Family & Relationships - 17 October 2007

I have been married to my husband for 18 years. He has let me stay home with the kids for most of this time. He is loyal and honest and has a decent job. The one fault he has is he is jealous of other men. He has visited me at the few jobs I have worked at and, unfortunately, he walked in during the times when other men have been close to me. One of those times my coworker was really close. I also made the mistake of telling him about the three other men at another job inviting me to bed with them. I am a very friendly person and, I’ll admit, I like the attention. He does have bad timing when it comes to going to the gym with me too. One of those times he watched a man follow me into the darkened room to talk to me. He also caught me trying to get a hold of my old boyfriend (he caught us having sex two weeks before we got married). I still attract the men and he seems to get more and more jealous. Is he normal????? Or just insecure????

2007-10-17 10:32:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

pleace help!!! i need to know cuz people anre makin fun of us!

2007-10-17 10:31:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

there is this girl i met while working at my old summer job a year and half ago. i never thought we would talk outside of work. We have hunged out, we have gone to parties. we have watched movies alone, she came to my soccer games. she gets upset if we cannot hang out or somethin comes up when if she cannot hang out with me. Last year she came to my formal as my date. she had a lot of fun. she is in college herself. she always takes off of work whenever i come up to visit her, and after work she will hang out with me while im there. she was pissed this summer that we didnt get a chance to hang out a lot like she wanted us to. whenever she is upset or has a problem she would call me. we talk whenever were on aim all the time. we both have recently talked about startin to date. I would like to date her and make her my gf. does she like me? what should i do? what should i say to her?

2007-10-17 10:31:26 · 1 answers · asked by tbg1982 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been dating separated older man for 7mths. They were married for 15yrs & have no kids. He's living in a condo while they're deciding what to do w/ their house, but his stuff & his dogs are still at their house w/ her. In the beginning he told me they both wanted divorce & it had been over for a long time b/t them. He said he doesn't consider himself married but separated pending divorce. I didn't feel guilty at 1st b/c I thought it was a mutual decision b/t them & we fell in love w/ each other. Now he says what is taking so long to file for divorce is that she changed her mind & doesn't want it. I feel so guilty & I've tried to break up w/ him but he says: how can I abandon him now when he's almost divorced, why can't I wait another week or two? I believe he really loves me but I want to wait until his situation is really over & I feel like a horrible person for getting involved. I work w/ him & have to see him a lot & he calls me constantly when I try to break it off & he cries.

2007-10-17 10:30:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my ex girlfriend is convinced i dont care.

We had been together for 3 years and said a few things i regret.

How do i convince her i do care?

2007-10-17 10:29:50 · 3 answers · asked by John 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I broke up with bf of 2 1/2 years a couple weeks ago last friday this guy who i already knew liked me found out we broke up and we started talkin alot by monday he was walking me to all my classes and we'd hug but by tuesday our hugs were turning into us standing as really close with our lips like an inch apart for like a whole minute we never kissed it was more of like a flirty thing on tuesday he asked me "What do you want?" (Kinda like do u want us to be together) and i said i really liked him and i wanted to be more than friends he didn't really tell me what he wanted just said how he was pretty busy with work and stuff and that he was talkin to other girls just bein upfront with me but didn't really tell me what he was feelin and im ok with that cause its not like we're together but today (wednesday) he kinda ignored me and our hugs went back to friendlier kinds of hugs. and he didn't walk to me to my classes he seemed reeaally interested and then it was like nothing what u think?

2007-10-17 10:29:20 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think a boy likes me but how can I know for shure
PS he smilies to me nice,funny so WHAT DOUSE HE LIKE ME

2007-10-17 10:28:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Just wondering as everything I read seems to be from very young people. Am I the only "old timer" on here? I'm 38/M/PA.

2007-10-17 10:27:35 · 25 answers · asked by renume 4 in Singles & Dating

for me... a large turkey sandwich with french fries on the side!

2007-10-17 10:26:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-17 10:24:54 · 3 answers · asked by Mrs.Drew 4 in Singles & Dating

He's 16 and she's 19. She's already in her 2nd year of college and he's in the 10th grade. She's beautiful and has a lot going for herself. It feels akward hanging out with the two of them because he's not even mature. She claims she loves him though. What can I say to her to convince her she deserves better than a school cutting, weed smoking KID???

