i wanna go out this weekend but my mum wont let me because she read my diary and found out that ive been going

Question

out to get drunk with boys (CLOSE BOY MATES!) when I say im going to sleep at a friends. I only didnt tell her because I knew she wouldnt let me like she wont let me now!! ..Im 16 and im responsible and its not fair!! Most people my age go out into town clubbing and stuff, this boy even went to a club on tuesday night!! and his parents let him. Im gonna be in my mates house, his parents are in, and im gonna be safe and secure so why wont my mum let me go. Ive told her exactly where im going and stuff this time and shes just making me an outcast from all my mates coz there goin!!

Answer 1

I think your mum is right honey, sorry ! You have lied to her and now you must show her you can be mature and responsible by doing as she says for now....in the future when you have regained her trust I'm sure she will untie the apron strings a little.

Answer 2

First of all, your mates won't treat you as an "outcast" because you have to miss a few evenings - don't be overdramatic.

Second, you are not "responsible" if you're getting drunk at 16, especially with boys who may or may not someday try to rape/molest you when you're too drunk to say no. And you're not responsible if you have to lie about your actions to your parents and deliberately go against their rules. You've proven to your mom that she can't trust what you've said in the past, so why do you expect her to trust whay you say now?

It was really wrong of your mom to read your diary - that's an invasion of privacy and she owes you an apology. But her mistake doesn't give you the right to disobey her now. You need to rebuild the trust she had in you, and prove it with your actions, not your words.

Accept at least a week's worth of grounding without complaint. Then ask her if you can have friends over at your house, so that she knows what you're doing and where you are. That way you can still hang out with your friends. Or invite her to come with you to your mate's house - she can talk with his parents while you spend time with your mates.
Remember your mother's first concern is with your safety, not the improvement of your social life. So meet her concern first, and then see how you can accomplish yours as well.

Answer 3

You say you're responsible, but if that were true, you're mom could read your diary (which is totally wrong anyway) and not find out anything new. Therefore, you would have been honest to begin with, and I don't think that getting drunk with boys is very responsible. Why don't you grow up a little, and then maybe she'll reconcider. Besides, do you really think that it's cool to get drunk? Cuz it's NOT!!

Answer 4

Getting drunk at 16? Heh....I think your mom has has the right to keep you home! You do not need to be out drinking and doing such obnoxious things as that. I did not drink at 16....I do not drink now (for I am not not of legal age yet) I think you need to get your priorities straight because one weekend not spent with your friends is not going to make you an outcast!

Answer 5

If your mother is religious - forget it. She will never like it. But maybe if you like dark stuff, try for Edgar Allen Poe or H.P. Lovecraft. I doubt she would make a fuss over what is considered classic. Here's another suggestion: try out Ann Rice's new "Jesus" book and make sure she sees it. THen move on to her "Vampire" books - the ones that don't have "Vampire" in the title. You might squeeze by on author association. Frankly, I never had your problem and I feel for you. She's lucky that you are reading. Most people don't anymore. Good luck. PS "Mockingbird" is the best book ever written. Fact. Take it from me - I've read thousands, including all the serious Vampire fiction.

Answer 6

Wow, you sound really upset. I know its hard sometimes; especially when your parents don's seem to get you; but they love you and are looking at the long-term effects. Take a deep breath and see if you can answer these questions. Why do you hang out with them? Why do you drink? What side effects are caused by drinking? Does drinking contribute to any illnesses? Are you willing to accept those costs? Why or Why not? (Rules are a good thing, trust me; your mother is showing her love. You can become wise beyond your years and see that, or you can wait till your older and possibly regretfully acknowledge she really did love you when she said no)

Answer 7

Whats the point of keeping the diary? You just screwed yourself over by writing it in there... for what? Why would you need to go back and read about the stuff that you already lived through. Is your memory that bad?

Have fun stuck at home.

Answer 8

You want to go out and get drunk with boys at 16 of course she won't let you she would be totally irresponsible if she did. You are clearly not yet mature enough to behave in a reasonably sensible fashion

Answer 9

life sucks when your 16 but I'm sure mum means well.
sorry you are going to have to wait till your mum trusts you. perhaps if you had told her that your friends were drinking could you take some 3% vol drink with you she could of kept an eye on what you were drinking,
you have been caught lying that is dangerous i would prefere be told the truth, you have to build up trust.
have you taken your friends home with you for mum to meet them? does she know where they live and thier phone numbers?
good luck

Answer 10

You mother is right, you are not old enough to be drinking, your mates may not be quite so good mates when they realise they can get you drunk and take advantage of you. Every 16 year old thinks they are mature, very few actually are.

You are grounded-deal with it.