Family & Relationships - 31 October 2007

well i went to a halloween party today and i just got back.
well while i was there towards the end of the party we told scary stories and while we were listening to the scary story, this guy asked me did i want him to massage me. i didnt want to be mean, but i really didnt want him to do it, so i said i dont care. and so when the lights went off he started to massage me. and his sister (my friend) asked me did i asked him to do it. i told her no, he asked me and i said i dont care and she told him to lay off the shoulders. and now thinking about i feel really bad and i think i should have just told him no. and i only like him as a friend, but i can tell that he likes me. i actually like his friend which i think likes me. so was what i did right?

2007-10-31 13:57:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok am a girl,and i just had this idea of maybe one day i go to different city,i dress like boys,i wear a fake mustache,the reason why it's coz i've always wanted to see how it is to live like a boy

2007-10-31 13:56:00 · 13 answers · asked by tara tara 3 in Singles & Dating

How is one to behave when they have had enough? When you get to that point where you realize just how far someone has pushed you outside of your personality and sound mind? When a female becomes pregnant twice, afraid, neglected, miscarries, has numerous surgical removals of he child, and is made to feel like her sorrow is ridiculous and she should get over it and want to go for a walk in the park the day after her losses…how is that female to carry that? When she moves hours away from her element in attempts to secure her relationship after being made to feel like she made things worse by being so far away, how does she rebuild? When she becomes suspicious and her gut tells her that he’s cheating on her while he insists that he’s being faithful, how does she clear the fog in her head? When she starts seeing more obvious signs of infidelity and confronts him, only for him to make her feel as though she’s insecure, paranoid, and should see a shrink, how does she confirm her sanity? When she wants to leave because she feels herself slipping, but is unable because she doesn’t have the money to, and has to allow him to come and go as he pleases, how does she maintain her former sense of independence? When she starts to break down inside because she cant understand how anyone could be so cruel to her, how can she avoid accepting that she may have to deal with this until she is financially stable? When her overwhelming grief and loneliness over losses of children, complete alienation by he who says he cares for her, and knowledge that she allowed this to ruin her pathway to a PhD, how can she stay calm?

How is one to behave when the moment comes in which her every suspicion is finally confirmed? When you realize that you were no more than a house pet to use at his convenience for years…When he blames you for his cheating and disrespect… When you register that this mind warping has gone on for this long and he took advantage of all you could possibly do for him…when you realize that from all surgeries your chances of conceiving with someone who could truly love you have been shot..when you feel like you gave and gave and he took advantage of all things I hold dear…after it all, you ask him to get away from you and quit hurting and he still wont leave…when it all ends in a physical struggle because youre thinking about everything you’ve lost, but still holding on to a shred of dignity in knowing im still alive through all of this…when he throws you across the room when you insist that he leaves and you retaliate in defense of your physical pain and everything he’s put you thru…when youre at work the next day bruised, limping, and in shock that it actually led to something like this…

Why is it that I still feel like everything is my fault and that it was wrong to finally fight back? All the lying, the cheating, the alienation for so long….allowing me to feel crazy and cry to sleep at night because he wont go away, but he can never love me or what was to be my children…I feel like I should be the one to apologize, but I know I didn’t do anything wrong outside of that last aggressive incident…

And how can someone tear another down for so long if they can never love them anyway?

I know I sound pathetic to have let this happen…but I still feel like I did something wrong in hitting him.

2007-10-31 13:55:38 · 2 answers · asked by angelabennett_12 1 in Singles & Dating

if you been married more then twice then why did you get married again if the last one didnt work out. you should learn from the last one this one wont work either

2007-10-31 13:55:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I met when we were 18 and married at 23. He graduated with his BS and I continued through med school. We were quite happy together until about 1 yr ago when we both started working excessively and spent less time together (27yrs). At this time I started spending time with one of my co-residents (30y/o) who was also married with 2 small children. My co-worker and I began to fall in love with each other and had an emotional affair which led to a physical affair. We have great chemistry, are very similar and both feel like we got married and met our spouses so young. He wants me to leave my husband; I do not have children so we can get married. I know he loves me but I am just scared b/c I do not want to regret it since people say once a cheater always a cheater. We are both doctors and our spouses are not so we feel we connect. Also, we have had intercourse in the past 6 months more than 250 times so our sexual chemistry is amazing. Please advise me on what I should do.

