Your wife always focuses on your business or work and money. She has very little time or energy to be a there for you. You have absolutely no guy friends and are completely devoted to the business and helping your wife. You have a 6yo son. This is your second marriage and have 3 children with your ex wife that you never really visited for 15 years. married now 11 years but honestly dont feel anything for your wife. You are trying not to make the same mistakes and want to be a full time father to your son who is so young right now. Would you sacrifice your happiness and stay with your wife for your son's sake???
2007-11-06
05:02:42
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In the past few years I have reconnected with my 3 children and talk to them, email them on myspace, and I am taking my son to visit with them just after christmas this year.trying to make a better father out of myself.
2007-11-06
05:04:45 ·
update #1
I do and have talked to her about my feelings and my needs. I even suggested selling 1 business so we can focus on just the one. When I always express myself to her she always sounds more like a MOTHER than a wife. I am left feeling selfish about what I express. So I tend not to say anything anymore. Besides I know it will lead to those petty little argument that I truly dislike but somehow have with her about anything.
2007-11-06
08:02:20 ·
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Yes, stay with the wife and invest time and energy into being a better father and husband. Don't lay all the blame on your marriage at her feet. You probably admired those qualities about her in the beginning, and it takes two to tango. Why not YOU try giving her special attention, creating date nights etc and see how she responds....she may even be thinking the same things that you are, that the marriage is lacking.
2007-11-06 05:09:55
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answered by reddevilbloodymary 6
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I applaud you for your devotion to your kids, however i don't know if you are applying the same devotion into your current marriage. Yes, I understand she is busy with the business and all, however I can't believe that she's always that busy not to spend time with your and your son. I'd make an effort to express to her how you feel...not exactly how you feel (not feeling anything) but more like you two need a vacation to focus on the marriage and each other. I'd bet she'd love it, plus she might need a break from the business. A 3 day cruise would satisfy. I personally would try to talk to her about your marriage and then at least try a marriage counselor before calling it quits. You don't have to make the same mistake...its your decision! Good Luck.
2007-11-06 13:20:02
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answered by Jason 2
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I feel sorry for you, guy. She's got you by the sac and controlling every aspect of your life.
You could go out to the store for milk one evening and not come back for a few years, but...
I think you should salvage whatever you can with the other "kids" (they're probably adults now, right?) and still do your best for the little one you have with you now.
As for her, she's nothing more than a business partner. Treat her as such. When work is done for the day, do your own thing and be happy.
2007-11-06 13:14:59
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answered by Mike T 3
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Work and other things will always get between a couple. You should try talking to her. Set a one on one time together. (Like a date) Marriage counseling may help with communication. But if there are disagreements or "unhappy" parents in the family, children will suffer most.
2007-11-06 13:18:51
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answered by Anonymous
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Sounds like you are trying your best for your children... good for you. Every child needs a father and mother. Would your wife entertain some marriage councelling? Sounds like the spark in your marriage extinguished years ago...
2007-11-06 13:07:00
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answered by Racer 7
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Life is short, why be unhappy? Being married doesnt mean that you are a good dad. If you are miserable how can you expect yourself to be good at anything.
Try being happy for a change, kids will grow and leave and when they do where will you be resenting life is where you will be.
2007-11-06 13:10:22
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answered by Anonymous
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you are doing everything right except...you guys need to TALK to each other.Tell her what you are feeling-there has to be some compromise.
2007-11-06 13:15:57
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answered by berlytea 4
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