Family & Relationships - 6 November 2007

2007-11-06 05:40:12 · 22 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Singles & Dating

ok so i havent really been honest with anyone about this and i would like an unbiased opinion. me and my bf have been together for over 2 and 1/2 years. in thebeginning, we had some trust problems as he had been hurt by previous girls and i was a bit of a party girl. everything cooled down and we were really enjoying eachother. then this summer, he became very distant. he was working on different projects and didnt really have time to be the bf he was to me previously. i felt alone and as i didnt k now how to handle the change in him. he wasnt communicating with me and i didnt know what he was doing most of the time. he assured me that he was being faithful to me and that i shouldnt worry because he was dedicated to us. time went on and things got worse. i ended up cheating on him. i had a one night stand with a guy i worked with. i really regretted it and i had a hard time coming out to him and telling him what i had done but i finally told him everything about what i did and why.

2007-11-06 05:35:01 · 3 answers · asked by girlwiththegoodies 3 in Singles & Dating

i dont think i can wait that long..what do i do?

2007-11-06 05:34:03 · 14 answers · asked by booksman1980 1 in Weddings

A man believes that a child is his for 8+ years and he has no reasons to suspect otherwise. After Dna proves he's not the father, should he have to continue support payments because of the # of years it took to discover the truth? I personally don't think so, how about you?

2007-11-06 05:32:25 · 19 answers · asked by Test 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

i need to know about this

2007-11-06 05:31:52 · 33 answers · asked by Shenise L 1 in Friends

me and my boyfriend been fightin all the time cause it all me i keep on bring up is past relationship im scared that im going to loose him they still talk as friends and am i being inceure are what please help me.how can i make our relationship happy , please help

2007-11-06 05:26:14 · 4 answers · asked by tammy m 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-06 05:22:00 · 9 answers · asked by ? 4 in Singles & Dating

I had a boyfriend &a male best friend. Male best friend had gf who I wasn't even friends with. My male best friend kept telling me he loved me&that we were soul mates. I always told him not to say it to me, as it was inappropriate. I broke up with my bf, my best friend's gf dumped him &2 months later me &my best friend slept together. My best friend told me he wanted to marry me etc. Then his ex gf found out, and went mental! My best friend told a lot of lies and basically ended up getting back with his ex, & she still doesn't know the whole truth. Thing is, his gf blamed ME! She said I manipulated him into sleeping with me, and into lying, and called me names even though SHE had broken up with HIM&I had always told him to shut up when he was inappropriate to me. PLUS my ex is still friends with my best friend (also his friend) but won't talk to me, even though I never cheated,&this other guy lied to him&he knows it! I didn't lie or cheat&get blamed.He did, but I end up losing out.Why?

2007-11-06 05:20:18 · 17 answers · asked by Katrina W 2 in Singles & Dating

OK i KNOW THAT iM NO PORN STAR BUT i NEED A DUDE TO GiVE ME MORE i'VE BEEN WiTH THESE GUYS WHO JUST LACK STAMiNA. THEY GO FOR LiKE 10 MiNUTES OR [LESS] YES LESS AND ACT LiKE THEY'VE BEEN iN THE GYM FOR HOURS. AT FiRST i THOUGHT iT WAS COiNCiDENCE BUT iTS HAPPENED WiTH DiFFERENT DUDES. iTS STARTiNG TO MAKE ME FEEL LiKE SEX iS OVERRATED. i MEAN i SHOULDNT FEEL LiKE i'VE WASTED MY TiME AFTER EVERY ENCOUNTER ! WHAT DO i DO YAHOO ? LOL...

2007-11-06 05:18:56 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have asked my husband to move out, we dont have an abusive relationship or anything, but we just don't fit anymore. I have been unhappy for quite some time and have talked to him about the way I feel. He won't move out, I dont want to uproot my child, but also do not want to get the law involved. I have not filed for divorce yet, I would just like time to be myself without him around. How can I get him to understand?

