I have a big problem, I have a wife she is very nice lovely and caring,
But she is more than I can say, for sure when
Every end month she demand all my of my salary, when I dare to refuse I receive dozens of slaps, blows, kick……………………..>
I have been living with this kind of problem for the few years that we have lived with her.
Last months I introduce her topic of divorcing her whoop!!!!
You know I head to sleep in my friends House for some few days.
What will I do next?
2007-10-17 10:07:15 · 24 answers · asked by zumakosh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dont mention the divorce thing again, go home when she is out spending all your hard earned cash, collect your stuff and go, leave a note saying that you left due to the abuse and way she is making you feel, tell her to give you a call when she wants to talk to you, not slap you.
2007-10-17 10:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have kids together then I would try and work it out . seek counseling or something of the sort . If not... Give her an ultimatum .. Change or Divorce. Sometimes people grow apart... You love the person but you dont love how you feel when you are with them . You can loose that feeling that drew you to her .. and it is hard to get back after you feel you have been abused!maybe a few days are better apart. She can see how it feels without you there. Maybe this will make her see the light especially if that is the last thing you said! she will most likely play the victim and wait for you to come to your senses and beg for forgiveness.. .stand your ground! It has to be 50/50 for it to work! Hope everything turn out OK And I wish you nothing but happiness
2007-10-17 10:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion is to divorce her, your should never let some one take advantage of you, you are a man and think in the bottom of your heart you know what to do, you need to stand up for your self.Also i recommend you get your soon to be Ex-wife some counsel. She may have some problems that she needs to take care of, Divorce is a looooong process but its worth it, in you case!
~good luck~ i hope every thing doesn't go as hard as i seen it :( ........i also hope you dint have any kids BC its going to make them upset, but no kids should be in a house of abuse
2007-10-17 10:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Dimplezz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she demanding you salary? did you spend your salary in the past on yourself and not your family? and now she is forced to take charge because she can't trust you. If that is not the case and she is taking it for her needs and not the families than you must put a stop to all this. Try to arrange for both of you to see a marriage counsellor.
Good Luck
2007-10-17 10:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Chris B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you talked to her about it? More importantly, does she listen and is she willing to resolve the problem?
No person, woman or man deserves to be treated the way you have described -- the healthiest relationships are those in which both people are supportive and respectful of each other -- anything less is questionable...
Sounds like she has serious issues and needs to learn for herself how to survive independently without you before she can even begin to respect you and your relationship together.
2007-10-17 10:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by kirabee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she physically abuses you, then she isn't very nice and she obviously doesn't care about you, so stop making excuses for her.
You don't have to ask her permission for divorce - just go to a lawyer and divorce her. Find your own place to live and keep your money.
2007-10-17 10:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call the police and report domestic violence, get a restraining order, get the divorce sorted out, and find someone who's going to treat you like a real human being.
2007-10-17 10:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lovely or not, divorce her. F.....k a bunch of slapping and hitting. Tell her to get a job if she wants money and to stop taking yours. What a loser.
2007-10-17 10:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the month hand her divorce papers instead. If she hits you call the police.
2007-10-17 10:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by Bug Fuggy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has got to be a joke??
Why would anyone stay in an abusive relationship.
Use your next paycheck for a divorce attorney and restaining order!
2007-10-17 10:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