Family & Relationships - 31 October 2007

Me and my husband have been married for 13 yrs we have 3 children. It has been a good marriage except for 1 seperation. I have always been th one who has took care of the bills, household, and the children. but 4 months ago he moved to a town 2 hrs away because of his job me and the kids still live in the old town because of them already being in school and my job. well we got a little behind on our bills because of the job change and a couple of poor checks and just last month he took his check out of direct deposit from our joint account and open one in his name with his mother and is paying the bills from it and if I need something for the house or kids I have to ask her. I asked for halloween costumes for the kids and she said can't you find something for them to wear? I feel that I am the outsider in their marriage and i'm at the end of my rope. I want to save my marriage because I love my husband but i know i can't live like this. It's like im a child again. please help.

2007-10-31 02:25:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

People act shocked when I say that I don't want to hire a wedding photographer. Of course I want the day memorialized, but I have plenty of friends and family with good digital cameras. Plus, I'm not interested in all of the posed shots. Plus plus, I'm trying to keep to a modest budget, and a book full of photos is just not a priority. Any suggestions?

2007-10-31 02:24:36 · 31 answers · asked by mellowyellow5 2 in Weddings

My wife is biploar. She is controlled by her mother and recently filed for divorce. Her mother is clinically depressed. Her sister also lives there and is bipolar. I recently found out my wife left our baby on the bed and she fell off. In addition, her sister is posting nude photos of herself online in the same restroom shared by my wife/daughter. I love both of them yet while she is pregnant with our second child, she is unable to take her meds. In addition, I am desperate to find an attorney. I have been contacting Texas Legal Aid as well as trying desperatley to find a pro bono lawyer as I am very limited on funds due to all of this. I need help to either try to get court appointed marriage counseling and/or to win custody (or at least partial) for my two girls. As of right now, she has kept my daughter away from me for 3 months. They are pushing for only 2 supervised hours per week for me. They won't even know thier father with such limited time. What can I do?!?

2007-10-31 02:23:02 · 9 answers · asked by cjsimmons269 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-31 02:18:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

for 6 months, & they are very nice people. They are warm, welcoming, & conversational. I have no prob. with the kids.

Things run smoothly most of the time, but occasionally, there's a bump in the road. Although they are nice people & treat and pay me well, there are a couple of things that bother me a little bit at times. I don't know if these are things I just need to deal with & consider part of the "package" or if I really could be happier somewhere else.

The dad is anal about things & can be demanding & rude at times. Other times he's very friendly. I really have no prob. with him, but sometimes am uneasy because of the past. The mom is very stressed with work, & always rushed, & snippy with her husband, which, at times makes me a little uncomfortable. She is neurotic about everything & leaves sticky-note reminders about things like appropriately valving the sippies and which jelly to use.

Are there ANY perfect families? How do I break the news? I need a good excuse!

2007-10-31 02:18:31 · 8 answers · asked by ellenoid 3 in Family

My GF suffers bad PMS. I am a supportive & understanding guy and I cut her a lot of slack at that time every month. This month things were really bad. She has been irritated, rude, blunt, & unaffectionate over a 48hr period but I still continued to reach out and be understanding. In bed last night, she asked me if I was ok. I told her that the ear infection I had was bothering me and that there was also something else. I said, "I love you with all my heart and I really understand that your PMS has been difficult for you this month but as much as I have tried to be understanding, the way you have been talking to me has affected me and is making me feel a little deflated. Things will be fine, but I just needed to vent how I am feeling to you". She took this to heart and was really cold and unloving toward me. She layed there giving me no affection even though I opened my heart to her and had a horrible ear ache. This kind of thing is hard to deal with. What did I do wrong?

2007-10-31 02:17:44 · 15 answers · asked by Andy8875 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i live in an apartment on the 14th floor, there is only one door that i can use. my room is upstairs and my parents room is downstairs near the door. to get out i would have to wall down the hall, go downstairs, open the door then leave.

wat i want to knw is:

- how can i close my parents door without making it obvious b/c they always leave the door open

- how can i make sure the door doesn't creak or squeak.

- how can i make it look like i'm in bed, or in my room?
- what is a good cover up story?

- wat should i say if they catch me coming home, wearing make-up and party clothes?

- should i leave the door open?


i have my own house keys, i don't have a room key..

plz help.

