I am not an affectionate person. I HAVE to have my personal space. I'm not hug-y, and I don't like someone hanging all over me. I'm perfectly satisfied with hand-holding or simply sitting moderately close to him. He, on the other hand, is a very touchy-feel-y person. He complains I'm never affectionate with him, but he wants to cling and constantly be showing PDA. I made him aware of the way I was when we first met. I just feel smothered...and I know his feelings are hurt, but what can we do to find the middle ground?
2007-10-31 13:28:58 · 2 answers · asked by southernsoul05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you've made your feels towards his actions clear, there's nothing else YOU can do. He's just going to have to learn self-control. If that seems unreasonable, you two are gonna have to draw a line between what is okay and what isn't, in terms of him displaying and expressing his affection. You'll have to accept some things and he'll have to contain the rest. Otherwise, maybe this relationship isn't what the two of you want.
2007-10-31 13:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by u1timus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married this guy. I'm a german and like you not touchy feely. I personally don't bug him about it because I realized he puts me up on a pedistle among other women and i prefer to be there also, so the down side to that is the adoration in the form of his hands or lips on me. When I'm passionate its fine, but good grief in his 50's he is verbally retelling our romantic episodes in the car, at my dinner table and watching tv. It is music to his ears, and insanity to me but I learned to block it out and smile.
2007-10-31 20:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