Today I accidentally (I swear I wasn't snooping) found some pictures with the filename of "laura" on his computer. The pics were taken (according to the date modified) a year and a half after we started dating. I asked him about her and he got really rude and didn't give me any info. After some investigation, I found her myspace page and saw that she is the girlfriend of one of his friends. He has told me that he was screwing a girl who had a boyfriend when he and I first met. Should I be suspicious that this is the girl and that he might still be seeing her?
2007-10-31 13:36:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's unbelievable how many wives on here feel they need to apologize for looking in your own husbands computer. My husband knows that i look in his computer all the time and if i see something i don't like it's gone and he is welcome to look in my computer as well i have nothing to hide. You know when someone gets defensive about something you just ask them they are up to know good.Anyone who tells you different is either a guy taking up for your husband just because he is a guy or someone to young to know what the hell they are talking about. If i were you i would go and delete everything you don't like and see if he puts it back in if he does then you have your answer.
2007-10-31 14:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he given you any indication over time that he is to be suspect? Is there any reason for you to worry about something that happened when you were dating now that you're married?
Honestly - don't go looking for trouble where none exists.
No - he shouldn't have pics from long ago, but a myspace account can be far more innocent than many people think. It can also be far more adulterous, obviously, but many times is actually innocent.
Again - do not go looking for trouble where none exists.
If you honestly feel he's hiding something, definitely talk with him in a non-confrontational manner ... don't send him on the defensive. He'll defend himself and you'll think he's guilty even if he's not.
If you aren't satisfied with what he tells you, consider counseling as an option. Or seriously consider your other options ... separation, divorce.
Best Wishes!
2007-10-31 21:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would totally be suspicious. Do you have a myspace account? Send her a message...Introduce yourself. By no means would I stand by and let this BS take place in my house. This is your husband now. Take control and make this stop. get to the bottom of it. And if nothing was going on, why did he get so fired up when you asked about the file with her name on it??? Oh girl, I would be on this like white on rice!!!
2007-10-31 20:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by rootbeeriiz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
P, you've chosen someone who was cheating with someone else when you started dating him. Any cheating in the future should not be a surprise.
If you get a chance, you might listen to "Dr. Laura" on am radio - she talks about this type of situation a lot. Good luck, I've been through it.
2007-10-31 20:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by billbahai 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is up to something for sure. Send her a message on her myspace and find out what is up.**edit**. He may just be chatting and looking at her myspace ( and they may just be friendly). But he is being secretive, and thats not good. Did not mean to say that he was having an affair, just that there was something he was not being up front about. Anyway, message her and find out whats up.
2007-11-01 10:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, last week a saw my girlfriend in front of the TV, guess what? there was a movie and at some point there was a guy in the movie. and guess what? my girlfriend keeps look at the movie, so I got mad and I kill her.
Kill you husband !
Follow all the very intelligent advices for you to become the biggest drama queen around. BTW have YOU ever cheat FOR REAL on your husband?
2007-11-01 10:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by bingo bongo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby gave you no explanation (and seemed defensive) which can easily arouse suspicion. He owes you an explanation given the circumstances. If he is innocent what is there to be silent about? If he is or has been seeing her he still shouldnt be silent about it. Trust is a huge ingredient in a healthy relationship and so are honesty, credibility, and respect.
2007-10-31 21:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by kindablue99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your only evidence are these pictures then no, I would not be jealous and not think he is still seeing her. He may just have kept her picture on the computer for old times sake. I think he is more angry that you are snooping through his computer files.
Apologize for accidently finding it and assure him you love and trust him.
Good Luck
2007-10-31 20:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember finding one bit of info when I suspected my husband was cheating. that led to me finding more and more, I was shocked to find out all the things he was doing. I even found out that he was sending money to a lady in california!!!! Investigate some more, I bet you will be surprised at what you find.
2007-10-31 20:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Brown eyed girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moment a guy starts hiding things or getting really defensive, there's a problem or something he isn't telling you.
If there was nothing to hide, there'd be no issue and he'd tell you all about it.
Simple as that. So yes, I think there is something he's hiding.
2007-10-31 20:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