AND JUST IN CASE THERE'S SOMEONE WHO'S GONNA SAY, "oh dont sneak out, you could die, you'll get grounded, you'll regret it" DONT BOTHER, I'LL GO ANYWAYS! ALL I NEED IS SOME TIPS TO HELP ME OUT!

2007-10-31 02:12:57 · 16 answers · asked by samantha 2 in Family

I recieved my itemized bill the other day for our flowers at the wedding and the reception. I thought the total price was pretty darn cheap. I went back to the shop to change the bridesmaids bouquets because they were going to be too blah. When she looked at the price list she realized she undercharged me from the get go by almost $400. All together it was still a little under a grand for fresh flowers but still....We ended up tweaking the arrangements and using different flowers on some of the arrangements then the tiger lillies and orlando roses we had org. planned. Should I have been honored the price that was quoted to me at first or is this just an oops on their part and I have to accept it? I was overly mad, but secretly I was fuming on the inside. As long as my flowers look great on my wedding day thats all that matters in the long run.

2007-10-31 02:10:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

if it's platonic?
some of my girlfriends, and such told me I have guy friends just because I am "pretty" and they really don't want to be "friends"
that isn't true is it?

2007-10-31 02:07:27 · 15 answers · asked by Dots 4 in Friends

a- What are some of your aphrodisiacs?

b- If you prefer petite women, what is it about them that makes them appeal to you? If you prefer taller women, what is it about them that appeals to you? AND if you don't have a preference, what certain features of a woman appeal to you the most?

Thank you in advance for your answers!
:-)

2007-10-31 02:04:24 · 7 answers · asked by YSIC 7 in Singles & Dating

see every1, we were completely frank with each other at the beginning. but as days went by, intervention came from her family and she broke away! i was, and am shattered!! please help me. even now i know we love each other.

2007-10-31 02:03:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my friends all hate my boyfriend and i really dont want want to hurt him or break up w/ him. i love him so much but my friends think he is controling the relationship!! please give me some advice!!!

2007-10-31 02:00:51 · 10 answers · asked by roxxi s 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay, so a week ago my dad promised me to take me shopping on Tuesday. Since I hadnt been shopping for like 3 weeks, I was really excited! My family also made a plan to go out for dinner that evening.

So Tuesday comes and we've decided that we are going to go out for dinner/mall at around 8pm. So its 8pm and my dads all like "ok so lets meet at Swiss Chalet". And Im like, "ok what about my shopping?" and he says "what about it?"..... so after about 10 min of me arguing that if he said he would take me shopping then he should, I finally go to the mall, but with my mom. Shes all pissed off cause I ruined the whole family dinner plan blah blah blah (dad decided that since im going to the mall, theres no time for dinner). Anywho, I go to the mall buy some nice stuff, while my mom waits in the car for me (she was too upset at me to coem inside) and now we havent talked since.
This morning the only thing she said was.. "you dont care about anyone but yourself!"

Tell me...

2007-10-31 01:53:14 · 8 answers · asked by thedumbone 4 in Family

everything in my life seems to be crumbling down around me.

i feel as if im on the edge of depression but seem to be fighting it off.

2007-10-31 01:48:37 · 23 answers · asked by Fall Back 2 in Singles & Dating

My hubby and his best friend talked and plan to swap me for a night to his best friend's wife. His best friend and his wife are long long time family friends who lived in the other country. They are here for vacation for a 2 weeks. They had already agreed and arranged the meeting to be held somewhere outside our city few days from now. I felt nervous about this plan. I feel to enjoy anticipating what will happen after. We have open in regards to our sex life. We have both shared our fantasies that add spice-up our sex. But we have never been into swapping. What shall I do, Do I need to refuse or accept? I am confused and please serious advise is urgently appreciated.

2007-10-31 01:47:50 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

tell my biological father to get lost without being rude? Recently, I've run into my biological father(it's not like he was around long enough to be considered a real father to me) who I hadn't seen in 15 or 16 years(I'm 20). He's trying to re-connect with me, but I am at the point where I don't care anymore. I don't want to be rude though and tell him to get lost. It also doesn't help that I see him just about everyday. He talks to me, but I tend to tune him out while at the same time try to make it seem like I'm paying attention.

How can I get him to understand that I don't need him?