2007-11-06 05:18:33 · 19 answers · asked by desperate for answers 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-06 05:17:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I had a friend who like to use other people and she lies a lot I heard her on the phone. I was thinking if she does that to others she might be that way with me. I tried to avoid her. She never realized it. She invited me to her son's birthday I never go and she told my other friends that I'm cheap because I don't want to spend money on the birthday gift and tell them not to invite me to any special occasions.I still talk to her only when I see her but she still talk with me like I'm her friend but I don't feel that way with her it is my fault to feel that way because I'm usually fair but with her I can't because I don't like her inside.

2007-11-06 05:13:25 · 7 answers · asked by @NGEL B@BY 7 in Friends

My sister's ex-husband physically abused her and her kids. We helped her get separated and she eventually got a divorce. She then got engaged to another man but sadly she was involved in car accident in which she was left paralyzed from the waist down. Her stupid fiance left her shortly after that when she was still in recovery. She moved in with our family and of course wasn't able to work. We noticed one of the nurses that cared for her when she was hospitalized had become good friends with her and would check in on her a lot. Then she started taking her out and low and behold one day my sister announced she was in love with his lady and they were moving in together. Now it's been 6 months and my sister seems to be happy after a long time. This woman takes care of my niece and nephew like they are her own children. She's working two jobs now because my sister cannot work yet. She wants to put the kids in private school. We feel like she's going a little overboard for our approval.

2007-11-06 05:09:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

A guy that i used to date and also lived with for almost 2 years drowned nov-1-2007 in Miami where i lefted him at ...I talked to him halloween night and he sounded happy and wanted to see me soon but then the next day he died... He was only 22 and im 23 and im in shock ...I lefted him almost 3 weeks ago and ill never forget the look on his face ... I feel as if ill never be the same again ... One min im fine the next min im hysterical ... I loved him so much and im still very much in love with him... What can i do to mend the pain ...? It doesnt seem real when i know it is ... Im having to go thru all his stuff to give to his mom and me ... This has been the hardest yet in my life... Please help me what can i do ??????????????

2007-11-06 05:07:40 · 48 answers · asked by R.I.P ANDY ♥ 1 in Singles & Dating

Some ppl have commented to me that the 'giver' is the one who is guilty of giving to the ones who take advantage of ppl. To me there is a fine line between give and take. And somewhere in between it could lye with 'taking advantage'. I don't believe it's the giver who is the guilty party, but the one who 'takes'. Generosity from ppl is few and far between and some ppl take advantage of that kindness.
The ppl who say that the 'giver' is the guilty one has stated, "they can't take if you don't give". How can we go through life without giving from our hearts? In my opinion, it's not the kindhearted ppl who love to give who are the guilty ones. But those who take and take without gratitude who are guilty. What are your thoughts?

2007-11-06 05:06:34 · 8 answers · asked by lady_bella 6 in Friends

Didn't God call us to modesty and holiness not nakedness?...I saw one woman the other day who showed everything but her nipples....

2007-11-06 05:04:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-06 05:03:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok so in my neighbor hood there are a bunch of teens my age and we all hang with each other and such but we are all girls and there is this one boy and he doesn't hang with us anymore. i mean he has totally changed! one time when we were hanging out we decided to go see if he wanted to hang but his mom answered and she said he was vacuming and then he came to the door and said he just started a movie. and now he used this girl for money and told her she was ugly. that is sooo weird of him. he use to be nice and now he is a b**ch and trys to be gangster. maybe you hve an answer to why he is acting sooo weird. he has a lot of friends who are boy but why won't he hang out with us anymore???

2007-11-06 05:03:24 · 27 answers · asked by HUGS NOT DRUGS!!! 2 in Singles & Dating

Your wife always focuses on your business or work and money. She has very little time or energy to be a there for you. You have absolutely no guy friends and are completely devoted to the business and helping your wife. You have a 6yo son. This is your second marriage and have 3 children with your ex wife that you never really visited for 15 years. married now 11 years but honestly dont feel anything for your wife. You are trying not to make the same mistakes and want to be a full time father to your son who is so young right now. Would you sacrifice your happiness and stay with your wife for your son's sake???