2007-10-17 10:24:45 · 17 answers · asked by Felicity 3 in Singles & Dating

weve been split up a while, he saaid he dosnt no what he wants. he will not take his things, which i have packed for him, he says he loves me, but.... i have said its ok just say its over but he will not.. i say come back he will not.....im confused

2007-10-17 10:23:29 · 10 answers · asked by lou 3 in Singles & Dating

or a previous addiction

2007-10-17 10:23:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-17 10:22:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have a family problem and i really need ur help, i feel so fustrated that i want to suicide





I love my mothers family more than my fathers....its because my mothers family actually cares about me shows affection...right now my nanu is here and i am getting along very well, my dad seems to be irratated because when some members of his family come to my house ( i live overseas) i hated them for so many reasons....


and now i am missing my nani and insisting her to come as well my dad is angry and when i ask him why he does not say anything.....


i want to tell my dad that please don't be angry you cannot force me to love your family......




tell me why is it that in indian families there is always some kinda of competition that you have to like my fam or that my fam is betta than urs



i hate my daddy's fam, but he is different that is why i love him more than anything..... but i hate his fam...they don't shower, they stink of B.O... etc they liv in UK

2007-10-17 10:21:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

This girl at my school likes the same boy that i'm already dating.She won't leave him alone and i'm getting upset at her.She always get mad when i try to tell her something so how do i get her to stay away from my man?

2007-10-17 10:20:32 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

She works as a hostess at a restaurant I've been to on a couple occasions. Last Wednesday I walked into the restaurant and got a take-out menu from her and looked deeply into her eyes...and I kept staring at her occasionally while I was looking at the menu.

They brought me into a separate small room to finally take my order and while I was in there with another waiter, she walked in and just sort of stood around and didn't say anything...and then she left. What did this mean?

After she left, I asked the waiter if she was available and he said "yes...go for it man".

She seems pretty quiet and very shy...and based on her job at this restaurant, it will be hard to stop her from working and talk to her. I kind of want to talk to one of her co-workers and explain the situation and have them sort of set us up...as they can ease into her...which makes the experience less jolting for us.

What should I do?

2007-10-17 10:18:49 · 5 answers · asked by frostycola 2 in Singles & Dating

I have been married for over 4 years (my 3rd marriage) and my husband has only worked maybe a total of 9 months. For 2 years I totally supported him financially. He has got his settlement and has spent it all on him and what he wants. He is at the bars every night until 8 or 9 and sleeps until noon. I resent getting up every morning and going to work while he lays up in bed, hung over from the night before. I know he has a drinking problem but doesn`t want to stop. He is trying to get on disability because he doesn`t want to work and he is able to work in my opinion.He cusses me and calls me bad names so I leave the house (his house) and just ride around. I have moved in with my parents so many times it`s crazy. My sonss hate him and won`t be around him because of his drinking. I can`t afford a place of my own so I stay. I still love him and keep hoping he will change back to the man I married. He also accuses me of being unfaithful, which I have not but I am very lonely.

2007-10-17 10:18:24 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Before I married my husband I knew that he was an buddhist, but that never concerned since I,m a christian, so now we have been in an apartment for almost 3 years and it has the living room and dining room together, and now he wants to put an altar that has to do with his religion, and I told him no, so now hes like his religion is more important and if I ever move it then we are having an divorce, Im not asking him to choose all I was telling him that we will have 2 get a bigger place for him to have a separate room for that..and now I may be pregnant with our third child and a divorce is looming over us...please can someone give me some advice

2007-10-17 10:17:47 · 12 answers · asked by genesis r 2 in Marriage & Divorce

out to get drunk with boys (CLOSE BOY MATES!) when I say im going to sleep at a friends. I only didnt tell her because I knew she wouldnt let me like she wont let me now!! ..Im 16 and im responsible and its not fair!! Most people my age go out into town clubbing and stuff, this boy even went to a club on tuesday night!! and his parents let him. Im gonna be in my mates house, his parents are in, and im gonna be safe and secure so why wont my mum let me go. Ive told her exactly where im going and stuff this time and shes just making me an outcast from all my mates coz there goin!!

