Family & Relationships - 31 October 2007

Is it legal for me too?Change the locks so that my husband cant get into our home again.My hubby and i have been married almost 3.5 years now and its been very rocky.We met while we were both sill in college i was a freshman and he was going for his masters.He was nothing like he is today.We got married after i graduaed and thats when trouble started.My hubby is a workacholic and thats his obsession.While we were dating though he made time for me but when we got married i got pushed aside.Unbeknownst to me he was also becoming an alcoholic and becoming addicted to prescription drugs .After 8-9months of marriage he just up and left after a melt down because he was fiered.For 6 months i had no clue where he was so i filed for divorce and started seeing an ex.bf.Hubby came back begging me to try again and i caved.I found out i was pregnant, he was made aware of the paternity(unsure) situation and said it did not matter he never wanted to know .Well now my hubby has started up with his old ways again

2007-10-31 05:56:32 · 34 answers · asked by Jenna F 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Stalking sounds really harsh but its the only word i can think of. I asked a few questions about this before but i'll just tell you the story again. I met this guy on a course and he seemed alright. I'm a sociable type of person so i went out to the club with him and that type of stuff. I just want to stress i'm 100% straight. As time went on he started to text me everyday and phone me every few days. Now he texts around 3 or 4 times a day on seperate occasions and phones most days. I try to be nice but he's really starting to freak me out. He doesnt know my address but when he hinted for it and i didnt respond he said "ill go into the course, print off your CV and get your address" with a laugh in his voice. He also always says things like "oh you love my voice dont you" when hes on the phone. He even said we should live together and other things. Theres a lot that doesnt make sense. He said he was beat up but had no marks on him. He was talking to me at midnight one night...

2007-10-31 05:51:06 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I had this friend named mel and she always told me that my other friend cloe (who has a 5 month old) takes really bad care of her child. That her baby named julia is losing a lot of weight and she can't even hold her head up and that cloe barely bathes her. Well i went to mels house one day and she was crying saying I can't believe how sick julia looks she looks like she has a dieses. well being scared and having a 3 month old myself I did what was best and called the police to tell them that there was a sick baby and I think it has to do with neglect. Now I didn't do this to have the baby taken away I just wanted to make sure that she was ok. So I gave my name becuse they said that they wanted it and I told them that I do want it anonymous though. The cop went over there to see how the baby was doing and said that she looked fine. Also he gave out my name which I told them not to. Now she wont talk to me even though I apologized wouldnt you do the same thing cause you were worried?

2007-10-31 05:49:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Would you be disappointed?? Would you try again for a girl?

2007-10-31 05:48:23 · 13 answers · asked by Tilly123 1 in Family

Its been over a month since I found out that my significant other had a one night stand with one of MY acquaintances he had just met at a function he attended with me. This mutual acquaintance came with a reputation of being easy. Anyway, Im still seething and angry. He has apologized and tried calling several times. I just cant seem to let it go, and the more I think about it the angrier I get. Am i taking this way too hard or personal? Should I just get over it or do I have a right to hold a grudge?

2007-10-31 05:47:25 · 40 answers · asked by lookinfortruth 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it possible for a man private part to smell like sex if him and his girlfriend haven't had sex.He says he sweats alot thats way he smells like that. Is he cheating or is this true.

2007-10-31 05:44:53 · 22 answers · asked by shaynight20 1 in Singles & Dating

I eat super healthy
Im a vegetarian
I havent had fast food in years
I don't drink sodas
I don't drink coffee
I don't drink alcohol
I don't smoke
I don't eat processed foods
I excersise

but....

Im kind of ugly and balding.

Other guys drink alcohol, smoke eat at McDonalds when ever they feel like it but where born handsome so they get all the girl looking at them and have dates for the weekends.

I am alone and don't know what else to do to improve my looks. I guess I will be lonely forever?

2007-10-31 05:43:57 · 23 answers · asked by johnduo0007 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-31 05:42:07 · 4 answers · asked by lovebird 3 in Singles & Dating

If you don't have kids, are you planning to? Why or why not? If you're not, are there any concerns you have? I am 32, my husband 33 and we are not planning to have kids any time soon. We don't really have the interest and don't feel it is missing from our lives. I personally think that there are *way too many* people in the world to add to the overpopulation problem. What are your thoughts?