2007-10-31 01:47:47 · 11 answers · asked by Usagi's Twin; HAJI IS MINE! 4 in Family

i live with my mum n 2 sisters 1 stil in school the other divorced mum does not work am the only one working so i ve assumed the role of a bread winner i feel burened i cant do anything for myself i dont earn enough am just confusedl

2007-10-31 01:46:39 · 8 answers · asked by tush 1 in Family

i am 17. i dont have a boyfriend but all i want to do is have a baby. i live at home and both my parents would love a grandchild as they coulddnt have more children after me due to complications. we have a large beautiful house perfect to bring a child up in. i have £80,000 inheritance for us to live on.

what do you think is there any opinions about this.
i may wait about year im not sure.

2007-10-31 01:44:35 · 32 answers · asked by Zalia 1 in Family

Someone told me that that's how you can find out if someone is too young for you by doing this simple formula. For example I'm 30 years old. I took my age and divided it by 2 and added 7 and came up with 22. (30 ÷ 2 +7 = 22)...so that means that I should date women 23 and up. Who came up with this formula? LOL

2007-10-31 01:37:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

is the army the way to go ? iv always wanted to join but because i love her i never went ! hopefully by the time i come home from leev she is not with him, id gove anything to make love to her again ! :(

2007-10-31 01:33:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-31 01:29:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

For instance.... with winter coming on, we should give a thought to the elderly who may feel the chill and not venture out as much. If you didn't see that person, would you think there was something wrong and would you be concerned enough to pop round and say hello?

2007-10-31 01:22:35 · 1 answers · asked by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 in Friends

I am torn between spending Christmas lunch with my family or my boyfriend. My boyfriend can't come to my family for Christmas, he needs to be with his family as his sister is coming over to the UK from Chicago and they don't get together very much. He has invited me to Christmas lunch too. We've been together for a year. Both our families are small, though mine is increasing as one of my brothers is now married with children.

However, my other brother says I am selfish as I should be spending Christmas lunch with my family and see my boyfriend on Christmas Eve instead. I can't make him understand that my boyfriend is important, he is the person that I am going to start a family with, and of course I want to spend Christmas with him.

Whatever I do, I can't win!

2007-10-31 01:20:40 · 11 answers · asked by Picky Bird 1 in Family

Most guys thinks we have lady's nights to meet men. I go out with my girlfriends to have fun and to be myself. To talk about things I wouldn't tell my bf. eg. girl stuff.

2007-10-31 01:20:27 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

A guy that grew up with me in the Kingdom Hall was forced by his parents to get married to a girl (a non- witness), he got pregnant. If she didn't get pregnant then marraige wouldn't have been an issue. Right?
I know as Christians we try to follow principles set out for us by Jehovah. We all want our children to be born into wedlock. But he already got himself into problems by having pre-marital sex, getting the girl pregnant, why then force him to get married to her?
I mean it's not like he wouldn't have supported his child. They haven't been married for a good year, now he has to deal with legal seperation, paying a loan to the bank that he took for the wedding, including paying for a vehicle that his wife is driving.
Why couldn't his parents leave them to make their own dicision on weather they should get married or not?
I've seen similar situations so many times inside Jehovah's organization and Outside. Why force someone to get married because of Christian beleifs?

2007-10-31 01:11:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My daughter had a troubled adolescence. She messed up, made some bad mistakes and we, especially I, had to be harsh. For some time I had to ground, had to take aaway almost everything, sometimed had to sat some hard words to make her awake. Sometimes I had to tell her I couldn't trust her, thgough she asked for my trust. I agre she went through some hard periods, until she grew up and got responsible. She turned out to be a grat young adult, is 24,graduated, has a job, very respected as a person and as a professional. But hates me, says I was too harsh, destroyed her teen years, doesn't talk me, doesn't even let me in her apartment. She says she wants to forget about everything related to her teen years and I'm closed related to them, A bad and sad memory to her. She' s 24, is about to get married with a guy I hardly know. I did everything to turn her into a responsible girl and she hates me. This is frustrating, sad. And I don't see no chance at all.

2007-10-31 01:05:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I recently signed up to this community site called Because I'm Hot which is a dating site for hot people only. Sure enough, everyone on there was hot, as ugly people get voted off. I am wondering whether its shallow to refine my time looking for a date on a site that votes off ugly people? and... Do they work?

2007-10-31 01:00:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

The gal is 21 and the guy is 17. She lives alone and he lives at home with his parents, he works and so does she. They both really like eachother but do worry what others will think.

2007-10-31 01:00:10 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I simlpy do not want to disapoint her. I never had to deal with something like this.

2007-10-31 00:57:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-10-31 00:39:51 · 7 answers · asked by Arvind K 1 in Marriage & Divorce