2007-10-17 10:16:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok so ive been living at my in laws for 2 years! I know thats a long time well me and my husband finally got our house! so what i want to know if were going to get more along now that we have our own privacy or are we going to argue all the time? how was it with you when you had your own home alone? also: we get along just fine right now and were making pretty good money for our age i just want to know what to expect when we are living alone for the 1st time ever? thanks:)

2007-10-17 10:16:44 · 15 answers · asked by ♥ OLi♣ 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-17 10:13:21 · 12 answers · asked by Simply Lisa 3 in Singles & Dating

I've been at this job for about a month. This girl I work with slept with our manager and was recently promoted. It wasn't like a big promotion but she makes more than I do. He flirts with a couple of the girls here but most of them ignore him because they think he's a pervert.
I don't really care. I'm pretty sure he's married but he says he's not. I went out with him yesterday just for a couple of minutes to pick up lunch for the rest or the office. He's not that bad looking and sex is just sex right?

2007-10-17 10:12:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok... there is this girl... I liked her since last year! I think she knows I like her, because I looked at her alot in class (little wierld). I am really shy with girls, but can really talk with guys.The last time I went out was in the 6th grade... that doesn't really count.

That was all last year, now I am in 10th grade just like her. We have no classes together and I only see her in the hallways.

I know nothing of her, just her name and that she loves Notre Dame (like me).

Other info:
I am 6'1'' she is like 5'7''.
I am in 160 weight class for wrestling.
Really shy guy, never really talk to girls.
I am asian, she is white.
*** fan of Notre Dame since like ever (my dad graduated from Notre Dame).
I'm pretty build (for wrestling team) and she is very very cute, good personality, and in great shape.

The thing I like the most about her is that she smiles alot, and I love that smile XD!

2007-10-17 10:11:59 · 12 answers · asked by JWKoh 2 in Singles & Dating

a friend of mine told me the other day that I am the sweetest guy she knows, and she means it from the bottom of her heart. does that mean that our friendship for now is sealed or does it mean theres the possibility of more???

2007-10-17 10:11:51 · 20 answers · asked by Cocoa Beware 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-17 10:10:59 · 23 answers · asked by Andjoua J 3 in Singles & Dating

I know siblings argue and occasionally fight, but is this normal?

My girlfriend was visiting her sister and her roommates a few weeks ago. They occasionally play argue, and were calling names and such. My girl was lying on the floor and easily threw a small weighted ball onto the couch at her sister. Her sis threw it back and hit her in the tummy. She threw it back harder at her sister, hititng her this time. Her sis then jumped up and kicked her hard in the stomach. My girl has a very strong belly and you can see her abs, but she said the kick was high just below the ribs and knocked the wind out of her. She wanted to chase after her sis and finish the fight, but she said she could not uncurl from holding her belly for a full minute. An hour later when she left, she could still feel where the heel hit her.

I have fought with siblings, but not to this caliber and with the intention of hurting them. Is it typical for sisters to fight this severly?

2007-10-17 10:09:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My ex girlfriend and I broke up recently. We were living together and when she left my place, she took all the appliances we bought. The fridge, washer and dryer, plasma tv, you name it, all was gone. So I took my car back from her. I took out a restraining order on her and she retaliated by doing the same. However, in her order, she put down that I stole her car and wants it back. I bought the car back in april with a money order that she provided me. She has the receipt of that money order. However, I registered the car and it's on my name. The reason she gave me the MO is because I put the money in her account. She also retained an attorney. Can the judge make me give her the car back even though it's my car in my name? She plans on saying that I stole her title, keys, and car. Meanwhile, I always had the title and the keys. I didn't steal it. Should I get an attorney? Can she sue me for a car as part of a restraining order or does it have to be a separate civil matter?

2007-10-17 10:09:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have a big problem, I have a wife she is very nice lovely and caring,
But she is more than I can say, for sure when
Every end month she demand all my of my salary, when I dare to refuse I receive dozens of slaps, blows, kick……………………..>

I have been living with this kind of problem for the few years that we have lived with her.
Last months I introduce her topic of divorcing her whoop!!!!
You know I head to sleep in my friends House for some few days.

What will I do next?

2007-10-17 10:07:15 · 24 answers · asked by zumakosh 1 in Friends

My husband is 30 and I am 19 I have been able to have four kids graduarte for high school go to work for 8 hiurs come home cook clean and do everythign I do nto let my husbadn do anything he comes sits on his butt I pay rent, bill and car insurance for all three of our vechicle and I am always ready to have sex with him. He still treats me like dirt I do everythinfg that will make him happy and he still calls me a whore an sank and that I am not good enough for him he says I am lazy. when I do everything buy grociers make his lunch in the morning iron his cloths and he still takes to his ex girlfreinds what should I do I need him I love him with all my heart but I am tired.

2007-10-17 10:06:53 · 7 answers · asked by Lost 4 in Marriage & Divorce