR if he left you for someone else, then why would you want him back?

Answer 7

start small, find small ways to let him know how you feel and once that opens the door spend time with him and let him know how you feel but don't try to force things to fast and let him see on his own that you really care for him. Time and effort need to be devoted to any relationship if it is to work. take your time and let him know how you feel. Start by sending a small card the size he may be able to stick in his pocket and carry with him. then maybe a phone call. judge his reaction at that point and you should be able to tell if it is time to move forward. If he loved/loves you it will start to surface again and you should be able to see it. if you push to fast you may just cause him to shut the door.

Answer 8

It is certainly OK to want someone back and I do believe that if its meant to be, it will come to pass. In the meantime, live your life, shout at the stars, have fun and take joy in the fact that your paths crossed and that you were able love at all. This is no small gift, my dear.

Answer 9

If you cheated he ain't coming back move on and learn from your bad behavior.. Edit 19 hours later: Sorry for assuming you cheated thanks for clarifying but after your clarification i would have to say he's cheating no other reason would he do this..

Answer 10

Give him space for awhile. Couple weeks. Only then talk to him and try and figure out what went wrong, and what you could have done to save it. He might not be willing to, and crowding him will make it worse.

If you leave him alone, he might even come running back to you.