2007-10-31 13:54:13 · 14 answers · asked by Jackie S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

friends. I was going out with this woman for 9 months and then found out she was in a relationship with someone else since before we met. At first she said she wanted to be with me and that she needed time to get things straight in her life. I was giving her time then after 3 weeks she sent me a text that I pushed too hard too fast and it was all her fault and now she was ending it. She said never to contact her again. Then 3 days later she calls and said she fell and hurt her leg and was going to the Dr. She called back the next day to tell me that she had an allergic reaction to the meds and was going back to the Dr and would call later. She called two days later and we talked a little but she was late for a meeting. Finally that night I asked her if she still had feelings for me or just wanted to be friends. She said she wants to be friends. Everytime I try to get together and do something she says she is still in pain and it is not a good time. Does she want to be my frie

2007-10-31 13:52:54 · 4 answers · asked by dhack567 2 in Singles & Dating

If women can have multiple orgasms, does that mean they can go on forever?

2007-10-31 13:52:05 · 20 answers · asked by life_is_insane 1 in Singles & Dating

They make it look so easy - i almost broke my back trying last night. What's the secret as i'd love to be able to do this?

2007-10-31 13:51:54 · 30 answers · asked by . 7 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-31 13:50:05 · 13 answers · asked by kimberly k 5 in Singles & Dating

my lady quit her job and moved to my city to live with me. it has been about 3 months and she now says she is scared of commitment. i love her dearly. i have been taking good care of her as she is looking for a full time job. she says she loves me but when she told me how she felt, it broke my heart. she feels badly that i am hurting and has apologized many times. i have gone into a shell since i don't want her to go but i realize she must have had a change of heart. how do i get through this?
only serious opinions please.
thank you.

2007-10-31 13:49:59 · 1 answers · asked by KT 7 in Singles & Dating

I am a third year student nurse,I have been married for 6 years, we have two beautiful kids already.I met a french guy over the net last year and we have been chatting ever since, and he calls me often..He went to the Philippines (my country) just so he can meet with me..We spent the whole week together on the beach just having fun.I got to like him and he feels the same way towards me.But i am still tied to my marriage and that my husband is my bread and butter and he won't let go of me even if he is abroad for two years now because of work..What should I do?My culture is against with what i am doing now and i am really depressed. I need help,please help me figure a way out of this mess I put myself in..anybody out theeeeeerrree??I love my husband because he is the father of my kids but i haven't seen him for two years in a row now..I felt so lonely and this french guy made me real happy for over a year now and for the past week that we have been together...

2007-10-31 13:44:43 · 14 answers · asked by ToughCookie 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I want to get them all the same thing for sure. They are all around the same age--20-22. I can't get my fiance to pick anything out, so I'm open to suggestions. I'd like to spend about the same as I spent on the bridesmaids' gifts, so I'm looking at a price range of about $25-30, give or take a little. Thanks for your help!

2007-10-31 13:43:16 · 9 answers · asked by justpeachee22 5 in Weddings

IF you watched Dr. Phil today, I saw myself in that couple. I can have a firey personality, being aggressive and not backing down in an argument. The day my ex got physical and dragged me across the floor was the day I fired a report with the police department, and he said, "it's over." I texted him(1 wk later) saying, "You attacked me over a piece of candy?" (i threw it in his direction before he dragged me), "Its like your *** just snapped. Its deeper than just being about me. It always has been." then i said "You broke my heart, Ill never date again." Looking back I can see how I can provoke someone, but thats never an excuse to put ur hands on anybody. He needs anger managment, I need counseling.

