She said she never wanted me to contact her again then 3 days later she calls me and says she wants to be?

Question

friends. I was going out with this woman for 9 months and then found out she was in a relationship with someone else since before we met. At first she said she wanted to be with me and that she needed time to get things straight in her life. I was giving her time then after 3 weeks she sent me a text that I pushed too hard too fast and it was all her fault and now she was ending it. She said never to contact her again. Then 3 days later she calls and said she fell and hurt her leg and was going to the Dr. She called back the next day to tell me that she had an allergic reaction to the meds and was going back to the Dr and would call later. She called two days later and we talked a little but she was late for a meeting. Finally that night I asked her if she still had feelings for me or just wanted to be friends. She said she wants to be friends. Everytime I try to get together and do something she says she is still in pain and it is not a good time. Does she want to be my frie

Answer 1

Your so-called friend is playing mind games with you.After dating her for 9 months and lying to you about her ongoing romance,she then turns around to blame you and decided to no longer see you. Three days later, and continuing to the present, she can't make up her mind what she wants with you.You are already friends or she would not have been leaning on you with all her recent difficulties. Hence, what kind of friend does she want to be. Also, you are letting her make up your own mind for you. Why can't you simply ask her to continue to be your girlfriend( which is what you appear to want)or to leave you alone.You did indicate she broke up with you because she felt you were pushing too hard----now who is pushing whom? I suggest you first make up your own mind regarding what you want from her, then present her with what ever you have chosen and then ask her to select .This will solve your problem in one stroke.

Answer 2

I made a commitment to myself that the first time i find out that my mate is cheating, there are no more CHANCES. I feel like if a person is into you and like you like they say they like you they will be straight forward from the jump. There is a old saying that says there are more fish in the sea! so if you can find someone who is going to love you for you and not play little childish games. Good Luck!

Answer 3

She is nothing but a user. Get rid of her, she sounds like a lesbian. Don't be one of theses guys that sticks to a relationship that isn't going anywhere. It sounds like you are her puppy dog. She says jump, and you say how high. I am pretty sure you will find someone out there who will put you number 1 before themselves. You deserve a hell of a lot better than you ex and yes I know it is really hard to let go.

Answer 4

be the boss.