My hubby wants me to swap for a night for his best friend's wife.?

Question

My hubby and his best friend talked and plan to swap me for a night to his best friend's wife. His best friend and his wife are long long time family friends who lived in the other country. They are here for vacation for a 2 weeks. They had already agreed and arranged the meeting to be held somewhere outside our city few days from now. I felt nervous about this plan. I feel to enjoy anticipating what will happen after. We have open in regards to our sex life. We have both shared our fantasies that add spice-up our sex. But we have never been into swapping. What shall I do, Do I need to refuse or accept? I am confused and please serious advise is urgently appreciated.

Answer 1

Honesty, there is nothing wrong with spicing up you sex life. However, swapping wives that's crossing the line. If you should go through with this what will you husband ask of you next, " to get a sex change." Seriously, if you really are uncomfortable about the whole idea you need to talk with your husband about your feelings.

Answer 2

I think this works for some people out there. It is RARE though that it would work. Men and women have natural jealousy tendancies. Not avoidable. If you were into it 100 percent along with all other parties involved, then it might work. I know a set of two best friends. They swapped with each other for a long time. Everything was fine. Then, the one woman's husband started seeing the one man's wife on the side and not including the other spouse in the whole thing. He started to fall in love with the other wife. His wife divorced him and broke up a marriage of lots of years with two children's lives at stake. Don't do this unless you are willing to accept all of the possible consequences.

Answer 3

This boils down to what YOU feel. Don't let him talk you into it or anyone tell you yes, go ahead. He and his buddy should have consulted with you guys, the wives before the arrangements - first and foremost. Sounds like they didn't. Then think about whether this is something you can live with after it's done. Some people have issues in relationships after this, and some want to do it more often. First, think about it - do I (and I mean I..not we) want to do/try this....then, can we (you and the hubby) survive it after it's over with the latter coming after a YES vote on the first. The us question can include the hubby - but I bet he'll be for yes. Only you can decide...!
Best of luck...!!

Answer 4

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My hubby wants me to swap for a night for his best friend's wife.?
My hubby and his best friend talked and plan to swap me for a night to his best friend's wife. His best friend and his wife are long long time family friends who lived in the other country. They are here for vacation for a 2 weeks. They had already agreed and arranged the meeting to be held...

Answer 6

WOW! He straight out asked you instead of hinting?? It sounds as if he is trying to cover up some bad things hes done already such as cheating on you. He figures if he gets you to swap he can get away with cheating and it will be all A.O.K. Or he is just plain out tired of the relationship and wants to slowly end it. Think about it hard and make a smart decision. If you want advise then say NO to the wife swap. I dont mean to be so upfront and a bit brutal but you need to read between the lines.

Answer 7

You should only accept the idea if you personally are comfortable with the plan ,don't do it to please others as you will feel used and disgusted with your self .
Swapping is a big thing to consider and if you are not happy say NO or approach with caution.
I think they had a uncaring attitude to arrange things first and then tell you. These things should be discussed by all parties involved first ,and then arrangements made only if all issues are OK

I recommend that you don`t go to this arranged meeting ,tell your husband that you want to all met first to work out your worries .
But it is your decision

Answer 8

First for all, talk to your husband and tell him how nervous and uncomfortable it makes you feel and if he truly loves and respects you he will not consider this swapping. Really swapping spouses isn't right, but that's your decision. I would becareful for you never know what diseases lie ahead. Don't force yourself to do something you don't won't to do for that would make you very uncomfortable. I'm sorry that your husband put you in that kind of situation. But I would think really long and hard on this one. I'm married and I wouldn't think twice about swapping spouses, for it would make me feel dirty and cheap. We all should be faithful to our spouses but hun you do what your heart tells you. Just be careful.

Answer 9

Sounds as though you are very nervous or uncomfortable about the swap. What is the reason for discomfort? Do you know these people really well? Being with someone you don't know well is like sleeping with a stranger. I think if you are as uncomfortable as you appear, you should tell your husband you don't think you can do it. Maybe a foursome or something would make you more comfortable....think about it.

Answer 10

I'm no expert first of all, and I have no experience when it comes to swinging, or swapping. No experience with threesomes either... But I've heard and read lots of questions and answers...and those who have had experience, say be very very careful. The aftermath may be very damaging. Think this through...and I think you already think it's not right, just because you came online and asked the question here....