SHould I write him a letter suggesting anger management and that I was as wrong as he was? My only fear is that he's mad I went to the police AND I destroyed his room after the dragging incident.

2007-10-31 13:39:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-31 13:36:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Today I accidentally (I swear I wasn't snooping) found some pictures with the filename of "laura" on his computer. The pics were taken (according to the date modified) a year and a half after we started dating. I asked him about her and he got really rude and didn't give me any info. After some investigation, I found her myspace page and saw that she is the girlfriend of one of his friends. He has told me that he was screwing a girl who had a boyfriend when he and I first met. Should I be suspicious that this is the girl and that he might still be seeing her?

2007-10-31 13:36:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

There's this creepy "friend" i have. I saw him and he was alone so i went to talk to him, but now he act's like we're really close. Whenever he sees me he holds me or puts his arm around me and won't let go. I try to stay away from him. It's really creepy, and one time when he held me and i moved away he held me tighter. My best friend saw this and got upset. He said "you have to do something, it's sexual harrasment, I'm only saying this because i care about you, if you don't do anything about it i will". Is he right? IS it sexual harrasment? He holds me and i feel uncomfortable and he's really creepy about it, like he's an obsessed freak. If i do report him to the authorities what will they say? I don't think they'll do anything about it because "that's what friends do". I don't think they'll believe me or do anything unless i tell them he's actually touched me in innapropriet places. I don't want my best friend to have to do it for me. Should i report him? what should i do/say?

2007-10-31 13:35:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My ex-wife used the county prosecuting attorney as her divorce attorney. She has not to date complied with any of the judges orders and the prosecuting attorney will do nothing to her. To add insult to injury i was on Missouri's case.net looking at a case when i seen my name and a order for modification granted to her. She filed for sole custody and supervised visitation and it was granted even tho i have never done anything wrong. What she and her attorney did was file saying they did not know where i was even tho she has been to my house several times and also knows my phone number. They posted the hearing in her local paper in the next county over about the hearing. I do not live in that county or get its paper. She committed perjury by saying she did not where i was but again he will not prosecute her for perjury because he is her attorney also and her decree was granted. Is there any thing i can do. I am a disabled vet and live on a fixed income and cannot afford an attorney. HELP

2007-10-31 13:35:06 · 8 answers · asked by inmissouri2003 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I've got a small problem with my husband, which I think in the long run will become a bigger much annoying issue.
Everytime we get into an argument he automatically brings up an ex's name or guy friends name. These people have nothing to do with our marriage let alone what the topic of argument is about.
At first, I just thought it's an insecurity thing and explained to him how I don't appreciate him talking about other men who have nothing to do with our current marriage.
But now it's just flat out annoying on how often he mentioned other men to the point where I don't want to see my husbands face and completely isolate myself in our bedroom while he's downstairs.
I'm sick of trying to argue about this issue b/c it's pointless. WHy would I try and explain how I feel when my freakin' husbands just going to mention it again in a week or 2.
Keep in mind, I've never cheated or lied to my husband!!!
Help me out here with my sanity, what can I do or say to stop this issue???

2007-10-31 13:32:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am not an affectionate person. I HAVE to have my personal space. I'm not hug-y, and I don't like someone hanging all over me. I'm perfectly satisfied with hand-holding or simply sitting moderately close to him. He, on the other hand, is a very touchy-feel-y person. He complains I'm never affectionate with him, but he wants to cling and constantly be showing PDA. I made him aware of the way I was when we first met. I just feel smothered...and I know his feelings are hurt, but what can we do to find the middle ground?

