How can I break it off w/ my separated boyfriend who is getting divorced?

Question

I've been dating separated older man for 7mths. They were married for 15yrs & have no kids. He's living in a condo while they're deciding what to do w/ their house, but his stuff & his dogs are still at their house w/ her. In the beginning he told me they both wanted divorce & it had been over for a long time b/t them. He said he doesn't consider himself married but separated pending divorce. I didn't feel guilty at 1st b/c I thought it was a mutual decision b/t them & we fell in love w/ each other. Now he says what is taking so long to file for divorce is that she changed her mind & doesn't want it. I feel so guilty & I've tried to break up w/ him but he says: how can I abandon him now when he's almost divorced, why can't I wait another week or two? I believe he really loves me but I want to wait until his situation is really over & I feel like a horrible person for getting involved. I work w/ him & have to see him a lot & he calls me constantly when I try to break it off & he cries.

Answer 1

You probably are not the first person he has "dated" since he has been married and definitely won't be the last. He will say whatever it takes to keep you on the "hook". Eventually you will realize that there is no future with him and will move on. Then he will also move on to the next woman who will fall for his "bait".

If you really are ready to end this "bad" relationship, then you are going to have to get completely away from the entire situation. Find another job where he won't be able to work on your emotions anymore, get a different phone number and if he shows up at your home call the police on him. The longer you let this go on the worst you are going to feel and the harder it will be to get over it.

Answer 2

Well he's being a selfish child, and your being naive. Thats the honest truth, he's "stringin" you along, and your just almost happy as a kiddo in a candy store to oblige, well until your common sense began to act up and now your feeling the true wrongness of this whole thing, theres alot. Everything from him lieing about a divorce, to him going out with someone he works with, this guy is no good, oo and don't call him a "man" MAN have purpose's in their lives, they don't play games like this..... success,his c0ck size and the fact he is avaliable and willing to be with you, doesn't make some one a man. Its principal, which this male is lacking....