A guy that grew up with me in the Kingdom Hall was forced by his parents to get married to a girl (a non- witness), he got pregnant. If she didn't get pregnant then marraige wouldn't have been an issue. Right?
I know as Christians we try to follow principles set out for us by Jehovah. We all want our children to be born into wedlock. But he already got himself into problems by having pre-marital sex, getting the girl pregnant, why then force him to get married to her?
I mean it's not like he wouldn't have supported his child. They haven't been married for a good year, now he has to deal with legal seperation, paying a loan to the bank that he took for the wedding, including paying for a vehicle that his wife is driving.
Why couldn't his parents leave them to make their own dicision on weather they should get married or not?
I've seen similar situations so many times inside Jehovah's organization and Outside. Why force someone to get married because of Christian beleifs?
2007-10-31 01:11:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Brown K... I'm not against marraige... I'm against forcing someone into marraige when their not ready.
2007-10-31 01:33:47 · update #1
Your reasoning seems to be sound, your point of view balanced.
Was the fellow who couldn't keep his pants on, of legal age?
If yes, why did he allow his parents to dominate the situation?
Taking care of one's mistakes is an obligation, but that does not mean marriage is the answer.
Parents sometimes like to slap on a white-wash appearance to make things look as good as possible.
They too, have their hang-ups.
It can lead to complicating matters.
2007-10-31 04:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look I may not be Jehovah's Witness but I too believe that we should be married BEFORE we have sex and that children should come into the world and to a set of parents that consist of a mother and a father. Maybe the parents were worried that the child would not grow up rightly and that is why they forced the marriage btween them. The parents could have been worried about the child and they were thinking in the best interest of the child. I do however believe that nobody should be forced into something they dont want to do but do realize we do live in a world where this happens and no matter what we say or do we can not change some people's minds about certain things.
2007-10-31 08:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by LADY WITH AN ATTITUDE 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yet another golden opportunity for responders to call Jehovah's Witnesses a cult and to state categorically that they are not Christians. I wonder if people think it is Christian to go around calling people cults or stating categorically that they are not Christians.
Uncle Thesis made some nice points. If the pantless young man is of age, he should not have allowed his parents to dominate him. It may be that he is living under their roof. If he is of age, it may be that, because of living under their roof, he must follow their direction. Perhaps he has no other place to stay.
Either way, marriage is no band aid for fornication. Shotgun marriages rarely work.
Hannah J Paul
2007-10-31 15:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by Hannah J Paul 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your question is a good one, but should not be pointed towards Jehovah's Witnesses as a whole. We are not forced to marry and we would definately not force someone to marry a non-Witness.
I am a Witness(obviously) and I do not approve of the behavior of these parents, I think they made a very bad decision and now lives have to be ruined because of it.
2007-10-31 12:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all how old is this guy friend??
And second of all... the fact that his parents forced him to get married has NOTHING to do with the religion.
Your right like you said he did the mistake already why force him to marry her.
every Christianity implies to wait til you get married for sex because of that exact reason.. and pregnancy is one of them.. You want to be with someone and have your family not raising your kid alone..
No one forces you to do something.. He should of talked to his parents and told them that he really didn't love this girl and that a mistake happened we are all imperfect and some are weaker than others..
His parents forcing him to get married has to do with culture not religion in its self people just use it as an excuse..
He could of avoided all this drama from the very beginning.. He let his parents make him get married instead of talking to them. And he got a girl pregnant before thinking of the possibilities.. Is like he doesn't think before he acts.. and that's why he is stuck in these situation..
He's just now going through consequences of his own actions.
So people need to understand that talking makes things better and no one forces you to do ANYTHING...he was told something and instead of talking and putting in his input he just went through with it.
2007-10-31 09:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its just that the bible says in the old testament that God will not be the Lord to children born out of wedlock, because in those days it was different. His parents wanted the best for their grandchild and they believed that he or she would have grown up safer and better in a two-parent household. Parents always want what is best for their childrn, even if it isn't the right thing at the time. And for goodness sake this isn't really a question for Jehovahs Witnesses is it? Hundreds of people do this no matter what religion.
2007-10-31 08:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by floppity 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I agree with my brothers and sisters. Hannah made a good point. people keep calling us a cult. they should learn what that is. I am tired of them calling us a cult. a cult worships man. we worship Jehovah God and live in our own homes in 236 lands. if they did not love one another, the marriage will not work. yes we want our children to be born in wedlock but he they grow to hate each other, then what
2007-11-01 07:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, JWs are not Christians. They deny much if not most of what Christians believe to be dogma. They are a para-christian cult.
Second, nobody forced this couple to mess around. Nobody forced them to get pregnant. Nobody forced your friend to take out loans. Nobody forced them to plan a wedding.
It sounds like your friend needs to mature and take some responsibility for his own actions. Its apparent that he is living contrary to the way he's been raised. He needs realize who he is and stand up to his parents. He should learn to make his own choices and live with those consequences.
2007-10-31 08:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
In situations like that parents will do stuff like this to save face from the community they are living in. They are hopping that the marriage will work out and all is fine, most of the time it does not.
2007-10-31 08:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that was the parent's decision - not necessarily a bible command. Maybe he couldn't or wouldn't stop having sex with her, therefore they pushed him to marry her.
2007-10-31 08:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by gatsgrl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