2007-10-31 13:28:58 · 2 answers · asked by southernsoul05 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-31 13:26:48 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I just had to endure a minute walk and talk(harder to do, loses weight) and *****, with my sister. She cannot get it through her head, that now is not 10 years ago. Life is different, she went to college and stuff. It's not my fault. She wants to do stuff w me. But all she does is give me crap and we fight. She never calls me! She calls my mom, she calls me if she can't get her. She doesn't e-mail me. She doesn't have time for me. She was telling me about going to Orlando w her. It's not my fault no1 has the decency to tell me anything. My mom tells me nothing! I believe I am family. Many times, it DIRECTLY concerns me or I have some part in it. She doesn't tell me. She tells me nothing about my sister's going ons.? And my sister asks me personal questions that I hate, I have told her a billion times not to ask! She is permenately glued to her cell phone. And she's a pro golfer, and likes to be out, and to work out. There's no time to hang out. At night I like to watch a movie. She doe

2007-10-31 13:24:53 · 2 answers · asked by samantha wilson 2 in Family

if you were partners in a buisness and he stoled money from you

2007-10-31 13:20:35 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-10-31 13:19:06 · 17 answers · asked by cavsfan45 3 in Singles & Dating

Should the inside envelope writing be in cursive or in print?

2007-10-31 13:17:05 · 5 answers · asked by bird79 2 in Weddings

I got a note on halloween from a so called secret admirer. I want to know how i can find out who it is without asking people if they wrote it.

2007-10-31 13:14:35 · 17 answers · asked by Save the trees! 3 in Singles & Dating

Found out my husband of 18 years was having an affair. Had him legally removed from the house in Dec 2006. We signed a separation agreement in May 2007 stating he was to take immediate possession of a jointly owned car and boat and he wanted to take the wood stove we use as a primary heat source. He built a house with his girlfriend for them and their kids. (yes he has 2 daughters with her). She told him she did want anything that I had anything to do with in her yard and he had to build a garage to hide it in before he could get his "junk". It is now almost November and I am getting ready to move.
What do I do with this stuff? He has to pay me for 1/2 of what he paid for it and won't. Do I keep it? Do I junk the car and boat? I can't sell them because they are in both of our names. My friend says that after 90 days and he has not honored the agreement as it states "immediate possession", ownership becomes soley mine.
Help!!!! What do I do?

2007-10-31 13:12:37 · 7 answers · asked by Guess_who 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am going Dec 14th. If I tell her she will get mad that I am not taking her. The reason why I am not taking her is that she only gets 4 weeks off a year and I get 6 weeks so she has to work. I dont want to tell her now and have her mad from now till the trip, but if I tell her too late she will pull the " I wouldnt have been mad if you would have told me sooner" which we all know ISNT the case. What do you think?

2007-10-31 13:10:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I do not have a drinking problem and do not think it is fair of her.

2007-10-31 13:09:28 · 23 answers · asked by whatsup? 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am going to a adult school for my GED and I am 34 years old and there is a Subsuite teacher that dose not subsiute in my class all the time and he dose not teach at my school all the time either. And I think he likes me and I think he is cute too. How do I ask him If he is married and ask him out.

2007-10-31 13:07:49 · 1 answers · asked by cottoncandy47 1 in Singles & Dating

I am always kissing him, giving him massages, rubbing his back and masturbating, but he vary rarely does anything in return!

He hasn't rubbed me properly in ages now.

I asked him why he doesn't and he says I have to ask him for it! Why should I have to ask him for it?

I'm thinking that if that's the case I'm going to DEMAND he do stuff for me, not ask. Though I worry if I do that he will refuse. Maybe I should just give him a spanking if I have been pleasuring him and he refuses my demands for pleasure in return?

But what I really want is for him to take some of the initiative like he used to. Why do you think he stopped? How can I get him to start again?

I am dominant and it's REALLY pissing me off that I give pleasure but get next to none in return. If I didn't like him so much I would never do such a thing! And even though I like him, I'm not going to keep this up much longer before I take the initiative to start taking my pleasure from him...

2007-10-31 13:04:08 · 4 answers · asked by Philosopher 5 in Singles & Dating