2007-11-06 05:02:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i have been flirting and texting this guy he has been flirting back he sent me three kisses last night in a text anyway today i got a text asking me to call him-- yet i was away from my phone then half an hour later another text saying "ignore the last text, lads messing around, sorry". I just cant make heador tail of him i was away from my phone when i got the first text so i never phoned him and then i go the second saying ignore the first- do you think it was lads messing around or do you think he actually asked me to call him.but becasue he did not hear from me in the half hour he tried to cover it up? He is 28 bit bizarre what do you think? 10 points for decent logical answer?

2007-11-06 05:01:26 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Are there any "real" women that have had threesomes? Did you like it? Would you do it again?

2007-11-06 05:01:22 · 4 answers · asked by Crooked Johnson 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I’m looking for the best answer possible. So I’ll tell you in details about me and him.
Ok, I’m 25 years old. I’m fun-loving, friendly, Warm-hearted, humorous, outgoing and happy go-lucky girl. I like to party, travel, making new friends and enjoy my life. I’m a Sagittarius (if it helps). I broke up with my ex a year ago, but I still love him. I know no one can yet take his place. Now, I think I just want to look for a fling. It’s been a year and I fail to get a fling. Many guys like me and want to be with me, I know but I just can’t be serious. I don’t want to hurt them and I just can’t. I need time to heal my wounds.

Ok, this guy is 40 years old divorce. He’s a Virgo (if it helps)

I met him during my vacation on Hawaii 6 months ago. We met at a club. He was watching me from afar and finally made a move and talked to me. We got this instant connection and I liked him. He seemed to really like me. The next day, we had a date, a romantic date with beautiful beaches and nice dinner. We had great conversation together. He is a nice guy, calm, respectful, stable, charming, mature and caring. He never said anything sweet like he liked me bla bla. He wasn’t good at expressing his feelings. But he was just so caring for me. We had sex and it was great.
I told him that I wasn’t ready for any serious relationship. He said he was too. He wanted to focus on his career and he travels a lot, so he wasn’t ready too.

Next morning, we left. He lives in state A, I live in B, its like 4 hours drive. We exchanged number. After the vacation, we did meet each other like once a month. On the second date, after the first date on the vacation, basically, we were just like lovers, we acted like lovers, and we held hands, kissed in public and stuff. We went partying and we had drinks. We talked about anything but not our personal lives. He never asked me if I had a boyfriend etc. we just talked about life, people, society etc. many times, I felt like he was intimidated going out with me. Some stupid men liked to stare at me and kind of like flirted with me. But I just ignored them. I didn’t give a damn! However, I felt like he wasn’t very comfortable with that. He looked a little uptight and liked to play it cool. He attracts me, I like guy who is calm and not jealous like him. The date was great.

Third date, after a month, now... he seemed a little bit colder than usual. Even though I could see he cared about me but he totally played it cool. He seemed to withdraw a little bit, like didn’t kiss me that much or caresses me like he did before. I could feel it.
When he went to bathroom, a guy came near me and stood beside me. He saw it and he asked that guy to get off, he looked pissed off.
I asked him if he was alrite and why he was so quiet etc. He just said nothing. As I showed him some pictures from my cell, a text popped up from David, my friend. He saw it and said “Oh David! It’s ok replying him first!” he seemed not happy.
Then my cell’s battery went empty, he said he could take my cell over his mom place to recharge it cuz his mom lived nearby, then we came back. I said never mind. It’s ok. Then he said “it was not okay, it was totally empty”. I insisted it was fine. He looked unhappy. When I said something I asked him... like bla bla bla was it you? Did I tell you that? He then said “no! It was your boyfriend! Maybe some other guy!” all of the sudden I felt like he was getting sensitive.
The next morning I woke up, He had gone back to his mom house, took a shower and back here again and he took my cell and charged it.
He then sent me to meet my friends. He went to work. We kissed goodbye.