2007-10-31 05:40:44 · 7 answers · asked by veggurl21 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I had a big crush on her, she asked me for career advice (we're both in business school) and I noticed she was flirting with me. She mentioned her BF (in a diff city) in passing, but continued speaking in this innocent yet mischievous way. Later she got me a postcard from spring brk, but when I asked her to dinner, she ignored me for 2 weeks, only to ask me out a week later. I refused her this time (thinking she's playing). She got visibly jealous that week that I was dancing with another girl at a party, we didn't talk for 4-5 wks. Then, I gave in/said hi, asked her to dinner. At a party that week, she asked me to dance and we rubbed up on the dance flr, she said "I'd like to get to know you" but at dinner she again talked about her BF. I decided to forget about her, she called 2 months later asking to meet. We met, but she was a little aloof, we made plans to meet the next day but she blew me off. She looks pretty/flirty with other guys too, drive me nuts. I feel like I blew it. Help

2007-10-31 05:39:14 · 7 answers · asked by riddler 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-31 05:38:14 · 16 answers · asked by beccahippie 1 in Family

My stepfather and I had a pretty terrible relationship throughout my childhood; always fighting and yelling at each other. He and my mother divorced and we all went our separate ways. I am now a Christian and last year, I reconnected with my stepfather and we have a wonderful stepfather/stepdaughter relationship NOW. I'm getting married in 8 months and I want to share a dance with my stepfather but I can't find an appropriate song for us. All the father/daughter songs are about the past and how great it was - I need a song (it can be religious or not) that talks about a rough past or a reconciliation. It can be any genre, really. I'm 22 and my stepfather is 40 - we like all styles of music. Does anyone know of any songs that talk about an apology or forgiving the past?

2007-10-31 05:37:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

so I was drunk with my best friend's boyfriend and a few other people, and someone said that a friend of hers was having a party this weekend the same day I'm having mine. I said **** that ****, her parties are always the same three b***hes sitting around doing nothing, which they are (I'm normally not this vulgar by the way). and all I meant to say was that her party will be gay and that everyone should come to mine. Anyhow, for some reason I started naming the people that will be there and I said it will be heather cristin and his boyfriend (as I point to my buddy). I would never mean to say something like that about my friend and as soon as I said it everyone was like ah ****. and I told him I didn't mean to say it like that.

If he tells her I'm obviously in trouble, but thats not what I meant at all, can I chaulk it up to the alchol? Do you think she'll understand?

2007-10-31 05:35:54 · 8 answers · asked by Nate 6 in Friends

We talked about getting married, when I brought up how can we get married if you dont trust me he said I wish you would just drop the marriage thingy! The I asked him if he loved me he said yes I love you but Im not in love with you! I just dont understand!

2007-10-31 05:35:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

WHERE HAST THOU BEEN???
Are you still happy with/in LOVE, or has it failed you by now.
I have missed you?
Are You Well, my dear???
Lots of Love
Abi G.

2007-10-31 05:34:59 · 1 answers · asked by skydancerwi 6 in Friends

listen to oldies, behave like real men, dress cool, interested in manly things and dont have any girly ways about them.

2007-10-31 05:34:34 · 25 answers · asked by dave 1 in Singles & Dating

Theses are the exact words she used My parents are fighting with me and my sisters, and against each other. My friends miss me in Hawaii, my friend's ex bf hates her, and...my older "brother" in real life...he's sick and dying. -cries- I don't know what to do~! what can i say to mkae her feel a little better i dont know what to say to mkae her feel better please what cani say

2007-10-31 05:30:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am basically from an upper middle class family. I am average and wheatish guy. I am working in a reputed MNC with a huge pay packet. My father is a reputed government officer and my mom is a doc. Recently they have started looking out a bride for me. I would love to marry a beautiful girl but my parents are interested to get me engaged to a rich girl. Now after a satisfying search done....i have got two kinds of girls the average looking rich girl and the beautiful poor girl. whom should i decide? I am quite confused. Its an arranged marriage so i would love to get advice from you guyz too. trust me i will count on you too...And oh yeh! the beautiful rich havent made in to my list at all..call it fate!!

2007-10-31 05:26:21 · 25 answers · asked by vijayakumar83 1 in Marriage & Divorce

the place im renting has become unsafe for me to live and I need to make a decision by tonight where I will be sleeping....Here is my question....I can either move back home (6 hours car ride away) with no job, no money, no experience to get a job, but all my debts (credit cards....student loans...cell phone bill...car insurance) will be paied off, I will have free rent, and free food. Or I can stay where I am now find a room to rent (which Im a little nervous trusting craigslist but im not sure where else to go), keep my job to gain experience and a foundation, but I would have to get an advance from my work (which they said they would do) but then all of my debt will still be there, and I would still have no money.Other factors that I have been taking into consideration: I am new to the area I live in right now and have few friends where as home I have a hand full, I am 21 years old with an AA degree but I was thinking maybe I should go back to school

2007-10-31 05:25:09 · 17 answers · asked by Renee 3 in Family

about your appearance what would it be......I would choose to be slender, I have always been how should I put this? well there is only one way......I have always been FAT, and I would love to know what it was like to be sexy......but its to late for that, at my age, even if I were thin, I would still be fifty eight, can't turn back the hands of time........I am going shopping now, I will give BEST ANSWER WHEN I GET HOME.....

2007-10-31 05:23:55 · 4 answers · asked by Sweet Judy 7 in Singles & Dating

my friend left me home while she went to a concert that we have been planning for 2 months. I had no ride and she left me. When she was coming back she called me and i told her i was in the hospital with meningitis and that my leg might have to be amputated. SHe totally bought it and i left her hanging for about an hour and a half before i finally told her that i was just joking. SHe said that i was ****** up and that she had told everyone. I just laughed it off, oh well!

2007-10-31 05:20:31 · 13 answers · asked by loni_831 2 in Singles & Dating

so wonderful, aren't they the love of your life, and doesn't it feel wonderful to look in their eyes and see all the love, and doesn't it feel good to have those little arms around your neck? Isn't is such pure love?

2007-10-31 05:18:29 · 12 answers · asked by Sweet Judy 7 in Marriage & Divorce

and scare the kids because my head resembles a jack o lantern he told me i m grotesque looking but he will give me a chance after Halloween if Iplay my cards right... should i wait for his decision?

2007-10-31 05:17:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok so i made a mistake by touching my gf's butt in school. My gf;s bro. found out and then told her parnets. Now they hate me and i can't do anything w/ her. I'm serious. I can't even sit at like a table w/ her w/o her mom staring at me. making sure my hands stay above the table. everything is wrong and messed up. I can't see besides in school or school activities. It sucks ****. I really love my gf and i want to respect her word that i shouldn't talk to her parents. I really feel like i can change them. I'm a good negoitiator. I don't want her to get in trouble or it to get any worse but I just want to have a normal relationship w/ my gf. Now for the questions:
1) should I talk w/ her parents?
2) Do u think this can get better?
3) what should I do to show her parents I've changed? (don't say do stuff to show them bcuz I can't do anything around them?) I'm not very good at writing.
btw we're 16 and in 11th don't say we're too young. This is just unwanted drama. PLZ real answers!!!

2007-10-31 05:15:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok u may of not read my other questions about wanting to dump my bf but havent still yet cause im tryin to think what to say . so i was asking 1 of my friends before english class what to do but i think 1 of his friends was listening cause i heard him say to someone that it was something to do with my bf and then at dinner time they were trying to find me .

what can i do i dont like him any more should i just tell it to him straight or what i think i hate him ?

2007-10-31 05:13:28 · 27 answers · asked by random.princess 4 in Singles & Dating

What can you do about it? Where can you go? Who is held responsible for all or whatever it may be? Is there any length of time penned to this stuff? That is to say, what if it was a few years or many years..what's happened since?

2007-10-31 05:13:16 · 6 answers · asked by upyerjumper 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

I was in a relationship 8 years ago with a man whom I loved dearly.He become controlling and refused to come to therapy with me.I chose to continue my life without him,met a very nice man a year later and we have a child.Things have been good in my life,although honestly I wish we could have worked things out,I cried many times to grieve that relationship.Anyway now my ex is friends with some one in family and he says things like "we shoudl have stayed together""that child should be mine" things like that.I wouldnt give up my life now,it just makes it harder and now I am starting to have some "what if thoughts"I wont act on them but I keep fantasy thoughts to myself.Any time I think about how controlling he was it is easy to get him out of my head,then I see him again and my heart really skips a beat.I have respect for my child and the man I am with now- but it isnt that "intense love" I had for him,more of a mature companionship love.Any ideas anyone?

2007-10-31 05:11:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Hi, I need some advice on this. We got married a few months ago after a year long courtship, much of it long distance. I am wondering how close married couples should be in terms of sharing email passwords and accounts. My belief is that there should be no secrets in a marriage, at least as far as possible, and my husband knows my email passwords (I programmed them into the computer we shared to encourage him to be honest).
He is not so open though.....and I still dont know his, he keeps them secret and is quite clear he doesnt want to share them.
Dont know if this should bother me, I trust him implicitly, and he seems quite devoted to me. Is it just a question of space? Maybe he is just not used to being so competely open, and the idea of being totally transparent scares him...?

Opinions?

2007-10-31 05:08:45 · 27 answers · asked by ls2c 1 in Marriage & Divorce

dnt worry its not me that like m friends bf...mi other freind does

2007-10-31 05:06:22 · 7 answers · asked by ☆ღ{C}La Maravilla☆ღFTP 2 in Singles & Dating

I've been seeing this guy for almost a month now. He is 24 and I met him snowboarding. The first time we ever hooked up, my bra came off and as soon as it does, he grabs my boobs and says "honk-honk.....honk-honk-honk" and it totally killed the moment for me. We have now been seeing eachother for almost a month and he does that everytime. It always kills the mood for me because it makes him look like a little kid who has never seen boobs before. How do I say something without hurting his feelings?

2007-10-31 05:05:43 · 41 answers · asked by **California** 1 in Singles & Dating