Since then, He didn’t text or call me. I called him one time and we still talked great. We chatted online once in a while. I can feel that he seems to avoid me. I’m so upset cuz I think I’m falling for him. He was mean to me like... he’d say... I’m so busy! Talk next time! Bye… bye...! I feel like he isn’t like that. He’s faking to be mean to me.
I don’t know! On his birthday, I texted him and wished him happy birthday. He said “good night little one...” That’s all? Yeah... that’s all he could say.
I figured out, I should just stop contacting him.

2 months gone by, we didn’t contact each other at all. Until, last night, I texted him cuz I got a new job and I just wanted to tell him cuz It was related to the business he does currently.
We texted and he sounded happy to hear from me. Lastly I said
Me: “okay, I’ll call you if I do go to A (his state) but I’m not sure when cuz I’ll be busy”
Him: “sure. I’m happy for you. Good nite”
Me: Nite..
Him: “U miss me?”
Me: “NOT that if you don’t. Gud night!”
Him: Night... dream of me.
Him: Miss…

Gosh! I miss him. What the hell was that? I freakin’ hate him and in love with him. What is he thinking? Does he like me? How does he feel about me?
I’m asking this cuz I just wanna know how he feels and thats it! I don’t expect to have a relationship with him. I know we are not meant to be. Is he playing me?
Please tell me.. I’m not going to pursue him. 15 years is big age gap. I just want to know this guy thinking. He freakin’ intrigues me.

2007-11-06 05:01:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my friends and i were discussing this and the jury's still out. would like other opinions

2007-11-06 04:59:31 · 35 answers · asked by shirlwirl 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am getting married there and want sweet child o mine to be played at my wedding. I live out of state and am having trouble locating one. Thanks!

2007-11-06 04:59:04 · 2 answers · asked by Sara 2 in Weddings

...Who lets say is drinving a 90's compact vehicle, but has his own 2bedroom apt/condo, or a guy who is driving a 2008 expensive vehicle, but lives @ home with Parents?

2007-11-06 04:58:27 · 22 answers · asked by KingHenry ll 2 in Singles & Dating

Why do girls look for Bad Boys who don't give a damn? I mean, I'm a Good Guy who don't give a damn. Does that count? What does a bad boy have that no other guy appears to have?

2007-11-06 04:57:59 · 30 answers · asked by Jerrius T 2 in Singles & Dating

Met someone online 9 mo's ago. We spoke briefly-phone & then drifted apart. He contacted me 2.5 mo's ago. I responded. I did a background check & all is good. We began speaking via phone-2 wks. We met in person. We hit it off. It's really difficult 2 spend time together since we live about 40 miles apart & we've got responsb/children. We are both in our early 40's, married 2x's & fulltime single parents. We are much alike & want the same things. We are a great match. We've gone out together w/children & that's all good. We do not not want to depend on leaving children constantly w/baby sitters. Kids on both sides get along great. He suggested we alternate weekends in visiting each others home. That may make us vulnerable to sex. We both have very strong feelings f/one other. We have much respect f/ our children & rather wait. I want 2 know more about him-before I become more involved w/ him how can I tell he is really serious about our relationship? it's been a while since I've dated.

2007-11-06 04:55:41 · 2 answers · asked by metalgods 4 in Family

i got answers that were "more" and "less" -
the answers seemed to have more "more"s than "less"es in general -

but there weren't many explanations why or what was hoped to be achieved -

it seemed the "less" answerers just wanted the "less experienced" now, later in life, just to settle down with;
but previously in life you wanted the "more experienced" for sowing the wild oats so to speak - but now the wild times are over you want the more subdued type

would this be a fair estimate?

2007-11-06 04:54:13 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-06 04:53:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

In todays society where divorce is at an all time high what has happened to people's word. Entering into marriage today is like playing a board game where when your tired of playing you can simply quit! (As I have posed in my previous question). If your the man in the marriage and your salary does not meet her "qualifications" she feels she has the right to jump ship. I'm not talking about a lazy man that doesnt work but a real man that works hard but just cant seem to make enough money for his gold digging wife!

2007-11-06 04:51:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce